Would you pursue a Porn actress that double dips as a normal co-worker ?

[Ryngo Blackratchet]

I was always under the impression that "Dont date a coworker" only applied to those shitty situations where people were faking sick or lying about relative deaths to get a day off or just generally caught up in a McJob where everyone was always angry and never wanted to be there.

I've never seen any of this in the context of a higher tier, more career based environment. I don't get it. If you love your job, you show up on time, do what needs to be done and actually see something fruitful blossoming from the woman in question, what's the problem? Yeah if you jump in bed with the first chick who bat their eyes at you there's going to be drama that you don't want to bring to work, but I assume we're talking about mature adults here, yes? The OP doesn't strike me as someone who'd have a big problem with that.

[nailbomb]

If a woman shares a deep emotional connection with me I wouldn't really care what she did in the past.

the past is different than the present..hard to have a deep emotional connection when shes getting paid to fuck other guys while you sit at at home playing nintendo

[overcaffeinated]

dating chicks at work can lead to problems, regardless of what the rose-colored-glasses people who met the love of their life at work tell you. arguments at home can lead to problems in the workplace, claims of favoritism if one is further up the foodchain, amongst a host of other issues that could make your life difficult (if not result in one of you losing your job).

and then we come to the pics of this chick... if that's what you're into, have at it... i personally wouldn't pursue her. and if you believe what her profile on a porn site says, then maybe you deserve her... porn sites know ppl like you visit them and write the girls profiles to address their target market. long and short of it is: would i hit it, yes... would i date it, no.

[necromus]

It depends how much you value your job, if you don't mind the possibility of losing your job over it if your employer finds out then go for it. Another thing is that if you guys do hook up and have a relationship and break up and you still work together it could become awkward, but if you two are both mature adults you might be able to handle that, or if your not then you shouldn't hook up. Also, with here being in porn, that complicates things even further, are you even comfortable with her working in the porn industry and probably sleeping with other guys while making porn while you are dating her? Yeah, the more I think about it, the more I'd probably pass on that girl if it was me...

P.S.: I have an uncle who has married two of his secretaries and had kids with one of them although they are now divorced, so it's not always bad. He was fired over it both times though. I also dated a coworker once but I was fired due to an unrelated issue the day before we actually hooked up anyway so I didn't have to deal with the consequences of asking her out.

[shadowboxer123]

ugh....come on man. post a picture of yourself or don't say something like that.

So he has to post a picture of himself if he doesn't consider her attractive?

Oookay....

[kuku2]

There's one thing you need to keep in mind when dealing with porn stars: The majority of them have herpes.

Single and sure that she doesn't have herpes? Go for it. That picture of her isn't very good, but it looks like she has a great body and that her face would be alright if she wasn't posing it like that. I wouldn't turn it down, assuming the previously mentioned conditions.

[taurenburger]

No. Dating a co-worker is bad and I'm not that into porn actresses either (dating wise ofcourse). And, imo, that girl isn't that attractive.

[Verbatim]

The "porn actress" bit is the deal breaker for me. You may feel different than I do OP, but personally I wouldn't ever be at peace with the fact that my GF made a living off of banging other dudes in front of a camera.

[overcaffeinated]

lol at moderator editing out the girls name from my post

google reverse image search should be well known enough that it doesnt really matter

[poser765]

....shes in "porn"!! I see no need to post a picture of myself to say shes to ugly to fuck, let alone get paid for it. If it was just a NORMAL Co-worker, thats different and I WOULD bang her. Seeing as shes in porn, no way . You better be drop dead gorgeous if your'e taking other dicks on the side.

and trust me, i watch A LOT of porn

You must not watch as much porn as you think you do. That or you just haven't made it past the Lexi belle and Jenna Haze type of actress. There is in fact a HUGE market for average or normal looking girls in porn. there are tons of less than "hot" women out there that are making a killing by simply being regular women.

[Lenonis]

I work with this girl

me and her ex boyfriend are friends.

I have a more threatening demeanor about me

(yes I kind of put off a stalker vibe) which she apparently noticed and enjoyed.

she has been working in the porn industry

This is a recipe for disaster. Not only is she a co-worker and in the porn industry, but you are friends with her ex and seem to have some issues of your own. (You almost seem proud to give off a stalker vibe?? and she LIKES it?!?)

This will go one of two ways -- spectacularly horribly and you will have to deal with the ramification in the workplace (and any STDs she gives you) or the mutual craziness will merge together successful and you'll have a wonderful, albeit not terribly traditional, relationship.

[Bigbamboozal]

Guy rule 1: Do not bang a co worker. Trust me it causes alot of drama

DINGDINGDING! Winner.

Also...porn stars are a lot like theatre popcorn, exciting, hot, salty and greasy, and usually left on the floor of the theatre afterwards to be swept up and thrown in the garbage. Hey, if you want to get emotionally tangled with a person who veiws sexuality as a way to generate money and not as something special between you and them....well, that is just what you will get.
And maybe aids.

[smrund]

I don't care if people make money by showing off their bodies or whatever. But generally dating coworkers doesn't work out well.

[Holyshnikies]

( swoops in to rescue you )

Stahp. Sir. I believe your are thinking with the wrong head. Shes in porn man... Not saying its a sin or anything like that. But its more about morals and ethics. Any woman with standards, good morals and a head on her shoulders wouldnt dare do porn... let alone be a village bicycle. If its a relationship you want and to have kids with a good woman, you need to look somewhere else. If you're just looking for a quick parking space for some sperm, well, there you go.

I hope I saved you and just remember, you may be thinking with the wrong head.

[Lenonis]

I don't understand the problem.

You don't understand the problem because your office affair worked out. Imagine if you two still work together and she suddenly broke off the engagement and dumped you. Surely you can see how awful that would make everything, no?

The problem with office romance isn't when it works out....

[Zeverin]

I'm going to answer with every point that has been presented here, because I agree with them:
She's a co-worker, and she is a porn star. Those 2 are enough reasons for me to reject her.
Plus, on a personal opinion, she is not very attractive. Not worth the hassle.

[Bigbamboozal]

I was always under the impression that "Dont date a coworker" only applied to those shitty situations where people were faking sick or lying about relative deaths to get a day off or just generally caught up in a McJob where everyone was always angry and never wanted to be there.

I've never seen any of this in the context of a higher tier, more career based environment. I don't get it. If you love your job, you show up on time, do what needs to be done and actually see something fruitful blossoming from the woman in question, what's the problem? Yeah if you jump in bed with the first chick who bat their eyes at you there's going to be drama that you don't want to bring to work, but I assume we're talking about mature adults here, yes? The OP doesn't strike me as someone who'd have a big problem with that.

I get what you are saying, it's possibly sure....yet at the same time....You assume we are all adults here, which I AM yup, adult enough to know the maturity doesn't flow fast and hard around here, especially with the adults. It's a video game forum.

[Whidbey]

You asked for our opinion on pursuing someone in porn. BTW people there are much better pics of this gal, google her.
My answer would honestly be (just based on her side career) No. I have had the opportunity twice to go to bed with a porn actress and honestly I passed.
I guess one of the things you should ask yourself is , "Do I want to go into a bar with this girl and have some guy who spanks his monkey to my date, come over and tell her that, or try to pick her up even though she is with me?" that's the first question. Now my main reasons are these based on my own self and opinions, plain and simple ...
1: Is she staying in the business while we are seeing each other? That is a big don't go there. Who knows what she is bringing back to our bed.
2: The porn business has a lot of negatives attached to it, including drug and sexual abuse, connections to some very bad folks( some companies) and frankly who needs that kind of drama.
I dated (unbeknownst to me) a hooker once.. it was weird having a guy friend I know tell me, after we broke things off, that we were both seeing her at the same time, but he was a customer. Neither of us knew this and to make matters worse she and i had a lesbian relationship.....eeeewww

Add now that you are co-workers.. not worth going there, maybe friends but only friends.. yes I have friends who are sex workers.. on and off camera. But I'd never go there.

[Kittahsmash]

The saying "don't dip your pen in company ink" is there for a reason. If she wasn't a co-worker or someone who works in the same building as you, I'd say go ahead and pursue! Since she is.. it's up to you, but there's almost ALWAYS some sort of drama that happens when you date coworkers.

[Girouette]

The OP 'Skrump' - Not to be rude, but I really REALLY wouldn't have asked this on an internet forum, or posted a pic. taste is relative, but you just leave yourself wide open to the Trolls under the bridge.

In answer to your question, I personally wouldn't date a Porn Star, & I get a bit funny with the idea of dating a co-worker but it depends; how often do you work together & see each other? if, like the post alludes to, its all the time then it could get awkward if things go pear-shaped. I'd tread carefully, & weigh up the pros & cons my friend.