Pictured: Flamboyant gay TV host Carson Kressley vs gay TV host Kyan Douglas.
I'm a straight male, and looking from the outside in, I can see at least part of the reason why homophobia still exists. I have absolutely 0 problem with anyone's sexuality, whether gay, straight, asexual etc. In fact I really don't care. But there are certain behavioural and personality traits often associated with gay males that are slightly off-putting. These stereotypes might not necessarily be true, but I feel the media has done an effective job of solidifying these stereotypes in our minds. If they are indeed only stereotypes.
I am speaking of flamboyance. The overly enthusiastic gay man with a smile from ear to ear that is flailing his arms around and speaking in a high pitched voice. The guy that goes on about how "fabolous" everyone looks and is likely to be carrying a pink man purse. The guy wearing open toe sandals and giggling loudly. I don't like that guy. That guy is annoying. More importantly, that guy is annoying whether he was gay or straight.
Now my point is that this stereotypical gay man is what most people believe a gay man to be. As I do not have any experience to speak of with the gay community, I can neither confirm nor deny this stereotype. But for some reason I just don't think that MOST gay people are actually like this. I'm not sure if this theory is valid or not, but I feel like there is possibly a very small and loud minority of gay men that are ruining it for all of the others. People don't hate them because they're gay, people hate them because they're annoying. But soon the lines blur and the hate for those annoying flamboyant INDIVIDUALS, becomes hate for all gay people at large, including the non-annoying ones.