Did you miss the part about a female owning her own body? Did you miss the female rights movement? The fact that females can now vote? We dont own slaves anymore, either, if you missed that.
Giving consent to a sexual encounter is giving consent to a sexual encounter. It is not signing up for the pain, agony, life changing issues, stretchmarks and possible death associated with carrying a fetus to term. A woman has "sole direction" because it is HER body that the fetus stays in. It is her body that goes through the changes, and the smallest rights and privileges of the woman trumps the highest rights of the fetus.
Carry your own spawn, get a surrogate, or adopt.