At 23, the thought of dating anyone under 21 is not ideal to me.
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You can't put a number on relationships. There is no math. There is no formula.
Whether she is 17 or 18, if you find her interesting enough and attractive, then there's nothing holding you back from pursuing the chance at a relationship with her; nothing, but the taboos of our society.
It's better to have grown and shaved than never to have grown at all.