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    Am I psychopat or sick?

    Hello guys, I've got a weird question.

    Two weeks ago my grandmother died, and when I was on funeral I couldn't cry, I was 1st time in my life on a funeral (Im 21 y/o) and I have to say I really liked my grandmother, but I just couldnt drop a single tear, I even wanted to cry because I had a bad feeling when everybody was crying and I was maybe the only one who wasnt, It was really a weird feeling.

    Am I some kind of psychopat or sick person?
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    Probably just a delayed reaction, especially if you had time to prepare for her death.
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    Not everybody cries at death.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Ratatat999 View Post
    Hello guys, I've got a weird question.

    Two weeks ago my grandmother died, and when I was on funeral I couldn't cry, I was 1st time in my life on a funeral (Im 21 y/o) and I have to say I really liked my grandmother, but I just couldnt drop a single tear, I even wanted to cry because I had a bad feeling when everybody was crying and I was maybe the only one who wasnt, It was really a weird feeling because.

    Am I some kind of psychopat or sick person?

    No you're not a psychopath or a sick person....as you stated you had bad feelings but you couldn't show them. You sound ok to me!
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    Its naturally that people die, i only cry at funerals if they died young and didnt have time to fullfill their dreams.

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    If you felt it weird and are aware of this perhaps not being a proper way of grieving I think you're alright. If you felt downright bored, felt no empathy or sympathy for the people who did cry or found amusement in anything at the funeral, you probably need help.

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    Me, I cry at the drop of a hat. Hence why I avoid funerals like the plague.
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    I would say you are fine. I lost a grandmother around the age of 33 and loved her very much and even though everyone was crying around me I didn't cry. That doesn't mean you didn't love her - or as you put it, it doesn't mean you are a psychopat. I think you would want to hurt people and get pleasure from it to be a psychopat (or just be a fan of the NE football team). The very sad feeling actually came later - the first time I wanted to see her and realized I couldn't anymore, I still didn't cry, but I definitely felt pain of the heart then.

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    Unless you killed her, then no, you aren't a psychopath.

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    Indeed, you felt that it was wrong. You had the negative feelings, you'll just express them in a different way than most will. That's fine.

    If you were instead thinking 'I don't understand why everyone is so upset, people die all the time, it's no big deal'... then that'd be indicative of psychopathic/sociopathic tendencies. Because you didn't feel anything at all.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Ratatat999 View Post
    Hello guys, I've got a weird question.

    Two weeks ago my grandmother died, and when I was on funeral I couldn't cry, I was 1st time in my life on a funeral (Im 21 y/o) and I have to say I really liked my grandmother, but I just couldnt drop a single tear, I even wanted to cry because I had a bad feeling when everybody was crying and I was maybe the only one who wasnt, It was really a weird feeling.

    Am I some kind of psychopat or sick person?
    No, you are less selfish than the average human being. When my grandfather I didn't shed a tear, but I was even really upset to see my dad tearing. I too cannot cry at funerals, unless they are my mother, father and brother.

    You aren't a psychopath, and the greatest evidence for this is the fact that this issue concerns you.
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    People deal with grief differently. I cried when my paternal grandfather died but didn't when my maternal grandmother died. I spent a lot of time visiting them when I was growing up. I think I reacted differently because my grandmother died from cancer, so I had time to prepare, while my grandfather died suddenly from a rare condition while I was away at university. I didn't love either of them more than the other but the situations differed.
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    did u have eye laser operation recently?

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    We don't all react in the same way. Especially in emotional situations we show our grief in different ways. The most common way is just crying..
    But that doesn't mean that they were any sadder than you were.

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    The phrasing of the OP and age leads me to believe he may not be fully emotionally developed however...

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    Neither. The fact that you are bothered by it says are aren't a psychopath, or sick. It's just different reactions.

    I couldn't cry when my grandma died either, and I was like 13. I remember trying to cry but couldn't, and thinking it's my fault for watching so much porn. =(

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    Quote Originally Posted by semaphore View Post
    Neither. The fact that you are bothered by it says are aren't a psychopath, or sick. It's just different reactions.

    I couldn't cry when my grandma died either, and I was like 13. I remember trying to cry but couldn't, and thinking it's my fault for watching so much porn. =(
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    She'd be alive it weren't for your obsession with porn.
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    Quote Originally Posted by semaphore View Post
    Neither. The fact that you are bothered by it says are aren't a psychopath, or sick. It's just different reactions.

    I couldn't cry when my grandma died either, and I was like 13. I remember trying to cry but couldn't, and thinking it's my fault for watching so much porn. =(
    Lol.

    Nah, op, you're okay.

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    Not at all. Not everyone cries, everyone handles it his or her own way.
    When my father passed away two years ago I didn't cry either. I was sad, I mourned, but I also accept that it is a part of life. The final one of course. Also it was not really unexpected as he led a very unhealthy life. I was almost surprised that he passed on due to aortic dissection instead of heart attack.
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    Quote Originally Posted by semaphore View Post
    Neither. The fact that you are bothered by it says are aren't a psychopath, or sick. It's just different reactions.

    I couldn't cry when my grandma died either, and I was like 13. I remember trying to cry but couldn't, and thinking it's my fault for watching so much porn. =(
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