View Poll Results: Is it right?

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    When I was a teenage Jackrabbit, I'd pound until my wiener hurt. Looking back on it, I doubt it was really all that great for either of us.

    Now that I'm at the ripe old age of thirty and have been with my GF for a couple years, she gets 15 minutes maaaaaybe a couple times a week IF she's been a good girl all week lol
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  2. #322
    Quote Originally Posted by Raybourne View Post
    I'm no expert in sex, but maybe you shouldn't be having sex if you're that insecure and anxious.
    Or he should have more sex so he loses his insecurity and anxiousness?

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    You can really take most of what sex experts say with a grain of salt. If you and your partner are both happy, it doesn't really matter how long it takes. For example, when I first got together with my girlfriend, we would have sex for hours at a time. We both skew towards higher sex drives, and it was a new relationship. Not to put too fine a point on it, but various forms of kink can extend the time frame as well. Now, we live together. We're raising a kid. 15-20 minutes is about right. We both end up satisfied at the end. Every once in a while you get a baby sitter and go back to the early days. If you are happy, as a couple, don't read this and think you need to change anything.

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    Around 10 minutes does seem about right, not counting some stuff before that.

    I like going at it multiple times in an hour or two, rather than just one long session personally.

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    Quote Originally Posted by buck008 View Post
    You can really take most of what sex experts say with a grain of salt. If you and your partner are both happy, it doesn't really matter how long it takes. For example, when I first got together with my girlfriend, we would have sex for hours at a time. We both skew towards higher sex drives, and it was a new relationship. Not to put too fine a point on it, but various forms of kink can extend the time frame as well. Now, we live together. We're raising a kid. 15-20 minutes is about right. We both end up satisfied at the end. Every once in a while you get a baby sitter and go back to the early days. If you are happy, as a couple, don't read this and think you need to change anything.
    I think the message of the study is really more to reassure the people who are concerned they don't last long enough, or to dissolve the idea that people in real life need to last as long as porn stars in order for it to be considered "good sex." It's not so much to say that if you're already having a good time you're doing it wrong.
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    So many people misinterpret the study.

    It does not say that good sex lasts for 13 minutes, it says that a majority of people who had good sex had it for 13 minutes.

    It shows that many people do not fuck like pornstars for hours and hours and that your average time of 15 minutes per session is absolutely acceptable.


    Nowhere does it say that "sex is only good if its 13 minutes long".

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    10-15 min is ideal to me unless I'm drunk (actual act not foreplay). Less and shes not gonna be satisfied more and its a chore. Went for 40 min the other day cause I couldn't finish with a condom on, its not as fun as they make it seem in pornos -_-.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Reeve View Post
    I think the message of the study is really more to reassure the people who are concerned they don't last long enough, or to dissolve the idea that people in real life need to last as long as porn stars in order for it to be considered "good sex." It's not so much to say that if you're already having a good time you're doing it wrong.
    Fair enough. Porn stars are helped by the constant breaks, position changes, and awkward positions for good camera angles anyway. I'm always amazed that people think it's reality. I was really trying to say much the same. If you are happy, and she is happy, you don't need a therapist to tell you that you're doing it right. You are. Feel free to experiment and try to spice things up, but no need to feel inadequate.

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    Quote Originally Posted by antelope591 View Post
    10-15 min is ideal to me unless I'm drunk (actual act not foreplay). Less and shes not gonna be satisfied more and its a chore. Went for 40 min the other day cause I couldn't finish with a condom on, its not as fun as they make it seem in pornos -_-.
    It is not funny at all. If it takes too long I start being a bit insecure. I have to think about why it's taking me so long, then I try harder and nothing happens, I get frustrated and at the end I ruin everything for myself.

    That's why I hate one night stands actually.

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    Quote Originally Posted by StayTuned View Post
    It is not funny at all. If it takes too long I start being a bit insecure. I have to think about why it's taking me so long, then I try harder and nothing happens, I get frustrated and at the end I ruin everything for myself.

    That's why I hate one night stands actually.
    That's happened to me before. What guys often don't realize is that if you take to long, the woman often starts to get insecure too. She thinks she's doing something wrong or she's not attractive and that's why you can't finish. So it goes both ways.

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    Quote Originally Posted by StayTuned View Post
    It is not funny at all. If it takes too long I start being a bit insecure. I have to think about why it's taking me so long, then I try harder and nothing happens, I get frustrated and at the end I ruin everything for myself.

    That's why I hate one night stands actually.
    Yeah, one night stands really aren't as fun for me as they're made out to be in TV/Movies.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Reeve View Post
    Yeah, one night stands really aren't as fun for me as they're made out to be in TV/Movies.

    Why would one do that anyways >.>
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    Reading this topic made me a little disapointed in myself... well how stupid i feel atm for being a loser that have put work above everything, have zero social skills and suck at partying! Also i am always seen as a weirdo by most girls untill they get to know me, and the only ones that get to know me is my pals gf's!

    Im the kind a dude that whatever time i make a phone call in the weekends i always happen to interupt some of my friends sex time, doh!
    Soon 27 and single, think i gona give E dates a 12th try...
    I'm a stranger, I'm a changer.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Reeve View Post
    Yeah, one night stands really aren't as fun for me as they're made out to be in TV/Movies.
    It's a meh feeling afterwards. No one-night stand can be compared to what I had while being in a relationship. It's a whole nother level.


    That's happened to me before. What guys often don't realize is that if you take to long, the woman often starts to get insecure too. She thinks she's doing something wrong or she's not attractive and that's why you can't finish. So it goes both ways.
    Absolutely. It's very hard to convince her that she's okay and that she didn't do anything wrong. Truly a pain in the ass

    well how stupid i feel atm for being a loser that have put work above everything
    I feel you. Work is currently killing everything for me. God am I going to be happy when I finally return to my studies. As for your social skills... that's something everyone can work on. I managed it, you can too. If you have questions, feel free to pm me. I used to be a social dropout once.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Aeluron View Post
    Why would one do that anyways >.>
    Biological drive, self-esteem, challenge, any number of reasons. When I was in Peru, in Iquitos, I had an evening to myself, and I decided to go out and see if I could pick up a girl just to see if I could. I ended up picking up two, but it was a horrible night. Still, it helped my ego in the end to know that I could do that if I really wanted to. It also meant I felt much less need to try to do something like that in the future.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Clockworks View Post
    Reading this topic made me a little disapointed in myself... well how stupid i feel atm for being a loser that have put work above everything, have zero social skills and suck at partying! Also i am always seen as a weirdo by most girls untill they get to know me, and the only ones that get to know me is my pals gf's!

    Im the kind a dude that whatever time i make a phone call in the weekends i always happen to interupt some of my friends sex time, doh!
    Soon 27 and single, think i gona give E dates a 12th try...
    OKCupid is a good service, and free.

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    Quote Originally Posted by StayTuned View Post
    It's a meh feeling afterwards. No one-night stand can be compared to what I had while being in a relationship. It's a whole nother level.




    Absolutely. It's very hard to convince her that she's okay and that she didn't do anything wrong. Truly a pain in the ass
    Yeah, I hate this. The woman is feeling insecure about my inability to perform, so while I'm feeling insecure about my abilities, I have to reassure her that she's beautiful and attractive and skilled. Ugh.
    Well 1, 2, 3, take my hand and come with me
    Because you look so fine
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    Quote Originally Posted by Aeluron View Post
    Why would one do that anyways >.>
    It can be fun, actually. I've only ever done so once, so I don't really speak from a volume of experience. It's definitely different than being with someone that you are in a relationship with. Many people find that they can be more uninhibited.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Reeve View Post

    Yeah, I hate this. The woman is feeling insecure about my inability to perform, so while I'm feeling insecure about my abilities, I have to reassure her that she's beautiful and attractive and skilled. Ugh.
    Can women actually be insecure about their abilities in bed? Unless a women is totally a cold fish, it is usually enjoyable for men. Well at lest it is for me...

    A few believable moans of pleasure, some moving around, and a couple of words of encouragement / dirty talk is all it takes for me.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Purlina View Post
    Can women actually be insecure about their abilities in bed? Unless a women is totally a cold fish, it is usually is enjoyable for men. Well at lest it is for me...
    Most women are insecure about this stuff, actually. The majority.
    Well 1, 2, 3, take my hand and come with me
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    Quote Originally Posted by Purlina View Post
    Can women actually be insecure about their abilities in bed?
    Probably more about appearance than abilities.
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    Hey, as a transabled, transethnic, non-binary, genderqueer, neo-communist, indoor-capable republican otherkin I am offended by your callous display of ignorance.
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    Both of those links don't provide any evidence. They make unsubstantiated statements

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    Quote Originally Posted by Rukentuts View Post
    Probably more about appearance than abilities.
    Appearance is a large part of it. Some women think they aren't doing enough. Or that they aren't... up to par, I guess, down below.

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