I certainly hate the term *girl gamer* I am a gamer fullstop just like anyone else that games be they female or male. This tag disturbs me quite a bit and doesn't seem to help females in the gaming community at all.
As to the rest of your post, to me sounds like childish games, which I can assure you men are just as capable of too, most women that play just want to play the game, they don't want drama and hassle. We aren't loggin in to bitch about folks behind their backs or cause hassle.
Not to mention alot of guys cause the drama between themselves and females in the first place, yet it's the women that are always seen as the *bad* guy in the situation.
I can also assure you that I as do many others have many female friends and male friends in game. Hell my guilds 50/50 female/male and has been for over 6 years, but I guess seeing as we're all pretty much mature and decent human beings we haven't had the issues that most people tend to think are caused by females.
Women and men can be just as emotional/nasty/sneaky as each other. Please stop using the *oh its a girl* excuse, we just want to play the game like any man out there, stop judging us by our sex.
As to the OP: Move on, honestly if she doesn't want to talk to you then leave it, she will either come around of her own accord, or won't. I know it sucks to lose friends, or have arguments, but sometimes you just have to walk away from it all, to save your own sanity. Go find a realm/guild that you can have fun on doing things you enjoy, meeting and making new friends. Goodluck
OP, it seems to me like you're the one stirring up crap. You state that your friend has asked you repeatedly to drop the issue, removed you from realID when you wouldn't and threatened to put you on ignore next if you don't drop the issue. If you value her friendship, you might want to consider dropping the issue.
You've mentioned more than one way your current raid leader is doing things wrong (in your opinion). He didn't take you back for retro raids, he wanted you guys to get gear, he's not kicking the bads. If your raid leader is so bad, why don't you step up and offer to lead? If not, then you need to either stfu, or leave the guild. Don't badmouth your raid leader. If you have an objection speak to him about it personally (whispers). Badmouthing him just creates stress and conflict in the guild.
You whispered the other GM about the guild buster . Which created enough drama that you were getting personal messages from other people. This is a problem. This is you creating drama. Drama that is now associated with your guild. While I'm sure your GM was considering transferring off of the dead server, and probably had been since the start of MoP. Your actions did contribute. It was quite possibly the straw that broke the camels back.
Finally: Do you have to always be right? Everything you posted was about how everyone else is wrong and you're always right. Try letting stuff go.
OP, You really need to learn how to be more concise with your words.
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The drama not worth it in the end. It best to just leave them all in the dust and forget about it.
I don't think this is a problem with females or Asperger's at all.
Do what best to make the game more enjoyable for you, not someone else.
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I'm not sure how Asperger's fits, or how one person's case would relate to another's. The disorder is labeled within the terms of a spectrum because it is so varied. Just saying these women are Autistic isn't a medical diagnosis and being socially deviant doesn't mean one has Autism.
I also agree that she seemed less dramatic and irrational here. If someone asks to have a subject dropped, they are avoiding drama, not instigating it.
Also, the fact that people even related this to being a 'female' problem is silly: Especially given the pedantic nature of the OP's post.
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OP, is The Velvet Hammer still going strong on Alleria, horde side? Was my original guild as an Orc warrior.
OT: sounds like you may just need a break from that server
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I'd like to keep this thread open, but I need people to keep replies to it on-topic and constructive. Seriously, stop the gender bashing.
Been in plenty of guilds like this the friendly ones who decide they want to start raiding though half are just "really nice people" who are always being carried. I don't raid anymore due to shit like that. I don't talk to anyone in game if I can avoid it anymore except for my brother and a few old friends. If I want to raid I use LFR and ignore the chat boxes.
I have to say this, it was kinda hard to read. With that said, I understand how you feel, it is hard to "move on" from a person you befriended on such a level. I would feel the same way as you do. If you felt like this girl was like a sister, then I understand. My suggestion is this, go with your guild, BUT give her some time. This just recently happen right, so emotions are still there. Give her some time and then talk to her.
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OK I read almost your complete post (I'm sorry, around 2 paragraphs before the end I just couldn't follow it anymore). Let me tell you something which could be a life lesson: sometimes you gotta let it all go and say, I'm packing my stuff and moving on. No guild is permanent, no realm is permanent, no game is permanent, no life is permanent. Nothing is permanent. Guilds come and go, that is just how it is. If you leave realm those who you miss you can add on BattleTag/realID. Leave your memories with your current guild for what they are (nostalgia) and just... woosh, move on.
You deserve better than all this drama crap. You do NOT need to clear your name, you do NOT need to defend yourself! This is your lack of self confidence speaking. Once you leave the rat hole these people mean nothing to you anymore (except in memories). You gotta choose for yourself here and move on. If they want to hear your story you can tell them, otherwise: screw them. Just move on, not to the elitist guild, but to a higher pop realm (play the track "Cappella - Move On Baby", make a level 1 character, and look for a guild needing a DK). On a high pop realm guilds have to compete even with good atmosphere and lack of drama (on a low pop realm there's little to no alternative or competition; therefore more drama and slack).
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As for Asperger or any kind of mental disability, when people start to use this as an excuse for poor behavior: take distance from these leeches. They apparently do not (or cannot) want to improve and shove mistakes off due to their disability, instead of behaving in a productive manner. Do you really think, for example, that someone with Asperger could use that to break the rules on MMOC? The mods would need to make all kind of exceptions that way. If there's too many of these people with mental disabilities together they can stimulate each other and be a ticking time bomb while one isolated case can be dealt with. You really don't want to be among too many of these people though: they'll drain your batteries.
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I am not stretching truth by any imagination, hell a girl was responsible for fucking up my first guild. But I am NOT and never will be 'that girl'. And I have gone to extremes to make that so and make sure my behaviour is fitting a raider first, a gamer second and a girl...somewhere down after another couple of facts about me. I don't gossip about people unless they are in the chat and know I am joking. I don't respond to any unfounded negatives sent my way in a disruptive manner and I make sure I pull my weight.
Accepting a 'template' for what a girl gamer is is hurting us all as a demographic and reading crap like that really doesn't make my day.
Also men in here who are half joking but implying they're not. Good grief what are you thirteen? This is not the gentlemens club. And yes I look down on you for it. Does it matter to you? Hmm probably not. But know why I am. And maybe think.
I refer to my first answer for this post. Attempt to mend your relationships if they mean anything to you. Upon failure, or success, move on. You'll feel better about it with time.
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