Thread: Is it Cheating?

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    Quote Originally Posted by RICH1471 View Post
    Thats bollocks, unless she passed out completely then she was still in control enough to say no. People use getting drunk too often as an excuse to get away with shit they wanted to do while sober.
    Like I told that guy. She was coherent enough to say he can't do that.

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    Ask yourself the question instead, do you think it is cheating? If the answer is yes, there you go. If the answer is no, there you go. Based on taking the time to make this, you think it is cheating but want to either be reaffirmed of it or want to be talked out of being mad at her.

    More importantly than a kiss, someone was probably driving drunk. Stop that shit, zero tolerance for drunk drivers.

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    It's cheating, they're sharing an intimate moment that lasted 1 minute as you described. If my girlfriend kissed another girl and it lasted a minute, I would consider it cheating and give her the cold shoulder, letting her know that it's not okay to kiss other people like that when you're with someone. When drunk I still have control over my actions and so do many others in this world, so I don't see why she can't do the same it happened entirely on her own will. If she doesn't consider it cheating but then plays double standard saying you can't do it to another person, then obviously she thinks it's cheating, just not when she's doing it which is pretty immature.

    And the fact she did it while you guys were all hanging out together, just shows you how much care she has for your feelings and the relationship, you went away for 3 minutes and she couldn't keep her mouth to herself, that's silly.
    Last edited by NatePsychotic; 2012-12-28 at 06:51 AM.

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    If you consider it cheating then it is cheating. Sounds like you need to have a talk with her about what is 'cheating' and what isn't since she doesn't consider it cheating. Communicate that you cant handle her making out with anyone else and go from there. If that isn't acceptable to her then what are the two of you doing together?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Stormtrooperz View Post
    Lol no, long story short all of our places to drink were out of order, but dammit we wanted to get drunk so that wasn't going to stop us, and it was freezing outside.

    Also, she DOESN'T consider it cheating because it was her best friend. I was not okay with that response, to me it doesn't matter.
    dude, alarm bells are going off...honestly she's probably made out with her best friends many times behind your back.
    Dump her - she couldn't even think of a decent excuse.

    Make out with ur sister and tell her it's not cheating; what's the difference.

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    Can see her answer now, it was the alcohol
    You are lying! I never hit you! YOU ARE TEARING ME APART, LISA!

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    Definitely cheating. Personally I don't deal with that bullshit, one strike and you're out with me. But then again, I prefer to be single. ;p I've never had a girl cheat on me, but I've ended relationships over less serious things than cheating lol.

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    if shes pansexual is she attracted to bread, or cookware?

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    Short answer: Yes.
    Long answer: Of course it is.
    Also...what the hell is the difference between a "pansexual" and a bisexual...
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    Don't think kissing a best friend is that big of a deal.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Rickmagnus View Post
    Short answer: Yes.
    Long answer: Of course it is.
    Also...what the hell is the difference between a "pansexual" and a bisexual...
    Difference between Pansexual and Bisexual is that a Pansexual finds gender irrelevant, whereas a Bisexual is attracted to *two* genders and they identify both, but in this case Pansexuals don't care for genders, they don't identify a person as a male or female. It seems silly but eh, to each their own.

    That's my take ofcourse but I could be wrong.
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    I'd consider it cheating. Pretty sure with that response I would dump my gf.

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    Quote Originally Posted by RICH1471 View Post
    Yes it is cheating, give her a little shit for it, make her feel guilty for a while then forgive her. It's only kissing, but make sure she knows you wont accept it a second time.
    This, but kissing for a minute? While it was right there with you so close, you need to also remember she was likely inebriated... So, OP, I suggest going light on her, I doubt she was thinking properly.
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    Umm... it's cheating if you consider it cheating. Talk with her and express your concerns. Go from there.

    Personally I subscribe to the case by case girlfriend theory.

    On a scale of 1-10
    -How much do I like her?
    -How awesome is she?

    If scale 1 rates between a 1 and 4, then I dump her then and there.
    If scale 1 rates between 5 and 9, then see scale 2.
    If scale 1 rates at 10, there's going to be one hell of a long talk.

    If scale 2 rates between 1 and 4, dump
    If scale 2 rates between 5 and 8, ask to join
    If scale 2 rates above an 8, ask if she wants to make that a regular thing.

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    If it crosses a boundary in your relationship and hurts you than yes, it's cheating. In some relationships, people don't mind or even like this behavior, but if this not okay in YOUR relationship, than I would have a serious, sober, talk with her about it and go from there.

    Just as an aside, my husband has told me making out with other women is cheating to him, because it's an intimate act that should only be shared between the two of us. I completely agree and will never do so with another woman (and, of course, other men) despite the fact I'm bisexual. When you enter into a monogamous relationship, your sexual orientation is no excuse for that behavior if it's crossing a previously set boundary.

    Also, good for you about not wanting to hear about the "two girls kissing is hawt thing", there's not enough men with this mentality.
    Last edited by Jazara; 2012-12-28 at 09:15 AM.

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    you better start looking for another girl , this will happen again a specially when your friends have seen how you react.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jazara View Post
    Also, good for you about not wanting to hear about the "two girls kissing is hawt thing", there's not enough men with this mentality.
    Well... stop being so hawt <3

    I think it might be a combination of instinct and media. We're hardwired to want to find the proper mate for our DNA (often times the most attractive), and our media throws the idea that only attractive women ever kiss each other at us, so we get a distinctly attractive image in our head when we think of it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by drukai View Post
    Well... stop being so hawt <3

    I think it might be a combination of instinct and media. We're hardwired to want to find the proper mate for our DNA (often times the most attractive), and our media throws the idea that only attractive women ever kiss each other at us, so we get a distinctly attractive image in our head when we think of it.
    Yea, I agree with that. Also, if you look up lesbian porn, almost all of it are insanely sexy women, which is of course what instantly pops into people's heads when the topic of women kissing is mentioned. I get it, it is hot, but listening to how some men carry on about it is really annoying.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jazara View Post
    Yea, I agree with that. Also, if you look up lesbian porn, almost all of it are insanely sexy women, which is of course what instantly pops into people's heads when the topic of women kissing is mentioned. I get it, it is hot, but listening to how some men carry on about it is really annoying.
    Couldn't agree more with this, lesbian acts are a nice sight but in a thread like this? Highly immature.

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