Ok, this might sound stupid, but as gender stereotypes push females to be more emotive and males to be less... and you're more emotive... I suggest you get more female friends. Yes, it's a weird suggestion, I know, but it works. In that aspect I'm much like you, very emotive, and 90% of my friends are... female. And I get along really well with them. And here's the deal, because I get along with them well, I like doing stuff with them. Obviously, since they have different female stuff to do, I can't do everything for obvious reasons. But still, it created me a way to do stuff I like with people I like, like... go to have something to eat/drink together, or go to the mountain/sea together etc. In your case it's skiing I see. You could try to get them into gaming too if you like it.
So this should fix two aspects, you'll get friends and you'll get friends with which you'll get close(you need to still find the females with similar personalities). If you're lucky, you might even get 1 that you like and likes you back, or at least one that can hook you up with a friend of hers that may fit you. And here's the deal.
So... have more friends that are women. It works.
Try relaxing and having fun and not pretending everything has to be super serious and about politics? Discussing politics is basically the worst thing on earth and no one wants to do it or hear it, and the people that do are insufferable and awful to be near.
Hanging out with people is about having fun, doing something fun. If you honestly don't find anything fun (especially group sports like kick ball, dodge ball, over the line etc which are all hilarious) you need to figure something out because that is a recipe for a lonely and boring life.
I don't mean this in a rude way, I mean it in an honest way. Life is short - it really is - you need to learn to relax and just enjoy it. It's not important to be so serious all the time.
If you often come up with random and/or crazy ideas then try to think of a crazy invention or product! After that you could try to get it on the market and sell dozens, then hundreds and maybe even thousands. Sticky notes and paperclips are perfect examples of this. Getting a business plan and running a business are bound to keep you busy and also make some money along the way.
''The only true failure is when you stop trying''.
It's really not hard. If you're inviting her as friend it's even very easy.
Plus... it's only second week! I like got friends at university from second year only! And only in third year did they get to become actual friends and not just friendly people I knew and only after university did they become true good friends. This doesn't happen instantly and you need to do stuff too.
Do you want to meet people? Good, after/before classes say "hello" to people, ask how they're doing, and listen to their rabble. Since people like being listened to.
I mean come on! I'm like super shy and have few friends myself, but can still say hello to people I'd like to make contact with.
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A good professional will show you how to find your own tools to feel good with yourself and be more positive and happy.
I'm almost a psychologist (just one college year more to be) and, of course we are trained in psychopathology, neuroscience and clinical stuff but we get a solid training in emotions, motivation, coaching and support.
Give it a chance, maybe you will discover a way to make yourself happy.
And as I said, listen to people ramble. It makes them feel good. And if you like them you can give advice, and it makes you feel good because they listened to your advice.
That said, skiing should work. And you could make friends in games and such... actually that's a good idea, you could ask people if they play computer games for example. Or if they like skiing and go on trips with them. Or talk about tv. When the winter olympics come is perfect time since you like winter sports. And about vikings since you mentioned them. There, found a ton of subjects for you to talk with people about.
And make jokes between serious things and tease people.
For example if you know there's a party leader none of the people you talk about likes and he appears on tv, say "look, bet you've all wanted to see him, your favourite politician!" and laugh a bit.
I dont know anyone these days. I focus all my time and attention on working, it gets me by, makes money too.