Unfortunately we're not dealing with logic here. We're dealing with insecurities. See also; asking for dating advice on MMO-champion. 95% of the people here have never been in a similar situation and are basically offering personal standpoints and opinions on the matter with absolutely no experience in the subject and then choosing to argue over these opinions. Just another day 'round here.
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If you want something serious and involving feelings, break with her.
If you are up for some fun stay with her.
I think a past like that can be a positive thing. Most of us come to a point where we get curious about out of the box-sex and want to try new stuff and different people. Then it's done, and you can focus on building a relationship instead of throwing that all away because you want to run free and grab your possibilities/screw around for a while.
I think you would be better off with her than a girl with close to none sexual experience.
I dont see any difference between sleeping with 4 guys, 1 at a time, and sleeping with 4 guys, 2 at a time. A threesome isnt really an orgy either. Besides something extreme like acting in porn or prostitution, the only thing that really matters with a partners sexual history is: if shes had sex, if she has ever been pregnant, and if she has an STD. Otherwise who the person is and how many people shes had sex with dont really matter. The other thing you would probably want to know is if she ever cheated on somebody but that isnt necessarily sexual.
Why tell her he's not interested? From what I read it isn't as if she asked him.
The question I would be more inclined to ask would be who the guy was that was in the threesomes every time. Who is he to her and do that still talk? That's what I would want to know because it seems like he is bad news. This is just my personal feelings but I wouldn't want her hanging out with that guy. Judge if you must.
I'm sorry but where did i say it was specificly me seeing it that way? What i was trying to say with my post is that it isn't always about insecurity for people.
I thought that was pretty clear.. i guess it wass not.
Also you might find nothing immoral about it some people might, Morality differs per person. What i think about threesomes foursomes orgies or swinger parties is irrelevant.
Hey if she wants to fuck around as one person isn't enough for her then I don't see anything wrong with that. As long as she isn't a nasty cum guzzler, full of STDs and other shit.
If she is picky about who she fucks and is awesome in bed then go ahead.
Ugh it's a bit of a turn off for me, defo a potential deal breaker if a girl I knew got tag teamed. It's not a thing of passion, its two dude fucking a girl while high fiving each other and we all know that despite what people tell themselves.
Well I would say the same, I mean I could "partialy" understand if it was out of love but looking at what OP stated
Meaning she had different partners, so no that much love there.she's had a 3-some with 2 guys, 3 separate times a few years ago. 1 of the guys was the same all 3 times and would just invite a different buddy each time
There are a very few scenario where threesomes are done out of love, but this doesn't seem to be the case. That still doesn't automatic means OP should break up, but at least ask the girl why and what for. Maybe she enjoys that experience and would like to do it again, maybe OP does not, situation where they both walk away. Or maybe other reasons, key still is to talk about it and not just burry it.
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as someone who is currently involved with a woman who's had similar experiences as the girl you're attracted to i can say that you should go for it, it will be the best sex you will have had and will ever have. Most likely she'll know exactly how to please you in ways that you have yet to discover.
If you can trust her that she isn't out displaying her goods when she isn't with you and has a clean bill of health, then she's a keeper no matter how many people she's been with. Why would you hold her to that standard when us men are designed to have sex with as many people as possible?
No, it would have zero relevance to me unless I learned that 1) precautions weren't used, such as condoms, as that would indicate a level of irresponsibility, or 2) the person was cheating on a partner in the process of having the threesome or whatever.
If someone is single and has a threesome or something to that effect, who cares? I good exercise is to turn the situation back on yourself. If you were single and were invited into a hot threesome, would you turn it down just because you might fear that a future partner might be prudish about it?
This just makes me sad. Why would it matter how many people she has had sex with before you? Why would it matter that some of her encounters were threesomes?
Your usage of the word "cum-bucket" is also very degrading. (I know you said you didn't want to use it, but cleraly that is what you are thinking). She is allowed to like casual sex with whomever she pleases. If she has done this in a safe environment and protected herself, what is the problem?
Even if someone has had many encounters and used sex as a recreational activity that doesn't automatically mean they're easy and will immediately cheat in a relationsip.
If she is interested in you in more than a friendly/casual way and she is a decent human being otherwise, she'll be faithful.
This thread just reeks of "Women are sluts when they have had many partners and are not wife material, whereas men are awesome if they've fucked many girls!"