And then call her around, then wait a bit and she'll call you after a while, you'll see.
And the idea is not only to make small talk, but to keep making it with same people until you have a connection with them and they keep coming to you for more small talk.
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You're in same situation.
Now think. You're doing something you don't like for "friends" you aren't really close to. Why? Do you have something to prove? No. Be yourself, and use your personality, just include stuff that people in general find sociably nice, like mini-jokes. But don't morph your entire personality for people just because they find it fun. Because by doing that you'll end up not knowing what you truly like, who are you truly and later on you'll be even more confused about stuff, about what you like and who.
Get a cat or a dog. They are jawesome.
You actually just described me perfectly. I've been told by enough people that they think I have depression that I'm actually starting to believe it. I'd get a doctor's opinion if I could be bothered.
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Nothing makes you hate MMOs more than having played MMOs.
It's definitely about signing up for random group activities.
Sport is always the best option as fitness comes with it but other activities work just as well (I'd say knitting even but you'll just be with old ladies and that won't work for you). Just make sure it's something that people that you'd get on with would do. You'd be surprised what sports will do for you as well, it'll turn your whole outlook around.
About 3 years ago I moved between cities and left all my friends behind (p.s. don't chase girls over 1700kms, it's not worth it) and decided 18 months ago it was time for a change as I was getting fat and feeling miserable. Started eating healthy and went to Canada with a friend. Came back and took up Ice Hockey (crazy in Australia but best thing I've ever done!). Signed up for some lessons (been doing lots of them the last 6 months) and had 3 friends ask me if I was doing it before they signed up themselves!
I know it's not easy for most people and I have a certain degree of ease in talking to people that others don't (get nervous as hell if it's anything more than that though!) but it's an important skill and you need to learn it.
What you need is to find like minded people. Simply going to a place you don't know much about won't help.
I use to feel lonely when I was in my late teens to early twenties. And then I began to associate with people who shared common intrests, gaming, comics, movies. I eventually made some great friends online and meet irl.
The point is simply figure out what your interests are, and look to finding people who enjoy the same. It helps form bonds with people because you always have the same interest to fall back on.
Go and tell my baby sister
Not to do what I have done
Go and spurn that house down in New Orleans
They call the Rising Sun
Try something new you haven't or have thought about doing for a while that scares you. You're not going to get much if any interaction in the way you want unless you move out of your comfort zone and try something, even if it is horrifying to you mentally. I know its difficult to do, I've been there and am still going through it, but don't analyze everything you do or see before you make a move or else you'll just be paralyzed in thought and do nothing, which is the worst thing you can do. It doesn't have to be a drastic thing, either. Don't ponder so much as to why you are lonely and how to fix it, act on it.
Also, if you're really having trouble finding new friends, you need to take a look at yourself and see if you're a person people want to be around or someone people want to avoid. People like being around people that can provide for them, whether you are funny, smart, helpful, silly(not crazy), etc. If you have nothing to provide, people will avoid you generally.
The best way to solve your issue is to put some effort into getting a girlfriend and let her take control of your daily life.
In 2 months you will either be much happier or ready to gouge her goddam eyes out, in either case it's one hell of a fun ride.
Have you considered getting a part time job in a local pub? Not some obnoxious club/meat market, but a decent local pub. I did bar work for a while myself in my late teens and it's a good way to meet all kinds of different people and open up your social circle a bit.
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