Last edited by muto; 2012-12-29 at 12:14 AM.
Pansexual means little more than attraction to any male or female, even if their sex now is different than the sex they were born with. I think it's a fine term actually. For instance I really can't imagine myself with FtM (though holy shit I have seen some cute/hot FtM who have thrown me for a loop) just saying...
How could it possibly not be cheating? Drop her.
And I looked, and behold a pale horse: and his name that sat on him was Death, and Hell followed with him.
Personly, If my GF kissed another girl or boy id see it as cheating. (Unless its family..) a kiss lower then 2secs? xD its ok :P most kisses dont last 2secs ;> anyway. to me its cheating and i dont know if i could personly forgive someone for it. As it would make me paranoid who elses she kisses and stuff.
Well, if you wanted to go wasted, this kind of shit can happen. Deal with it. And yes, this is cheating.
If you get to make out with her too then it is OK.
Cheating or not, if she is doing this and you ask her to stop, then just move on because she obviously is not on the same page and never will be.
If you have to come here to ask, you probably already know the answer to your own question.
If she's not okay with you doing the same thing she just did, it's time to end it. Being "Pansexual" isn't an excuse for her to dictate a relationship that is open on her end alone.
if she and her friend are below 7/10 then they shouldn't be making out and you need to put a stop to that. if they're 7/10 or hotter then you should encourage it and possibly even film it.
Yes it's cheating. Because it bothers you and you're in the relationship. Every relationship is different because of the personalities of the people in it. For you the line was crossed so she needs to respect that line. I'd personally be pissed then get over it. If she didn't know the line she does now. Mistakes can happen when you have different boundaries but now she knows your limits. A second mistake and you should probably find a new girl.
If you have a problem with it than yes.
We had a talk the next day, she's extremely sorry for doing that to me, but still doesn't consider it cheating.
I think that's what's pissing me off the most, simply because she told me if roles reversed, it would be.
We are still together, I mean I love her, she loves me, that's one hell of a smack to the face but as some people pointed out it's not a deal breaker, in fact I'm glad it was her friend and not someone else, of which she told me WOULD be cheating.
The thing that gets me is she also has straight guy friends, so does this apply to them too? She never gave me an answer, although I didn't really ask that directly, but she said it would never happen again. The best friend and I have been talking and she feel terrible about it, we talked about my girlfriend, apparently even she thinks she is too unpredictable. Although, I bring up the slightest notion of having second thoughts, she jumps in a nanosecond to say she loves me more than anything.
Also, the other point that worries me is now do I have to worry about what she's doing if she's drinking somewhere else without me? I shouldn't have to worry about that, especially if she is telling the truth about her feelings.
Do you feel cheated on?
Everyone has different definitions and situations that will cause them to feel that way. If you do feel cheated on then you should talk to her about what happened but not make a huge deal about it.
BTW, if it is so innocent according to her & not an issue you should bring up for debate or be hurt by, why doesn't she do it right in front of you, but waits 'til you aren't in the immediate area?
I'll sign off with my usual relationship sign-off ~
Always remember this~ it is the list I live by ~ it'll help you too! <3
1.) Never date anyone you wouldn't have as a best friend.
2.) Tolerated behavior doesn't change.
3.) We teach people how to treat us.
4.) We get what we settle for.
What? Of course it's cheating. If she wouldn't let you do it, why should she be allowed to do it?
Dump her. It'll never last, she'll never be faithful to you. The fact that she is actually trying to justify it while saying you can't do it is absolutely disgusting. Only stay with her if you like being betrayed over and over again. The fact that she's okay with it means it WILL happen again and again.