Dating Help! :O

**Championn** · 2013-01-30, 10:53 PM

I'm a softmore in high school and have never really been with a girl. I met this amazing girl and I've known her for about six months now. I started like-likeing her about three months ago. We talk almost every day as we have some classes together. Eventually we exchanged numbers as well and we text a lot, sometimes late into the night too. I seriously like her, we have tons of things in common like video games, music taste, etc. I really want to ask her out soon but in the past she told me she's not really the "dating" type, so I don't know if I should ask her on an actual date or just tell her I like her. Oh, but there's more. There is another guy who likes her. She asked him to a dance because she didn't want to go alone with her friends. She doesn't really like him that way though, what do I do?!?! I am crazy about her and can't stop thinking about her, and whenever I think about her I get this feeling in my chest that I love. I really am stuck. How and when should I tell her that I have feelings for her, and what should I do because of this other guy?!?! Thanks a ton for helping me I really appreciate it!

**muto** · 2013-01-30, 10:55 PM

Originally Posted by Championn

I'm a softmore in high school and have never really been with a girl. I met this amazing girl and I've known her for about six months now. I started like-likeing her about three months ago. We talk almost every day as we have some classes together. Eventually we exchanged numbers as well and we text a lot, sometimes late into the night too. I seriously like her, we have tons of things in common like video games, music taste, etc. I really want to ask her out soon but in the past she told me she's not really the "dating" type, so I don't know if I should ask her on an actual date or just tell her I like her. Oh, but there's more. There is another guy who likes her. She asked him to a dance because she didn't want to go alone with her friends. She doesn't really like him that way though, what do I do?!?! I am crazy about her and can't stop thinking about her, and whenever I think about her I get this feeling in my chest that I love. I really am stuck. How and when should I tell her that I have feelings for her, and what should I do because of this other guy?!?! Thanks a ton for helping me I really appreciate it!

How do you know this? Sounds like she has feelings for him instead if she asked him to the dance over you.

**zEmini** · 2013-01-30, 10:55 PM

You have bad one-itus. Sorry but you have already been friend zoned.

**MerinPally** · 2013-01-30, 10:56 PM

My avatar D:

**Henako** · 2013-01-30, 10:57 PM

Just tell her. Be straight up "Hey, I like you. I know you said you're not the dating type, but I'd like something more than friendship between us." Being straight up is always the best policy in this situation.

**Sam the Wiser** · 2013-01-30, 10:58 PM

Tell her you like her now before it's to late.

**zEmini** · 2013-01-30, 11:00 PM

Lie to her and say there is this other girl that ask you out and ask for her advice. Look at her mannerisms and then get back to us.

**Reeve** · 2013-01-30, 11:00 PM

Originally Posted by Championn

I'm a softmore in high school and have never really been with a girl. I met this amazing girl and I've known her for about six months now. I started like-likeing her about three months ago. We talk almost every day as we have some classes together. Eventually we exchanged numbers as well and we text a lot, sometimes late into the night too. I seriously like her, we have tons of things in common like video games, music taste, etc. I really want to ask her out soon but in the past she told me she's not really the "dating" type, so I don't know if I should ask her on an actual date or just tell her I like her. Oh, but there's more. There is another guy who likes her. She asked him to a dance because she didn't want to go alone with her friends. She doesn't really like him that way though, what do I do?!?! I am crazy about her and can't stop thinking about her, and whenever I think about her I get this feeling in my chest that I love. I really am stuck. How and when should I tell her that I have feelings for her, and what should I do because of this other guy?!?! Thanks a ton for helping me I really appreciate it!

Tell her about it. Best case scenario she feels the same way. Worst case scenario, she doesn't and rejects you utterly, which speeds you on your way to being over her and thinking about other girls. And you're really young and there will be LOTS of other girls.

I guess the third scenario is that she doesn't feel the same way, but doesn't let the fact that you feel that way bother her, and you stay friends. If this happens, you MUST get over her. If you can do that and actually stop feeling romantically for her, great, but if not, break contact. You're screwing yourself over if you keep mooning over her for a long period of time when she doesn't feel the same way.

**Championn** · 2013-01-30, 11:00 PM

Originally Posted by muto

How do you know this? Sounds like she has feelings for him instead if she asked him to the dance over you.

She told me one time.

**Red Burlap Bandana** · 2013-01-30, 11:01 PM

You should just be straight forward in a non pushy creepy way ofcourse. But yeah as you 2 already seem to be friends time to take the next step!

**muto** · 2013-01-30, 11:01 PM

Originally Posted by Championn

She told me one time.

Then just ask her if she wants to go bowling or something over the weekend. Don't go to the movies, there's no interaction there.

**Treelife** · 2013-01-30, 11:02 PM

Just ask her, if it doesn't work it doesn't work.

**Championn** · 2013-01-30, 11:02 PM

Originally Posted by zEmini

Lie to her and say there is this other girl that ask you out and ask for her advice. Look at her mannerisms and then get back to us.

What should I look for mannerisms-wise?

**b2121945** · 2013-01-30, 11:02 PM

Originally Posted by Championn

I really want to ask her out soon but in the past she told me she's not really the "dating" type

Welcome to friend zone, bro.
But seriously, tell her, if she doesn't like you, just forget about her and move on.

**scamander** · 2013-01-30, 11:04 PM

That feeling, is you probably being horny :P

No point being all soppy about it. I have a feeling that if she was planning to make a move she would have by now.
Do you talk to her girl friends? They would know who she likes.
She probably digs that guy she asked to dance with. Do not ruin a friendship by getting all creepy and needy and weird texts.
Play it cool.

Oh and really enjoy these times! I wish I could go back to before my first time, wish I wasnt as successful as I was at getting to the goal, that teenage struggle sounds like it could have been fun.

**Desparatus** · 2013-01-30, 11:05 PM

Originally Posted by Sam the Wiser

Tell her you like her now before it's to late.

This.

I've waited too damn long before, and lost my chance.

So what if she doesn't like this other guy now, who's to say she won't eventually fall for him?

She likes you, and you like her. Is there a smidgen of love on her end? Who knows, but there's only one way to find out.

In conclusion, don't be a fool. It's easy to panic, to think of the worst case scenario and play it over and over again in your head... but if you really do like her, isn't it worth it to know that she likes you? And even if she doesn't, you know. Trust me, knowing someone doesn't like you may hurt, but in the long run it's better than never knowing... that's something you never really move on from.

**zEmini** · 2013-01-30, 11:08 PM

Originally Posted by Championn

What should I look for mannerisms-wise?

Well i don't know the type of girl, but generally see if she is at all jealous. Does she ask a lot of questions about it, does her nose flair up, what does her body language tell you? It is kinda extra sensory imo.

**Reeve** · 2013-01-30, 11:08 PM

Originally Posted by Desparatus

This.

I've waited too damn long before, and lost my chance.

So what if she doesn't like this other guy now, who's to say she won't eventually fall for him?

She likes you, and you like her. Is there a smidgen of love on her end? Who knows, but there's only one way to find out.

In conclusion, don't be a fool. It's easy to panic, to think of the worst case scenario and play it over and over again in your head... but if you really do like her, isn't it worth it to know that she likes you? And even if she doesn't, you know. Trust me, knowing someone doesn't like you may hurt, but in the long run it's better than never knowing... that's something you never really move on from.

Heh, yeah, it sucks to find out at your ten year reunion that some currently married girl who you had a crush on in high school also had a crush on you.

**Ssith** · 2013-01-30, 11:14 PM

didn't read the thread, nor any of the responses. the answer is:

TALK TO HIM/HER!

that's ALWAYS the answer. stop being a pansy and just talk to the other person.

**Felfury** · 2013-01-30, 11:15 PM

Be more direct.

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