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  1. #101
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    It happened before you meet her. I don't get how it is important now, I mean if you had a really hot girl friend and she gave you the offer to have a 3 way with her and another girl (hot friend) you'd probably have said hell ya, what's wrong with her doing the same thing? O well that's just my opinion on the matter. That Chasing Amy video is actually exactly the right answer imo.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Tiing View Post
    I don't see it as insecurity, No offense ofcourse but i guess i've seen your views about sex. Some people mind having a girl/boy who had a lot of sexual partners or engaging in things they would never engage in because its against their standarts? Don't know if thats what the OP thinks.
    I'm sorry, but what's immoral about sexual acts between 3 people instead of 2 (gosh, I wont dare imagine what you think of foursomes)?

    Furthermore, what does it matter what she did as part of her sexual life previous to meeting the OP? If she's in a relationship with him and they're having "normal" sex that they both agree to and that doesn't bother the OP, then why should he not agree to be with her because of her past sexual experience that have literally no bearing on the present?

    I'm sorry, but I just don't see any logical reason as to why the OP should refuse to be in a relationship with this girl.

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    Quote Originally Posted by phenix View Post
    Seems a lot of ppl missed that she did it a couple of times a few years ago with 1 guy for the 3 times.


    So OP you need to find out (if it bothers you) why she did it.

    Was she pressured/dragged into it by he then BF or was she the initiator?
    Was her BF and her addicts (drug/alcohol) that could of changed the way she acted back then?
    What are the chances she will have those needs in the future? (i mean she had 3 orgies, but hasn't done it since....hardly a hardcore sex junkie...but not innocent either)
    Is it so wrong that maybe she just wanted to have sex? O come on everyone wants to or at least thinks about doing something like that, is it so wrong when someone is in a position where they can and actually try it? Then find out they like it and do it again?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Wikiy View Post
    I'm sorry, but I just don't see any logical reason as to why the OP should refuse to be in a relationship with this girl.
    Unfortunately we're not dealing with logic here. We're dealing with insecurities. See also; asking for dating advice on MMO-champion. 95% of the people here have never been in a similar situation and are basically offering personal standpoints and opinions on the matter with absolutely no experience in the subject and then choosing to argue over these opinions. Just another day 'round here.
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  5. #105
    If you want something serious and involving feelings, break with her.
    If you are up for some fun stay with her.

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    I think a past like that can be a positive thing. Most of us come to a point where we get curious about out of the box-sex and want to try new stuff and different people. Then it's done, and you can focus on building a relationship instead of throwing that all away because you want to run free and grab your possibilities/screw around for a while.

    I think you would be better off with her than a girl with close to none sexual experience.

  7. #107
    Quote Originally Posted by Uncle Julian View Post
    If you were in my same position, what would you do? Would you be ok if your spouse had multiple orgys with the opposite sex before you met? I could either stop our relationship from continuing that direction, have casual and meaningless sex with her, or try to actually date and court her...get to know her family and vice versa, all that jazz.
    I dont see any difference between sleeping with 4 guys, 1 at a time, and sleeping with 4 guys, 2 at a time. A threesome isnt really an orgy either. Besides something extreme like acting in porn or prostitution, the only thing that really matters with a partners sexual history is: if shes had sex, if she has ever been pregnant, and if she has an STD. Otherwise who the person is and how many people shes had sex with dont really matter. The other thing you would probably want to know is if she ever cheated on somebody but that isnt necessarily sexual.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jordaen View Post
    Is it really any of your business to judge her past? If you don't like doing 3 somes with another guy, just tell her that you're not interested in it, and if she's fine with that, move on. And either way, it's just sex. As long as everyone was a consenting adult, and none of them have STDs, what is the issue?
    Why tell her he's not interested? From what I read it isn't as if she asked him.

    The question I would be more inclined to ask would be who the guy was that was in the threesomes every time. Who is he to her and do that still talk? That's what I would want to know because it seems like he is bad news. This is just my personal feelings but I wouldn't want her hanging out with that guy. Judge if you must.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Wikiy View Post
    I'm sorry, but what's immoral about sexual acts between 3 people instead of 2 (gosh, I wont dare imagine what you think of foursomes)?

    Furthermore, what does it matter what she did as part of her sexual life previous to meeting the OP? If she's in a relationship with him and they're having "normal" sex that they both agree to and that doesn't bother the OP, then why should he not agree to be with her because of her past sexual experience that have literally no bearing on the present?

    I'm sorry, but I just don't see any logical reason as to why the OP should refuse to be in a relationship with this girl.
    I'm sorry but where did i say it was specificly me seeing it that way? What i was trying to say with my post is that it isn't always about insecurity for people.
    I thought that was pretty clear.. i guess it wass not.
    Also you might find nothing immoral about it some people might, Morality differs per person. What i think about threesomes foursomes orgies or swinger parties is irrelevant.

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    Hey if she wants to fuck around as one person isn't enough for her then I don't see anything wrong with that. As long as she isn't a nasty cum guzzler, full of STDs and other shit.

    If she is picky about who she fucks and is awesome in bed then go ahead.
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  12. #112
    Ugh it's a bit of a turn off for me, defo a potential deal breaker if a girl I knew got tag teamed. It's not a thing of passion, its two dude fucking a girl while high fiving each other and we all know that despite what people tell themselves.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kakazam View Post
    Ugh it's a bit of a turn off for me, defo a potential deal breaker if a girl I knew got tag teamed. It's not a thing of passion, its two dude fucking a girl while high fiving each other and we all know that despite what people tell themselves.
    Well I would say the same, I mean I could "partialy" understand if it was out of love but looking at what OP stated

    she's had a 3-some with 2 guys, 3 separate times a few years ago. 1 of the guys was the same all 3 times and would just invite a different buddy each time
    Meaning she had different partners, so no that much love there.

    There are a very few scenario where threesomes are done out of love, but this doesn't seem to be the case. That still doesn't automatic means OP should break up, but at least ask the girl why and what for. Maybe she enjoys that experience and would like to do it again, maybe OP does not, situation where they both walk away. Or maybe other reasons, key still is to talk about it and not just burry it.
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  14. #114
    as someone who is currently involved with a woman who's had similar experiences as the girl you're attracted to i can say that you should go for it, it will be the best sex you will have had and will ever have. Most likely she'll know exactly how to please you in ways that you have yet to discover.

    If you can trust her that she isn't out displaying her goods when she isn't with you and has a clean bill of health, then she's a keeper no matter how many people she's been with. Why would you hold her to that standard when us men are designed to have sex with as many people as possible?

  15. #115
    Quote Originally Posted by Kakazam View Post
    Ugh it's a bit of a turn off for me, defo a potential deal breaker if a girl I knew got tag teamed. It's not a thing of passion, its two dude fucking a girl while high fiving each other and we all know that despite what people tell themselves.
    That's not necessarily the case, but if it is, so what? Casual sex isn't the devil.

  16. #116
    Quote Originally Posted by Uncle Julian View Post
    *May contain explicit material* (I'll do my best to keep it clean, but get my point across)

    As some may or may not know, my ex fiance broke us up 2 weeks before the wedding last summer and it was quite a low point in my life in the following months. I've been going on quite a few dates and trying to put my self out there to meet someone whose really compatible with me and my lifestyle.

    I've been hanging around this new girl for a few weeks now and I think she has a good personality. I live in Utah with a lot of judgmental LDS peers (I'm also LDS, but don't live by the "standards" as most would put it). This girl has a bit of a past, like me, which is awesome cause she's way more open to the real world, real problems, and not just living in a happy-bubble-life (girls here will pass up dating someone because they don't go to church, had a drink, a smoke, sex, or if the guy came home early from one of those 2 year church mission things. Any monday-detail could be a deal breaker).

    We're to the point where we are getting very physical and will continue on that path, and she is really someone I could be with. Earlier today however, I learned she's had a 3-some with 2 guys, 3 separate times a few years ago. 1 of the guys was the same all 3 times and would just invite a different buddy each time.

    Now I don't want to jump to conclusions, otherwise I'm no better off than anyone else and honestly it's not my place to judge what she's been through. The thought of me dating or even marrying someone who's sucked down multiple dicks at the same time is just a little unsettling. I don't want to use the term "cum-bucket", but I trust you get my point. I also may not even care come due time and it won't matter at all...but hearing about it so recently makes it pretty fresh on my mind.

    If you were in my same position, what would you do? Would you be ok if your spouse had multiple orgys with the opposite sex before you met? I could either stop our relationship from continuing that direction, have casual and meaningless sex with her, or try to actually date and court her...get to know her family and vice versa, all that jazz.
    Wouldn't matter to me, as long as she won't keep asking me to have a 3-some with her and another guy every so often.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Uncle Julian View Post
    *May contain explicit material* (I'll do my best to keep it clean, but get my point across)

    As some may or may not know, my ex fiance broke us up 2 weeks before the wedding last summer and it was quite a low point in my life in the following months. I've been going on quite a few dates and trying to put my self out there to meet someone whose really compatible with me and my lifestyle.

    I've been hanging around this new girl for a few weeks now and I think she has a good personality. I live in Utah with a lot of judgmental LDS peers (I'm also LDS, but don't live by the "standards" as most would put it). This girl has a bit of a past, like me, which is awesome cause she's way more open to the real world, real problems, and not just living in a happy-bubble-life (girls here will pass up dating someone because they don't go to church, had a drink, a smoke, sex, or if the guy came home early from one of those 2 year church mission things. Any monday-detail could be a deal breaker).

    We're to the point where we are getting very physical and will continue on that path, and she is really someone I could be with. Earlier today however, I learned she's had a 3-some with 2 guys, 3 separate times a few years ago. 1 of the guys was the same all 3 times and would just invite a different buddy each time.

    Now I don't want to jump to conclusions, otherwise I'm no better off than anyone else and honestly it's not my place to judge what she's been through. The thought of me dating or even marrying someone who's sucked down multiple dicks at the same time is just a little unsettling. I don't want to use the term "cum-bucket", but I trust you get my point. I also may not even care come due time and it won't matter at all...but hearing about it so recently makes it pretty fresh on my mind.

    If you were in my same position, what would you do? Would you be ok if your spouse had multiple orgys with the opposite sex before you met? I could either stop our relationship from continuing that direction, have casual and meaningless sex with her, or try to actually date and court her...get to know her family and vice versa, all that jazz.
    Dude she had three ways and you make it sound like she regularly goes to bukkake festivals O_o

  18. #118
    Run for your life.

    If it bothers you now then it's going to drive you crazy if you fall in love with her.


    Quote Originally Posted by Carnaby View Post
    The question I would be more inclined to ask would be who the guy was that was in the threesomes every time. Who is he to her and do that still talk? That's what I would want to know because it seems like he is bad news. This is just my personal feelings but I wouldn't want her hanging out with that guy. Judge if you must.
    I bet they're friends on Facebook.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Buttfear View Post
    I bet they're friends on Facebook.
    Probably pictures of her hanging out with all these fellas, too.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Uncle Julian View Post
    If you were in my same position, what would you do? Would you be ok if your spouse had multiple orgys with the opposite sex before you met?
    No, it would have zero relevance to me unless I learned that 1) precautions weren't used, such as condoms, as that would indicate a level of irresponsibility, or 2) the person was cheating on a partner in the process of having the threesome or whatever.

    If someone is single and has a threesome or something to that effect, who cares? I good exercise is to turn the situation back on yourself. If you were single and were invited into a hot threesome, would you turn it down just because you might fear that a future partner might be prudish about it?

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