That can be because "average to ugly men" aren't really average or ugly, and it's just women who pretend that anything less than brad pitt is "ugly". Or because the internet is a far different game than real life. In such sites, you are supposed to meet people anyway, so that's why people message each other. How many women you know make the first step in real life? Not many, I'd guess. And on those sites, it might be for shady reasons...maybe they think an "average to ugly" guy is easier to keep and they have a bigger chance of such guys giving them stuff. Just maybe. And you see, I know girls who are far from supermodels who get hit on by random guys on the street. It just doesn't happen to "average to ugly" guys. No chance.