With that attitude, you'll almost be divorced before you got married - unless your wife was a golddigger, but who wants one of those ?
With that attitude, you'll almost be divorced before you got married - unless your wife was a golddigger, but who wants one of those ?
The grass is always greener - The times were always better
I'm colder than cold..... some people say I don't feel.........................
It is a big deal because your children will not be able to control their emotions when they get pissed or sad or anything else people as a whole experience from time to time. If they don't have a father as a role model in their home, where do you think they will pick up examples on how to deal with situations that don't suit them well? TV? Friends? If you want to have horrendous kids due to you being emotionally unavailable based on being *forced* to marry someone for the sake of wanting to when you wouldn't even give a shit about them really, go for it. You don't even sound like the type of person that could commit to things that actually take effort and work. It takes 2 people to raise kids well, not just one. It's not a split effort, its a joined one.
I cry when i watch Peta videos. I need to unsub from their channel. But i could have a light snack while watching Vice videos about syria or the cannibal warlords.
No, I am saying raise the best kids you can will the skill set you possess and be aware of the areas you lack in. I know if I raise my kids solely they will be emotional cripples. So that job will have to rest more on the person I marry. And that's just how the cookie is gonna crumble.
Relatively apathetic beyond my girlfriend and her kid, really. I've never gotten along with my siblings, was glad to be rid of my parents, feel little but contempt toward people who are over-sentimental or publicly emotional to any great degree. Death doesn't phase me nor do very many, if any, inevitabilities in life. The suffering of others, be they 'third world' citizens or otherwise, I at best ignore.
I wouldn't call myself a sociopath, but i'd undoubtedly call myself the most cold-hearted person I know; something for which i'm somewhat happy about. Truth be told, I wouldn't lament if more were like me given how annoying people seem to be in this day and age.
This person nailed it. Why bother to get married at all? If there's no passion, no love, then it is just a farce and pretty pointless. There's no need to have kids at all. Focus on your own life and do what you really want to do. If you are so apathetic about marriage or kids or whatever, then that's just a sign you don't want them enough.
Tax advantages and the advantages of having a dual income.
It may be surprising, but some actually do get married for convenience. I understand it... but I'll never agree to it.
I, myself, can never be cold-hearted. I actually find myself growing more and more warm these days. Hell, I don't even kill instects anymore in my house. I have strategic jars dotted around that should I see a bug - I just grab one of the plastic jars, capture them, go to the nearest window and let them out.
If people expect some divine galactic power to help them out in their time of need, how can those people not show the same mercy and compassion to those who are at comparatively the same level?
Quick pro-tip: Try to be good at "going through the motions", just so the squirt feels accomplished. Fathers are role models, and saying "Wow, that was really well done! Nice one!" to a 8yo boy can easily be something he remembers the rest of his life. The alternative is him believing you don't care until his late teens/early 20's, and building a father-son relationship at that point is too late for many.
OT: I wouldn't call it cold-hearted, but I am by nature the kind of guy described in the OP. Thankfully, I have a dad who is like that as well, so I've made extra effort to give my 10 years younger sister the "Good job!"'s and "Proud of you!"'s she needs. Only when deserved, mind. We no want no spoiled brat :P
Pretty much this. When I was younger, maybe 8 or maximum 10, I used to kill smaller animals like birds, I didn't care two cents about others around me and everyone pissed me off.
Today, I frequently donate to charity, hand out free apples to homeless people and after the summer I'll adopt a cat. And that's not even a lie. People do change, I guess.
Maybe it's just a phase...