Never been interested in the opposite gender

[Deleted]

So.. you'd turn down a woman who just would come up to you and go "Let's have sex"?

[Korie]

What does that have to do with liking the opposite gender? Introversion/extroversion have nothing to do with sexuality.

My bad for that, it just ended up written down with the rest of the post.

[Deleted]

While I've not studied extensively on the topic, this sounds somewhat like asexuality, which appears to effect about 1% of the population.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Asexuality

Not really. the guy just does not want to go out much, which is fine. its not a medical condition or syndrome or whatever not to conform to the norm of going out getting pissed and waking up to someone you dont recognise.
People develop at different rates, he may change his mind later on, he may not, nothing wrong with it, just do what you are comfortable with. Although its not a bad idea to sometimes push that to see if it really is your comfort zone, or just your habitual one.

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So.. you'd turn down a woman who just would come up to you and go "Let's have sex"?

Um yes. Thats not normal, and you've got to question why type of person does that. Taking up that offer is practially asking for an STD, having your wallet nicked, or worse.

[Korie]

So.. you'd turn down a woman who just would come up to you and go "Let's have sex"?

Most likely, yes.

[Deleted]

Um yes. Thats not normal, and you've got to question why type of person does that. Taking up that offer is practially asking for an STD, having your wallet nicked, or worse.

Haha, what?! You'd be surprised.

[Liagala]

I dont really "meet" people here, and I'm still a quite open person when it comes to teamspeak, ventrillo ect, but when it comes to meeting people in real I'd rather just crawl back to bed.

I'd spend my week doing nothing at all.

This sounds like you're depressed more than anything else. Have you ever liked people, or have you spent your entire life wanting to avoid everyone and be alone? If this is something that's crept up on you over the last few years, it might be depression. It may be worth seeing a psychiatrist to see if there's a chemical imbalance or other type of issue that's messing with you.

If you've always been like this and/or you enjoy living the solitary type of life, then no problem. You're an extreme introvert - welcome to the internet, the only place on Earth where you really can choose exactly how much human interaction you want. It's great.

[Deleted]

I don't mean to judge, because everyone is different and it makes us human etc...
But I don't understand how you can't like meeting new people? Maybe its because I am more the extrovert type.
I advice you see a professional (this is not meant as an insult).

Even the worstcase introvert can't live without other people, sooner or later you are going to have to meet people for a wide variety of reasons.

I know most people at first glance look like they are not interesting, but the better you get to know someone, the more you will start to like said person (or the complete opposite).

Humans are fascinating creatures, if you don't like meeting them then I suggest you start with observing them. You can get some good laughs to that way (try to be a bit subtle about it tough)

[Reeve]

I don't mean to judge, because everyone is different and it makes us human etc...
But I don't understand how you can't like meeting new people? Maybe its because I am more the extrovert type.
I advice you see a professional (this is not meant as an insult).

Even the worstcase introvert can't live without other people, sooner or later you are going to have to meet people for a wide variety of reasons.

I know most people at first glance look like they are not interesting, but the better you get to know someone, the more you will start to like said person (or the complete opposite).

Humans are fascinating creatures, if you don't like meeting them then I suggest you start with observing them. You can get some good laughs to that way (try to be a bit subtle about it tough)

It's hard for me to imagine too, as meeting new people is one of my favorite things in the world to do, but I recognize that some people just feel tired and stressed when they have to meet new people. That's what being an introvert is all about.

[Aeluron Lightsong]

You might be slow developing or depressed. I know when I was mostly a teenager I wasn't totally interested in girls just yet. I noticed their beauty and presence but not interested in dating just yet. It may take you longer. Though IMO and don't hate me I find it..strange people aren't interested in the opposite gender(This excluding gays so don't hate)

[Runeweaver]

You know, I was having thoughts about this yesterday and yes I'm quite you like OP.
Although I believe (think) myself to be demisexual rather than fully asexual... I really should discuss this to my friends and such to be honest, won't really be a surprise for them considering they know I'm like this, I've never been asked or approached about it though. Also much like you, I dislike going outside even though my friends have asked me many times (unless it's too watch a movie or what not, otherwise I stay inside while they go out and get drunk). It's got up to the point where I don't get asked or invited anymore to go outside, not that I mind.

Although as Aeluron said above, I could be slow developing

* shrugs

I will say though OP, you are not the only one who feels the way you do.

[Reg]

Take testosterone supplements. Maybe you just don't have the drive! Plus it would be a real cool social experiment for raging introverts.

[Deleted]

It's hard for me to imagine too, as meeting new people is one of my favorite things in the world to do, but I recognize that some people just feel tired and stressed when they have to meet new people. That's what being an introvert is all about.

Some people just make you feel stressed and tired, I love meeting new people so I can gather more awesome people and filther the bad one's out

[Kurioxan]

While I've not studied extensively on the topic, this sounds somewhat like asexuality, which appears to effect about 1% of the population.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Asexuality

Naaah its not, just shyness and discomfort in social settings, likely cultural but not necessarily

[Mongoose19]

I'll be turning 19 in about a month & Ive realised Ive never been interested in the opposite or same gender, I'm not an outsider at school, but I'd much rather sit in my room listening to music & chill than go to town and meet new people, I write this because my parents have been complaining alot lately, they tell me to get out more & meet new people, but why? to be completely honest, I cant stand meeting new people, does anyone else feel like this? or am I just different? the people I know do invite me out often, but I just tend to decline & stay at home.

Do you even fap?

[Reeve]

You know, I was having thoughts about this yesterday and yes I'm quite you like OP.
Although I believe (think) myself to be demisexual rather than fully asexual... I really should discuss this to my friends and such to be honest, won't really be a surprise for them considering they know I'm like this, I've never been asked or approached about it though.

Although as Aeluron said above, I could be slow developing

* shrugs

I will say though OP, you are not the only one who feels the way you do.

I'd never heard the term demisexual before, but I guess that's kinda close to me. I mean I can be attracted to a women I don't have an emotional component with, but I'm not especially lustful towards them. But when I meet a girl I have an emotional connection to, I have a very strong sexual attraction to them. Having sex with a woman I don't have feelings for is pretty unfulfilling for me most of the time though.

[Kurioxan]

Do you even fap?

This made me laugh a bit more than it should :P

Yeah im also demisexual apparently, have quite strong lust but only towards people i love.
Several times refused sex out of it being "just sex"

[Daalton]

Sounds like you are pretty insecure about yourself and are choosing to say that you are uninterested in other people simply because you have developed such a strong comfort zone being alone and doing your own thing. If you go out and be social and meet new people, you will meet girls, then one of these girls will stand out to you, and then you will start talking to her, and you will notice that there is a whole world out there that is "love." And it is absolutely amazing, far better than being alone or anti social or depressed.

Basically, you can't say the stuff your saying without trying the opposite, as a male I find it hard to believe that if a girl that you consider beautiful and has a great personality that you get along with, liked you back, that you would be uninterested. You don't know what you don't have unless you try it.

[Kurioxan]

So.. you'd turn down a woman who just would come up to you and go "Let's have sex"?

I have, several times :O
Although it wanst THAT straightforward lol.

[Silhouette of Seraphim]

they tell me to get out more & meet new people, but why?

Because it's a valuable life skill and people you meet now can open opportunities down the road.