The problem with rape cases is that it's often a case of "he says, she says".
I think because of 2 things.
1 IF they are indeed real most men don;t want to admit it. Same reason most people don't want toa dmit that maybe just maybe some of the mass murderers are either just nuts or are people who snapped..REAL monsters are terrifying in the first case in the second it;s the idea that they might have it within themselves.
2. Is that we haven;t seen the sources and statistics ARE kinda easy to bend to say what you want ESPECIALLY in cases like this.
Now don't get me wrong i've known/know several women who were raped and i swear if i ahd the power and right those men would make scenes from gore porn look like my little pony just had a kid with carealot. But i'd rather keep even all massmurdering psychos in history on the street then have even one innocent person locked up in prison.
Slightly off topic: In my opinion it seems the main issue here is some men (and even some women, I know I work with one at least), who can often be quite vocal are either unaware or ignorant of the facts regarding rape statistics.
The fact is very few rapists are accused of rape (due to women being too scared of having to relive the situation or fear of not being believed) of those that are accused very few are arrested and even then very few of these are convicted, to add more to this already insulting statistic; of those convicted a tiny percentage are falsely accused, yet stories that meet this criteria are often the ones that grab the most attention in the media and are often cited in discussions such as these.
I do find it very sad that people like Semaphore are persecuted for simply stating fact and quite frankly being incredibly fair, but sadly it's a far too familiar situation whenever someone decides to stand up and go against the status quo.
The fact of the matter is when discussions like this happen, the point of the topic is that women being raped and or sexually assaulted by men is a large issue. Some statistics don't always make this issue obvious (for example only taking into account accusation reported to police) and some people (often men) can't help but cry out "Men can get raped too!" or "Some men were falsely accused!" both of these are true and are both very serious issues, but aren't part of this discussion.
Last edited by mmoc54383361f3; 2013-02-11 at 01:36 PM.
In direct response to the OP:
I can't speak for everyone, but I can tell you what happened with me.
My mom had a bad experience with 1 man who abused her as a young teenager. This man was a guy she was involved with for years that she trusted very much. The terrible things he did to her lead to a perpetual distrust of men that never went away. She drilled into my head constantly during my upbringing that all men, especially the ones I don't know, want to rape and kill me.
She pounded this in so deep into my head. From the moment I was old enough to understand words.
That I couldn't be alone in the vicinity of a man I don't know for YEARS. It took me literally 4 years to deprogram myself. Male teacher. Family friend. Friend of a friend. Professional helping me with whatever. Whatever it was, I felt so uncomfortable being near a man I don't know that even as an ADULT I needed supervision to feel safe. It was beyond ridiculous and it's taking me years move beyond it.
I'll always be rather hesitant....but at least I'm not that bad anymore.
As for other women? I can't say. I've not met any that were as bad as me.
The problem with this particular discussion is that BOTH groups data is hard to trust. There are DEFINITELY a nice amount of unreported cases as well as things that by all logic shouldn't be rape(the drunk consentor). BUT as for the mens side it also depends. Becayuse not ALL are real rape(of course i am NOT saying even .01% are false).
My point is that i can think of no finer subject to quote mark twain with. "There are three kinds of lies.Lies, damned lies and statistics"
Thus i'd say neither party can TRULY claim victory but that both can also agree that there is a problem on both sides.