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    Are you more attracted towards people of the same sex....

    When it comes to friendship and nothing more? For example on high school you have your group of populair girls and all of those girls look relatively good/attractive.
    While the ugly betty may have a nice and cool personality fitting her in that group often doesen't seem to work out.
    I also used to see it on community websites like myspace when i was younger.
    People often would add girls/guys that they met in game because they were decent or good looking.
    Do you prefer to choose to hang out with guys/girls who look good or attractive? Or do you really not care when you're only looking for friendship and friendship alone?

    I do however think this is a bigger issue with girls than guys but i might be wrong on that.
    I hope this post makes a bit of sense, I don't really know how to explain it in another way =/
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    Quote Originally Posted by Kujako View Post
    Nope, quite the opposite. I find my own sex to be physically repulsive. Which is why I call shenanigans on the whole "homosexuality is a choice" thing.
    did you not read the post?

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    I mostly hang out with members of the opposite sex as I can be more comfortable in their company I guess
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    Quote Originally Posted by Gamdwelf View Post
    did you not read the post?
    Strange as it may sound, this seems to have been posted in response to the wrong post and the one I was after is now gone... simular title threw me off. Correcting it.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Gamdwelf View Post
    did you not read the post?
    beat me to it...lol

    but on topic, Im a guy, and I tend to hang out with more females then i do other guys. I have 2-3 guys friends, and like 8 female friends...and normally if im going out to the bar or something I invite the girls out.

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    I'm friends equally with people of both sexes. As an adult, though, I find it easier to meet and get to know new women (opposite sex) than men, since it's a bit less weird to invite them to go do things.
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    My oldest and closest friends are all men. To the point that my wife became jealous of them ^^ However the juicy bit is that it is another girl who I can talk best with about anything sex related - and she is not my wife. Life is interesting indeed. When it comes to friendship and friendship alone, looks don't matter.
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    One cause is a cognitive bias called projection bias. Essentially living inside your own head your entire life makes it exceedingly difficult to understand how others do not also live your same life, think your same thoughts, and hold your same beliefs. In many cases it's quite frustrating to try to empathize and understand why you yourself may not be the center of the universe, which generally results in one 'acting out' in various ways.
    So, in short: the internet.

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    All of my close friends are male (I'm female). I'm not a girly girl and I've yet to meet a female that shared my interests with me (I like games, computers, reptiles, hip-hop and metal...) although I'd love to actually meet some ladies with the same interests, I think that my chances are pretty slim. Looks wise I have never picked friends because of attractiveness and I honestly don't think I would care.

    I suspect high school is very different to adulthood in that respect, especially with girls, you do tend to get the "popular / good looking" clique, but I seriously doubt most adults into their mid 20s-30s and onwards pick friends based on gender or looks.
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    I've had some of the best female friends I could ever ask for in the past, but later on in life I just can't stand a lot of other girls. I don't necessarily shy away from them because they can still can be awesome, but I've experienced that they can be downright selfish, dramatic or just plain annoying. Guys that I've been friends with usually were always more fun and laid back as well as being more true to their selves. As a female, I might prefer male friends because of common interests because im not very girly.
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    My partner (work) is a woman and we get along great. I can't say i have a whole lot of people i would consider close friends as i like my own space but i have more female than male friends. Can't say i look at the sexes when it comes to something such as this, it just... happens i guess.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Shamanic View Post
    All of my close friends are male (I'm female). I'm not a girly girl and I've yet to meet a female that shared my interests with me (I like games, computers, reptiles, hip-hop and metal...) although I'd love to actually meet some ladies with the same interests, I think that my chances are pretty slim. Looks wise I have never picked friends because of attractiveness and I honestly don't think I would care.

    I suspect high school is very different to adulthood in that respect, especially with girls, you do tend to get the "popular / good looking" clique, but I seriously doubt most adults into their mid 20s-30s and onwards pick friends based on gender or looks.
    I have to admit that though I haven't consciously done this, all of my female friends have always been good looking.
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    My best friends are male(I'm male).

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    I suppose my question came off a bit wrong but i meant it more in the way if you pick your friends based on looks or have it playing a big role on who you befriend and who not.
    Just like when you're dating someone you tend to go by looks first and then personality.

    When you look long enough, Diglett's nose turns into a mouth with 1 tooth!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Tiing View Post
    I suppose my question came off a bit wrong but i meant it more in the way if you pick your friends based on looks or have it playing a big role on who you befriend and who not.
    Just like when you're dating someone you tend to go by looks first and then personality.
    Yeah..when I date somebody, I go by looks first (there have been exeptions..but that is how I am..sometimes things happen). But my FRIENDS (and I have like 3 people that I call friends - true friends. People you will always be together with, who help you no matter what. Who know more about me than my wife) ..my friends I met at school, when girls were no subject, when I was 10..or 12. I literally have real friends that I know longer than the person I am sort of still married to.
    Originally Posted by Blizzard Entertainment
    One cause is a cognitive bias called projection bias. Essentially living inside your own head your entire life makes it exceedingly difficult to understand how others do not also live your same life, think your same thoughts, and hold your same beliefs. In many cases it's quite frustrating to try to empathize and understand why you yourself may not be the center of the universe, which generally results in one 'acting out' in various ways.
    So, in short: the internet.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Tiing View Post
    I suppose my question came off a bit wrong but i meant it more in the way if you pick your friends based on looks or have it playing a big role on who you befriend and who not.
    Just like when you're dating someone you tend to go by looks first and then personality.
    I want to say no I don't, but it wouldn't surprise me if I do and I don't notice it. I only have two people I would consider friends and they're both male and average looking.
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    Me as a guy

    I honestly don't care if you're skin to the bone,big,tall,short,pretty,ugly

    As long as you're nice,kind,generous and show trust

    A friend is a friend..regardless of height,weight and color


    I only have one best friend which is all i'll really need...the rest of the people i talk to are just Acquaintances

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    No need for 100 pennies(friends)..when you can have a good dollar (best friend)
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    Quote Originally Posted by Break The Ice View Post
    I want to say no I don't, but it wouldn't surprise me if I do and I don't notice it. I only have two people I would consider friends and they're both male and average looking.
    I am pretty sure girls consider "looking" when it comes to friendship. I've never seen a super hot girl or decent looking girl is friend with an ugly fat guy. I don't say impossible but it's very rare.

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    In my opinion, too many people think that looks don't matter. But they do. Attractive people are perceived as smart and nice people, whereas an ugly person might come off as an arrogant prick. So, people are drawn to attractive people first, when it comes to making new friends, but in the end, when you get to know the person, the personality takes over. I don't see my friends as attractive/unattractive, I just see them as a person I like to hang out with. From an analytical perspective though, most of my friends are pretty attractive. Not all, but most. A correlation between attractiveness and good personality does exist.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kuntantee View Post
    I am pretty sure girls consider "looking" when it comes to friendship. I've never seen a super hot girl or decent looking girl is friend with an ugly fat guy. I don't say impossible but it's very rare.
    Well..that is taking it to an extreme - but women are definitely "special" or should I say...different than men in that regard? This is by no way empiric, but there were a few girls who I was attracted to and who kinda danced the "I am not ready for a relationship" dance and then a year later I met them with their new boyfriend and I was "WTF..not with me but you take...THAT?"
    Originally Posted by Blizzard Entertainment
    One cause is a cognitive bias called projection bias. Essentially living inside your own head your entire life makes it exceedingly difficult to understand how others do not also live your same life, think your same thoughts, and hold your same beliefs. In many cases it's quite frustrating to try to empathize and understand why you yourself may not be the center of the universe, which generally results in one 'acting out' in various ways.
    So, in short: the internet.

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    I don't care about how somebody looks, just as long as they're fun to hang out with. I also for some reason prefer to hang out with guys (not homosexuel or anything, i just seem to be more comfortable around guys) than with girls.

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