Ok, I don't want to make this into a hate thread, or have negative backlash, because I know this doesn't apply to all and isn't meant as a generalization.
However, I think there are many who already know this.
To start with, I want to draw this thread based on statistic from a persons sexuality from around the world.
There are roughly 7 billion people around the world.
3,442,850,573 are estimated as male, 3,386,509,865. So given by the by the ratio seems to balance near even.
Now of that, most societies seem to agree that around 5%-8% of that are gay, lesbian and bisexual, so within those statistics roughly around 3'500'00000 give or take.
The reason why I want to discuss this more is why, given the numbers and near even, that of all the gender and sexual based ratios, that straight men appear to be, in most societies, more insecure about just about anything then women are.
I use examples.
- Straight guy feels insecure about the size of his dong, and glancing at another man's in a shower by chance makes him feel even worse.
- Straight guy can't hang in a gay bar for fear of being hit on by another man
- Straight guy has to feel intimidating to other men around him to feel alpha (although gay men might too)
- Straight women don't tend to look at other womans boobs and feel jealous of there size
- Straight women are more likely to handle if another woman comes onto them and even hang in lesbian bars (I've had girl friends say they do to avoid being hit on my men)
- Straight woman don't create an alpha female thing around them to feel like leader of the pack, they don't need to vaunt aggression to be in control.
just to add:
- Gay guy would look at the other guys dong if he likes it
- Gay guy is more likely to hang in either gay or straight bar and adapt to either
- Gay guy might be an alpha male in his own right, but doesn't need to resort to aggression to impose it.
- Lesbian woman might look at the other woman but I've never heard reports of them feeling insecure of there look, and maybe even get the hots for it
- Lesbian woman much like gay man adapts to there situations in either bar setting, since straight men coming onto them will likely not bother them as much as gay man to a straight man.
- Lesbian woman much like straight woman or gay man doesn't need to force there alpha in an aggressive way.
In most situations if someone is able to observe common practices, you can witness how well a woman can handle a situation in a relaxed manner, a man will more likely react to it with some sort of primal instinct instead of reason, which is a form of insecurity. They are also more likely to react to things they feel intimidated by with either aggression or withdrawal, where as a woman is more likely to be in control of it.
This isn't to say such roles between man and woman aren't reversed sometimes, it can sometimes be the man whos in control and the woman who flies off the handle. But its fair to say most straight men are likely to fit it catagory.
Why am i making this about straight men? Because when it comes to insecurity, one of the things I think probably 90% of straight have is the insecurity around other men who are sexually attracted to the same gender. There will always be differing reaction to it, from the extreme and violent aggression towards them, to the casual 'hey your gay that cool.. just don't kiss me man' approach.
With women it is very often different, you so rarely hear straight women beating up or being aggressive to other women who are lesbian, rare cases, but compared to straight men, far less insecurity towards the latter.
Now you can argue that gay men probably have the same insecurities to, but give this a thought. Most of the insecurities straight men have around the world seems to come from a natural aggression to there own gender, the sort of primal instinct of alpha males coming into there territory. We as humans haven't advanced to far that we don't act like gorilla's when the moment comes.
however, if two males are attracted to each other, the natural aggression is not as present as it would between two straight men, or a straight man in the face of a gay man. I can never remember wars being fought between two men who might be attracted to one another.
so, a combination of mans natural instinct towards aggression, and a straight mans withdrawal in the face of something he finds intimidating, seems to lead more cases of a straight man, even the most hardcase of them, to being insecure about something. You are more likely to read about reports of a straight man beating up another man for hitting on him, then you are if a straight woman hits on a gay man, or straight woman if a lesbian woman hits on her.
Just a thought. Do feel to add your analogy.