You do know that for the better part of society it is men who upheld these standards so if you must blame anyone you have to blame men. For centuries and even in some places now women were/are little more than property whose sole purpose was/is for sex or to have sons. The reason why misandry is not as widely seen as a word has to do with men believing that they were above being hated, not that women are some angels sent from heaven. History tells us that women have been second class to men for the most part not the other way around. We are only seeing this turn around since women became able to work more wide spread therefore being able to take care of themselves without relying on a male to provide for them.
If you look at the root of the problems it circles back to men who are the ones that upheld, and still uphold, the status quo.
Yeah... I've got so much fucking privilege up in here I'm drowning in it.
The whole "Men have issues because women are oppressed" reeks of appropriation of a cause. Ideas like "Women are allowed to hit men without being hit back because no one thinks women can hurt people" and have it be socially acceptable is ridiculous. Does anyone honestly say that out loud and not think that's the dumbest thing ever?
I saw a Facebook post on Reddit not long ago that laid it out perfectly.
It had this image:
with a post very accurately asking if it would be appropriately reworded as "So I can't wear what I wan't because you're oppressed?"
It's ridiculous. Men can get sent off to die in war, lose custody of their children, pay alimony, get the shit beat out of them, make up 90%+ of workplace fatalities (But if women's share of workplace fatalities go up because men became unemployed in the recession, that's a travesty) and no one bats an eye... because women are oppressed?
I'm sorry, I'm not buying it.
Again, Bill Burr put it accurately. Yes, women have problems, but at least theirs are taken seriously.
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Because you DO wear one if you don't trust her.
But what if you DO trust her and it turns out she deceived you? Oh well? Suck it up?
I'm a flaming limp-wristed gayboy. I see no shame in not living up to what a "man" is supposed to be, quite the opposite. I merely recognize your frustration and empathize. I think we should be allies precisely because the same power structures that oppress me weigh on you as well only in different ways.
You do know that it is mostly men that have a problem with guys looking like girls......you do know that right?
And you should wear a condom every single time, it is not about trust but controlling your own reproductive rights. If you are too lazy to put on a condom how can you complain about an unwanted pregnancy. If you don't want to protect yourself don't expect the woman to do it for you because it is not her job.
I've said many times I'm well aware not everyone is out to get me. Does that mean it's not worth putting up protections against those who are?
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And it's mostly women who slut shame each other. That doesn't mean it's something to be left alone.
The point isn't even about men who want to dress like women or anything like that.
The point is that feminism seems to have convinced itself that men's issues stem from women's issues and that, if we all just fought for women's issues then men's would go away. It doesn't work like that. It obviously HASN'T worked like that.
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You do know that most men's rights activists do not blame women for their woes right? It is feminists who characterize the MRM as having an adversarial attitude towards women. We in fact just want the laws to be fair, and the social dialogue about our gender to be positive and respectful.
Who the fuck is expecting women to handle it?
Women have, by and large, the most options so they usually are de-facto the ones to handle it. A married couple who trusts each other has no reason to think someone is going to sabotage the birth control anyway. So if the husband trusts his wife why would he feel the need to wear a condom?
And if she cheats and gets pregnant? And he continues to trust her that it's his kid? What then?
As a man, no woman has ever physically attacked me for dressing how I want. I have, however been beaten by six dudes with hockey sticks for it. That was definitely not feminism beating the shit out of me.
Bill Burr only gets it half right, because he thinks these problems were somehow created by women. Just think about your own country, what % of the people who make your laws are women?
Men don't have access to a non-surgical contraceptive that does not interfere significantly with the sexual process. Women do. Biological reality, not discrimination.
You empathize with what you perceive me to be, not with who I am. I feel no frustration or shame over my gender, only sympathy to those men who have been the victims of societal discrimination. I am proudly and unapologetically male, and your assertions that I am frustrated and have been hoodwinked, or even that I blame women for the current state of affairs are patently false. I do not blame women, I blame feminists. There is a stark, and crucial difference between these two things.
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A CONDOM is a non-surgical contraceptive that does not interfere with the sexual process.
Also, there was a recent thread about a contraceptive for men that is the most affective[effective? I always get those words mixed up..] or something. It works for 10 years and can be reversed at any time.
Heres a article on it, first link I found on google:
http://blogs.laweekly.com/afterdark/...aselgel_ri.php
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It is the MRM that gives themselves a bad reputation. Just look at yourselves do you think that what you are doing help the MRM? It does not when you post clearly crappy articles. CNN had a good story that could have opened up a real discussion on what some of the problems are that are facing men. But when you post something stating that half of women are liars out to get trapt men into raising another guys kid, you are not going to get anything good from that. When you make post making it seem like women are these protect flowers that can do no wrong you are not helping your cause. You are making a mockery of it and it over shadows the really important issues.
When you use the words de-facto that means you are expecting women to handle it.
And wearing a condom is not about trust, what if the woman does not like the side effects of birth control and would like it if her husband/partner wore a condom. What is the problem with that? Is it so bad for the husband to be the one responsible for the birth control?