Am I using my fiance if we decide that I be a stay at home dad? She is more calculating and rational and is already set in her career, while I am finishing my degree and looking for a career? (We haven't had kids nor are we planning to for awhile but we've talked about this.)
If shes ok with it and enjoys it, no. But if you're pushing or guilt tripping her into it, then yes. I mean if you told her what you said here and convinced her that you would make a better stay at home parent even though she might have wanted the same thing it would be using her.
I am unable to give a flying fuck about anybody I don't know, unless it is somebody that have experienced something truely gruesome. I am the complete opposite about the people I know, usually going out of my way by a great deal for them. Luckily I don't know a huge amount of people (due to the first thing I wrote obviously).