I see stuff like this pop up all the time. So...why not, I say. I'll give it a go. I've got an issue with a friend of mine.
This internet friend of mine (who, yes, is a woman) very recently left our guild after being a part of my healing team for two years plus (I am the healing CL here...or rather was, the guild is now since dead). I was perfectly happy and things were stable until she left, then complete chaos erupted. I don't deal well with chaos (for many reasons from my past, of which are not entirely relevant to this particular discussion). I became very attached to that stability and, as such, having it removed really took me for a turn for the worse. I think my obsession with that stability got misdirected more towards her, as I just wnated to raid with her again because it actually made raiding something enjoyable and not just something to do three nights a week.
Now, before anyone says it, no. I'm not in love with her or anything. We are just friends and that is all I ever would want to be. Besides which, she is married to a very great guy and has two children. I'm not a person who really contemplates trying to wreck homes or anything.
Anyway, back to my point, I just felt the need (or desire, I'm not sure which really transpired) to show her what her presence meant for me. When asked on her new guild's application "What makes you enjoy raiding", I told the truth. When I started playing this game, I started to raid with my friends. As I left them behind, I raided for myself. Now that I have new friends, I raid for both...and really most of that can be contributed to one person (being her, of course). She helped me to really open up again, something I have not done with other people in a very long time.
Well, her husband saw what I said and did not approve. Though I thought I was careful in my word selection, maybe I wasn't careful enough with how I was expressing myself and he has the notion that I am obsessed with her directly (which isn't really the case, it's more what she represents to me). He's mad really at both of us. I want to smooth out this situation, but I'm not sure how to go about it. I have not asked her what she thinks I can do to help, though I likely will at some point.
Anyway, that's my story. Advice team, commence...um, dispensing advice?