Ignorance of social systems available to those in need is actually a pretty serious problem in the US.So why didn't she take advantage of those programs? Again, maybe this arrangement is the best she has.
Not really. Both the prostitute and the girl has the option to do other work to pay for their living, but they both chose to sell their body because they considered it to be their best option.
The only way this would be different would be if choosing to pay rent in full or renting someplace else would lead to a very negative reaction from the landlord. For example if he threatened to kick her out anyway.
For example in the workplace, if the boss says to a subordinate that he'll increase her pay by $1000 if she has sex with him, the coercion isn't automatically there. It's only the threat of retaliation when you refuse that makes it coercion (getting fired or not promoted for bullshit reasons). The landlord doesn't seem to be having any scheme like this going.
She didn't take advantage of these situations because its hypothetical. I'll bite though. Not everyone knows of all the agencies that help. Hell I do social work in an inner city and I don't even know of all of the little programs that are run by the several dozen churches in the area or different funded NPOs -OR- its that time of the year when the funding is tapped and they have helped all they could until the next fiscal year and all they can say is "sorry".
I can say that I have seen situations like this from slumlords in the bad areas of town where people can't do better. Its coercion at its worst.
Real people like this get shut down and hard when they go above radar - the problem is there is so many people who are users of people and it takes time to get them all.
are you a complete retard or something what your scumbag brother is doing is practically no better then looking someone in a basement and raping. if i had brother and i found out he did this i would beat the living shit out of him. If you were a decent guy you would have made it clear for your brother that this exploit ends now and if he thinks about throwing them out or touch that girl ever again you would make hes life a living fucking hell infact if you live in sweden i want his adress so i can go bash some sense into your scum of a brother.
Infracted: Please keep your posts civil.
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I can't see this thread staying productive much longer. Too many strong, vocal (and all mostly valid) opinions in the same thread, and its escalating.
Yes and when you learn to live in the real world I'm sure you will have this approach. Let me guess, 21 male? 18 is young. Adult by law not choice. She also has a choice to live on the streets and not provide for her sibling. Ever heard of the lesser of 2 evils? She chooses to support her 11 year old brother? Yeah maybe she should force him into prostitution to pay the internet bill.
She *chose* sex over lower rent yes but maybe only in order to put her self or sibling through college. I assume this is ok to the likes of you? I won't debate this as 99% of the human race will agree with me It's wrong. If you want to argue otherwise then you are no better than the guy doing it.
Bullshit,the landlord didn't threaten to kick her out,she made her own choice.End of the story.
Or by this logic are all bums ''coerced'' into robbing grocery stores because they're hungry and living in a hard situation while the grocery stores are flashing their goods?
Are those grocery stores pure evil because they expect bums to pay money for the goods they buy?
Same story,being poor doesn't cleanse you of individual responsibility...being poor is no excuse to point fingers at other people for your own decisions.
I am actually a bit older than that. College educated, which I paid for myself. I also didn't go right into College after high school. I had to work, save, and go to school while I worked.
I understand the real world
It has been said plenty of times, she doesn't have to live with this guy or with this situation. An option was given to her and she chose to accept it. Whatever reason she did is hers and hers alone. She could have said no, and continued to pay the same amount or rent she was paying before. She could have moved to a cheaper place. She could have delayed going to school if she couldn't afford to do both. She could have chosen to not be financially responsible for her younger brother. Everything about this situation is choice. If she doesn't want to have sex with this guy for reduced rent, she can stop.
Deal with it.
There's nothing morally wrong about it...as long as she isn't threatened of eviction if she refuses.
His offer doesn't change ANYTHING about her current situation,she could have ignored it and lived on normally.
Yet she chose to accept the offer,the one making an action here is her.If anything ,the deal is obviously helping her.
I have a feeling now that the OP is just making it up, it's almost like a very sad movie... Her parents dead, she takes care of her younger brother, struggles financially, sleeps with disgusting guy to make a living... If this is real, do something about it OP....
Didn't read every thread only a couple pages ... but a couple things...
a) Prostitution is legal in canada, solicitation is not, so she can sell herself for a rent reduction and he's in the clear.
b) She could pay the full rent, he made an offer, she accepted that offer... she could of said no.
c) Canada is very socialist, if she's taking care of a minor there is all kinds of things she could apply for to get help paying.
d) he's still scum for even making the offer in the first place instead of maybe... being compassionate and just helping her out.
Apparently if a guy wants to have sex he is considered disgusting
It's legal in Canada. I know this because this is the internet. OP's story is completely true, also.
Chicken fried rice is delicious!
Well if the guy's never had a girlfriend I guess I can see why he's taking advantage of the situation... I am NOT saying that this is in any way acceptable, but I wouldn't go out and say that this guy is a horrible human being. I'm sure he knows what he's doing is wrong, he's probably just desperate and doesn't care after so long.
With that being said, it's still not right. Especially when the girl is trying to care for her sibling, if he's not having financial problems he should just flat-out let her stay with them (since they have room) - There shouldn't be a fee tbh, she lost her parents and believe me, at that age, it's not a nice experience; Especially if you lose both of them at once. Just talk to him, he's had his 'fun' now tell him to be a man and stop with the shit.