No, you aren't emotionless for not caring about a girl whom you have nothing invested in. The girl made stupid decisions and will have to simply deal with the consequences. Her threats of suicide are an empty cry for attention, just like her photos were. Don't give her the attention she desperately wants.
You are not a bad person for not caring about an idiot. You are a normal person.
If she does off herself, it's simply Darwinism in action. Weeding out the emotionally/mentally/physically weak, one person at a time.
I remember that I found a picture of a very hot girl in my school on a porn site. I showed it one friend of mine but it never became a big topic.
You can't force yourself to care about somebody. The overwhelming majority of people who will claim to be outraged or distraught by this event are blatantly lying to both themselves and everyone around them. They think they care, but they feel nothing on an emotional level.
Borderline Personality Disorder.
Not always, of course. Most suicides (and suicide attempts) are for other reasons, like depression. I'm going to bet that the last thing this girl wants right now is more attention, so her suicide threat is probably more desperation than attention-seeking.
I know that you are reading this, and I approve.
this is everything thats wrong with the world... people saying its attention seeking, or that you dont care.. this is what is wrong with everything.
you SHOULD care when your fellow people are distressed, be they friends, family, or complete strangers.. why wouldnt you care for others? sure, in this day and age there ARE some who throw out the 'imma kill myself' card alot, but hell, Id rather fall for it and try talking to them, then risk going 'pff, whatever' and risk some poor soul actually taking their own life when I couldve intervened.
There are some seriously damaged and sad individuals in this thread.
I think you'd care if she actually committed suicide; I think what you're trying to say is you disapprove of her extreme reaction to these pictures.
good riddence to bad rubbish. You are not a bad person, you know how I know - because you were worried you might be. Bad people don't give a shit if they are bad or hurting someone's feelings. This bitch got what she deserves.. and her empty suicide threats are just another way to get attention. Good luck to all the real students at your school in your 10th grade year, study hard!
And to all the people on this thread that say this attitude is what's wrong with humanity, you and this Kim Kardasian attention seeking whore wanna-be can go **** yourselves. I say your ultra caring mommying of everything in society has made it soft and weak, and now full of plastic fake people that do shit just to make everyone look at them. Or kids running wild because their parents could be sent to jail for smacking them or disciplining them to put a little fear of repercussions into them, maybe a little respect for others, maybe even some respect for themselves and their bodies. You've F'ed up society, stop trying to brainwash people that take responsibilty for their actions and mistakes. If this bitch actually killed herself I might regain a tiny bit of respect for her... for now she is nothing but a little kimmie kardasian in training - which I personally could do without.
Last edited by Pendulous; 2013-01-28 at 01:53 AM.
wth...? In 7th grade we didn't even dare to kiss someone. Let alone sending nude or semi nude pictures to other students.
What has become of this youth?
Anyway... no, I think you are perfectly fine. What should you do anyways? Become her friend and save her? How? You can't make those pictures disappear.
It's to an extent her own fault in my eyes, now she's gotta deal with it. Threatening to commit suicide because of this is nothing but a cry for attention anyway. It's not like she's being hardcore stalked like Amanda Todd.
She has her friends and family to take care of her.. no need to have sleepless nights because of a stranger.
Last edited by StayTuned; 2013-01-27 at 10:16 PM.
But on topic no you are not emotionless and while I do feel that she was stupid for sending pictures to a guy that is nothing for her to kill herself about. If you know her just tell her it is nothing for her to kill herself about. Just look at all the sex tapes out their are those people are still living and happy.
Apperantly, it's become almost cultural for some groups with boyfriends and girlfriends who swap naked pictures with each other via instant communications. As ever, this blurs everything if you consider that an equivalent practice in previous decades would be swapping poloroid photos, probably a more intimate and private thing. I guess the sympathy ultimately lies with victims, and I don't like being on the side of the smirking majority, but this culture shift to sharing everything and anything across the internet can distort people's sense of perspective. I sometimes think both sides are idiots, the smirkers (for want of a better word) and the victims.
You're right StayTuned. She isn't being stalked afaik. Apparently this whole thing were going on for a week before i even heard of the pictures and stuff. I never hear people make fun of her or bully her about it.
About her sending nudes in 7th grade, yea... i dont know wtf was up with that. in 7th grade i barely could tell a girl i liked her. I guess girls just mature faster and want to do more daring stuff, and the few boys who mature as fast as them will take advantage like the guy who made her shoot the pictures did.
"When you want to succeed as bad as you want to breathe, then you'll be successful"
Last edited by Dedweight; 2013-01-27 at 10:15 PM.
I expect she will keep doing stuff like this for years and years, end up making some peoples lives very miserable or worse.
Yea... I don't think you are a bad person for not caring. You are not associated with her, so why should you? If you are actively being a part of the problem, that is a different story. But if I am understanding correctly, you are not doing that.
I do kinda feel sorry for this girl, though. She made a mistake as a kid, and now it has come back to bite her in the ass. Hopefully she will get past it and learn from it. Maybe not send pictures to boys over the internet anymore. I do think the whole suicide thing is a bit of an overreaction, but I think that about almost anyone who thinks suicide is the solution to anything. Unless you have a terminal illness that will kill you slowly and painfully, or your whole family has been killed, or something drastic like that, I feel like suicide is a crappy option for anything.