I usually do SSM with a buddy. We play somewhat aggressively (without being suicidal) and, once we get a cart we don't leave it. Other than that, it's just hope that your team mates understand the mechanics and aren't focused on being at the top of the chart.
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That happens to both factions, at least with the Mines and Lighthouse graveyards. Anytime I die at the enemies main base (Mines or LH depending on faction), I always spawn back at GY closer to the main spawn.
One other thing I've noticed that I can do on alliance that I'm not sure I could as horde...I could enter the Horde spawn area.