I'm looking for a good player, target, targets target, frame addon, and NOT giving me all kinds of crappy raid frames and such
I would use Shadowed Unit Frames. It is very good, and can be set up to show as little or as much information as you want and any frames you do not want (for example raid frames) you can very easily disable.
Most, if not all, UnitFrame addons allow you to choose whether you'd like to use theirs or Blizzard's raid frames. Here's a small selection of available addons.