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    How to ask out a dedicated Christian woman?

    I've been sort-of talking to this girl at college off and on for about a month. Well the last time we talked (a few days ago), things went fantastic and she gave me her contact information.

    Well she is older than me, probably smarter than me, and probably more virtuous than me. By which I mean that she is a dedicated Christian. I tend to think of myself as a very virtuous person and have very high morals and principles (similar to Christian values).

    My problem is, I have absolutely zero experience when it comes to dating people. I'd like to wait longer and get to know her better, but the semester ends in a few weeks and we may never see each other again, so I also want to ask her out. However, I don't want to be just some standard guy who asks her out to dinner or a movie.

    I want to ask her out in a way that seems appropriate given our shared religious background, however I'm drawing a blank here as to how I can do that. Any advice would be greatly appreciated!

    P.S.
    We don't have any classes together, but we run into each other on campus fairly often. I want to ask her out in real life, not through the internet (we are Facebook friends).

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    This seems like such fertile soil, but everything I want to say is infractable.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Spectral View Post
    This seems like such fertile soil, but everything I want to say is infractable.
    Ditto that
    To declare that a personal, inner experience gives certainty about the workings of the universe is to assign far too much value to one’s subjective sense of conviction.
    I’m not that arrogant.

    The brain, marvelous instrument though it is, isn’t infallible. It can misfire, seize or hallucinate, and it can do so in a way that’s utterly indistinguishable from reality to the person experiencing it.

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    "I know its absurd, but every time I walk towards you, it feels like im being lead to bethlehem."

    You're welcome.

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    Spectral, I'll take the hit for you. For fuck's sake, all of these threads... Just do it. And by "do it" I don't mean that.

    And no, dinner and movie is the worst possible first date. Try coffee and walk around in a park.
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    If anybody is thinking of buying me a gift I would much rather they just donate that money to charity instead.
    chicken kiev

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    'Fancy going out somewhere' 'want to go for a coffee' tis simple really.
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    She goes to church, you need to ask here about that. She may even invite you to go there with her.

    I met my wife at church, as long as you are respectful then it can be a great place to chat and get to know her (as it is a safe place).

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    Quote Originally Posted by belfpala View Post
    And no, dinner and movie is the worst possible first date. Try coffee and walk around in a park.
    The best first date I ever had was an old fashioned ice cream parlor and a strip club. Foreign girl, her idea, wanted to see what it was all about. Well, the ice cream was my idea.

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    I had a friend who dated a hardcore christian girl, he was also christian they got on very well, but it never went past the platonic relationship so he gave up.
    You are lying! I never hit you! YOU ARE TEARING ME APART, LISA!

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    Quote Originally Posted by schwarzkopf View Post
    She goes to church, you need to ask here about that. She may even invite you to go there with her.
    Alternatively, just slam your head into a wall for an hour, and save the gas.

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    Is she catholic? Being christian can mean many things. If shes protestant for example, she can do whatever everyone else can and doesn't even have to go to church on Sundays. Im christian too and come from a religious background but don't expect any special treatment.
    Remember remember the fifth of November
    Gunpowder, treason and plot.
    I see no reason why gunpowder, treason
    Should ever be forgot...

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    "You float my ark."

    "You are so unblemished that I would sacrifice you."

    "Your hair is like a flock of goats descending from Gilead"

    Some more in case the first one doesn't sweep her off her feet.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Spectral View Post
    The best first date I ever had ... Foreign girl, her idea, wanted to see what it was all about. Well, the ice cream was my idea.
    There you go, listen to her.

    Ice Cream and a walk in a park would work too.
    Quote Originally Posted by Gheld View Post
    If anybody is thinking of buying me a gift I would much rather they just donate that money to charity instead.
    chicken kiev

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    Quote Originally Posted by Spectral View Post
    Alternatively, just slam your head into a wall for an hour, and save the gas.
    Patience young padawan... you would be surprised at what a little time can get you

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    Quote Originally Posted by schwarzkopf View Post
    Patience young padawan... you would be surprised at what a little time can get you
    No, I wouldn't. I burned through two years of life dating an Evangelical Christian, and the primary thing it taught me is that hardcore Christians will never, ever simply take "I respect you but don't share your beliefs and never will" for an answer.

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    Invite her to the confessional. No priest.

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    Just ask her out for some coffee. Her giving you her contact info is almost her telling you to ask her out just not in so many words. Go for it! you only have one shot so take it!

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    Wait, why am I giving any advice here. I met my current GF at a bar.
    Quote Originally Posted by Gheld View Post
    If anybody is thinking of buying me a gift I would much rather they just donate that money to charity instead.
    chicken kiev

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    Tell her you have some things you don't understand in the Bible and ask her to help out. May be have a study night.

    ---------- Post added 2012-11-11 at 08:49 AM ----------

    Quote Originally Posted by The EagleOwl Mage View Post
    "You float my ark."
    I love it xD
    Rincewind: Ah! We may, in fact, have reached the root of the problem. However it's a silly problem and so I am suddenly going to stop talking to you.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Swazi Spring View Post
    very high morals and principles (similar to Christian values).
    Can't be that high then.

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