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    I think a fairly honest chat with her's going to get you further.

    "Look, you come over as really ?????? (something nice and none slutty) and I obviously think a lot of you but since you mentioned the 3-somes it's been on my mind a lot, mind if we talk about it a bit?"

    and take it from there, it's not hard. If she's well adjusted she'll see the underlying problem that's caused the question and be quite quick to dissolve your fears/issues. If she gets a bit pissed/upset you have chance to steer it to a better point yourself. "I'm not saying it's hurt my opinion of you but it's a bit... too... liberal? Compared to what I'm used to in a girl." explain your fears etc and expect a decent bit of comfort and re-assurance in return. I'd be kinda shocked if not to be honest.


    You don't have to be on the verge of wanting to settle down with the girl to ask it, it's kinda cool even when it's casual to ask questions that relate to your own sexual well being "are you seeing anyone else" is a perfectly decent question regardless of casual or serious. As are follow ups about their other partners. Expect some to be a bit cagey and give the "well, if you don't like it" type response but... it's quite right. Your choice in the end what you stick it in, it's fair to be at least an informed choice tho or they aren't worth your time.

    Also: very male reply - ask her if she'd be interested in picking up another chick with you and helping you do her
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    Dude, if you are looking for a virgin, you might want to try a different planet. Get over your puritanical hangups and go for it.

    also, a threesome does not an orgy make.

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    Ahh man the last bit got me

    If it was me, nope, wouldn't go for it.

    Not into chicks that sleep around.
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    Well shes clearly into that kind of stuff, so what i would do if i were you (Or any other guy would do for that matter) Ask if she would do a 3-some with her you and another female. Win-Win for everybody

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    Quote Originally Posted by Tapzer View Post
    Well shes clearly into that kind of stuff, so what i would do if i were you (Or any other guy would do for that matter) Ask if she would do a 3-some with her you and another female. Win-Win for everybody
    Yes, this sounds about right lol. Chances are she will definitely still into it, ask her if shes willing to do its with another girl
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    Personally I wouldn't be down for a girl with a past like that. Someone with that colorful of a sexual past I wouldn't trust.

    But more importantly: You've already identified her sexual past as something negative or upsetting. When you do that you create an environment for resentment down the road that will lead to fights at the very least. The thing is those fights will be generated by those negative feelings subconsciously and the very instant you think back to what she has done in the past you'll feel like shit.

    My advice is cliche, there are plenty of more fish in the sea, just because this particular girl has a past and you do too doesn't mean she is a good partner for you.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lorianas View Post
    Personally I wouldn't be down for a girl with a past like that. Someone with that colorful of a sexual past I wouldn't trust.

    But more importantly: You've already identified her sexual past as something negative or upsetting. When you do that you create an environment for resentment down the road that will lead to fights at the very least. The thing is those fights will be generated by those negative feelings subconsciously and the very instant you think back to what she has done in the past you'll feel like shit.

    My advice is cliche, there are plenty of more fish in the sea, just because this particular girl has a past and you do too doesn't mean she is a good partner for you.
    I think the advice here is "tap it, heavily and move on". It's probably not far off the mark tbh.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Sivick View Post
    Dude, if you are looking for a virgin, you might want to try a different planet. Get over your puritanical hangups and go for it.

    also, a threesome does not an orgy make.
    Sorry you read it that way, but I'm not implying that her being a non virgin is the issue. Unless I'm mistaken, an orgy is "group sex" or 3+ people. And sorry Codyak, this isn't meant to be a religious debate but more of an issue I have with my personal morals. If you think our religion has something to do with it though, (I said I didn't live by those standards, so obviously that's not my main concern) then so be it.
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    I just wonder, would it matter if you would've had a threesome before?

    "Used item" is not something that applies to people.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Haven View Post
    "Used item" is not something that applies to people.
    It applies to my ex!
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    I do see a lot of valid point in here OP.

    Either way something similar happen to me even tho it was a vacation fling. I met this girl in Florida, and let just say ... wow.

    Until she brought up the fact that she got 3 kids back at home.

    If you truly care about who this person is, you would look past through all of their fault. (For better or worse?)

    Dont let their mistakes define who they are, but see them as is or who they would become into.

    PS: I use to live in Utah for few years as a non LDS..... I know the feeling :/

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    Only you can decide what you're comfortable with, Uncle Julian. It's in the past, so I don't really see what that has to do with you currently. The older you get the more likely your potential mates will have had multiple partners, so I don't see a huge difference between 2 dicks at once and 2 dicks over a period of time.

    While I personally kind of like the experimental nature of sexual appetite, I am definitely a monogamous man and no threesome would ever be a part of our relationship. If she was ok with that, I'd probably not make a big deal out of it.

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    I don't think I'd be okay win that. Sounds way too wild for me. But I'd never have been with the girl in the first place, let alone marry.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Silhouette of Seraphim View Post
    Live with it or move on, take your pick. You can either try to make something work and not worry about something that has absolutely no relevance to you, or every time you look at her you can imagine her making like a Chinese finger cuff.

    Up to you.
    HAHAHAHAHAHA. That's a funny comparison LOL.

    Now even pornstars can get married. Not saying she is one, it's about accepting the person as a whole as everyone is a different person right? Like Seraphim said, appearantly its already "bugging" you out, so if you say F it, even she did all of that with pleasure and whatnot, I still care for and want to live with her: that's your call.


    Just a tip like always: dont think that she is the only one out there that can win your heart. It's your call.

    Edit: since she has done it a multiple times with the same person. Lets say you decide to accept her and you move one and some day in the future she reminisces and brings up the talk: "Hey, remember I told you I had a threesome... with this same guy... well he contacted me and... what do you think?" Its just a scenario that can happen, of course. As well as anything, but yeah more prone to happen in this case I believe.
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    Quote Originally Posted by MuskiER View Post
    Either way something similar happen to me even tho it was a vacation fling. I met this girl in Florida, and let just say ... wow.

    Until she brought up the fact that she got 3 kids back at home.
    That's always a terrible idea. Especially if the kids are all from different people.

    I knew one once who was on number 3, it didn't last long at all because she refused to use any sort of birth control, saying it was "too expensive."

    She was on kid #5 last I heard, all from different people.

    Pretty sure kids are a lot more expensive per month, but fuck it, I'm not mathematician.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Jordaen View Post
    Is it really any of your business to judge her past? If you don't like doing 3 somes with another guy, just tell her that you're not interested in it, and if she's fine with that, move on. And either way, it's just sex. As long as everyone was a consenting adult, and none of them have STDs, what is the issue?
    How isn't it his business? He is thinking about being with her.
    Quote Originally Posted by Sivick View Post
    Dude, if you are looking for a virgin, you might want to try a different planet. Get over your puritanical hangups and go for it.

    also, a threesome does not an orgy make.
    Virgins don't exist anymore no...
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    Quote Originally Posted by Tiing View Post
    How isn't it his business? He is thinking about being with her.

    Well, because it happened in the past, had nothing to do with him, and she doesn't owe him anything when it comes to her past.
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    I don't see the issue. Look at it this way.

    Girl A: Girl A, not married and has slept with 4 different guys, one at a time, over 3 years.
    Girl B: Girl B not married and has two threesomes over 3 years.

    In the end both A and B have slept with 4 people. Who cares if it is one at a time or during a threesome?

    Also, if you refuse to date her because of this you are looking down and her and making judgements. It was in the past so why let it bother you?

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    Flip it around; If you'd had a threesome or several with a girl and a different buddy of hers each time, would you feel ashamed by it?

    There is no -real- reason that attitudes towards male and female sexuality are different beyond cultural history and pregnancy/kid-looking-after stuff (not relevant here) - get over your gut feelings (which are normal) and use reason; Sex is sex, you might enjoy a threesome, a girl can too.

    The core of this cultural reaction is essentially the same which says a guy who sleeps around is typically considered a legend, but a girl who sleeps around is typically considered a slut. Both are just enjoying themselves, and shouldn't be judged differently based on their gender.

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