I don't care
Eh, it's annoying, but their loss
It really gets under my skin
I hope they burn! -_-
This actually happened to me a few months ago. It was me who ran into and old good friend whom I had not seen in a while and I said exactly that. Havent really seen him after that tho and I feel bad.
I couldn't care less. I've stopped expecting the best of people anyway.
It happens quite often to me, more of the time when i want to get close to someone, for example: There are some people i met in the college, and i talk a lot with them in there, but i would really love to hang out with them sometimes, but they just keep making excuse or they say like, hey next week lets do X thing but in the end we do nothing, or they tell me, hey i´m going to call you these weekend to go out... but guess what?! That call never happen >.>
I always ask if people want to hang out and that, or used to, but I never said I would organize it or anything because I don't like doing that, needless to say, nothing ever happens.
But it really doesn't bother me anymore lol.
I accept that there are aspects of the social game that are a bit silly, but the fact that it's becoming mroe and more disingenuous makes me roll my eyes. I'm going to guess this whole "hey we should hang out sometime" thing came from people not wanting to feel bad about denying someone?
Reminds me of the social game that people play with others who seem interested in them, i.e. stringing them along and then calling it "polite" because they feel bad about turning someone down... when just turning them down is ultimately the more polite thing to do.
'Twas a cutlass swipe or an ounce of lead
Or a yawing hole in a battered head
And the scuppers clogged with rotting red
And there they lay I damn me eyes
All lookouts clapped on Paradise
All souls bound just contrarywise, yo ho ho and a bottle of rum!
I think people need to read the above and really consider just how absurd that is.
I could care less. I'm more of a loner so I like to keep to myself more than hanging out somewhere. The only time I actually enjoy going out is when I go to a friends house and just play some games, I'm not really into doing activities like going out to play sports (unless it's bowling or miniature golf) or just going somewhere to just hangout, talk and pass the time (I hate those the most, it's a waste of time). I've had "friends" I made in school that used to call me or text wanting to go somewhere or hangout and I never answered them because I didn't really like them enough to hangout with them. I only have like 4 real friends that I like to hangout with and that's only because we all have something in common and that's video games. So whenever we hangout it always involves playing games.
I've never had a friend not come to a meeting/date. Guess I'm just lucky.
Rincewind: Ah! We may, in fact, have reached the root of the problem. However it's a silly problem and so I am suddenly going to stop talking to you.
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On topic, it doesn't bother me at all. I pay no more attention to "we should hang out sometime" than I do to "good to see you, it's been too long" or "how are you" (coming from an acquaintance rather than an actual friend), or any of those other platitudes we throw at each other because that's what we're supposed to do. Those are the things we say to satisfy social protocols, and have no other meaning to me. They basically say, "Hi, I care about you at least enough to spend a minute being polite. You're above the general masses in my opinion." If they follow "We should hang out some time" with "What are you doing next Saturday?" it usually throws me for a loop. Then I have to decide on the spot whether or not I actually want to hang out with them, or if my agreement was just polite noise - and if not, how to get that across without breaking those invisible societal rules of what's okay to say and what isn't.