no good reason to get married these days

[Cybran]

Valuable to the reproductive process itself, yes, but in terms of the intent behind reproduction it is actually less advantageous because producing offspring requires the uterus to be occupied for nine months at a time.

It became an advantage when the other gender decided that his best chance of spreading his genes is by wooing and providing for females. Of course it's not an advantage in leopards and cheetahs, but we aren't talking about them, are we? Throughout history only about 50% of adult human males have managed to leave kids while the number of females is close to 100%, how is that not an advantage?

[Zhangfei]

My wife is awesome. She was good enough reason to do almost anything.

/manly mode

[PSG32095]

um.....taxes. Its the perfect reason to get married.

[Shypanda88]

I'd have to say my family is full of happy marriages. They also didn't get married after 2 months of dating each other like most idiots these days. I find marriage to be just one of those things, where you either want to or you don't. For me, it's a romantic idea of marrying someone and settling down, having children. If someone has your children and you love them why not?

You though, seem like there is no reason to. You have '5 women on the side' and sex seems to be what you think marriage is about, which it's not. Silly you. Also, you may think all women want to be housewives, but no not all of us do. I do not strive to stay at home all day and sit on my ass. I'm not paying to go to college just to do so. It also depends where you stand with your own kids though, do you want a nanny or your lady to take care of them until they are old enough to take care of themselves around their house.

*shrug*
I've been with the same man for three years and we still have not gotten engaged. I'm happy we waited, because we have gone through some of the toughest struggles as a couple. I could only imagine how much worse it would've been if we were married. You may think your 'safe' married, but in all honesty, who wants to get married just so their person can't leave them? It says a lot about a guy who stuck around through everything WITHOUT being married. Yes, I desire it one day and I desire his children. We are traditional and our families are happily married. It's not as rare as everyone thinks.

[Djuntas]

And couples can't be together without being married? Guess its a european thing maybe...

[Seirith]

no good reason to get married these days! Can anyone think of a good point of getting married!

1. I get sex on a regular basis.

You might get sex on a regular basis but there is more to the world than sex. How many of those 6 girls you say you have would help you out if you were in the hospital for a week or got hurt and couldn't drive for 6 weeks? Would any of those 6 girls help you pay bills if you lost your job or be there to support you when something bad in life happens? Doubtful.

On the other hand since I am married I get sex and someone who also cares about me and our life together.

[naturestorm]

You might get sex on a regular basis but there is more to the world than sex. How many of those 6 girls you say you have would help you out if you were in the hospital for a week or got hurt and couldn't drive for 6 weeks? Would any of those 6 girls help you pay bills if you lost your job or be there to support you when something bad in life happens? Doubtful.

On the other hand since I am married I get sex and someone who also cares about me and our life together.

Any how does being married do that as a guarantee? His wife could leave him at any chance he gets sick or he is in debt just the same as a girlfriend or female friend with benefits. To be fair, people marry in the vast majority of civilized country so they split the expenses and can get some benefits more then they marry for true love.

And I do find the ultimate test to be a non-married couple that act better then the average married couple and astill remain the same, not bound by any "law stated formality" such as marriage.

Here in my EU country they even marry just to do the wedding since weddings it's a huge money/good income source. Add to that the "first house" program for newlyweds or good credit loans and down the line 3-5 years later the married couple experience the real tests (as in money struggle, someone cheats, someone gets bored, one can't have children, etc..) and either contiue to stay married to have some benefits or split.

[Roose]

I think that a lot of people are starting to see that there is no right way to live. You do not have to have a family in order to be happy and successful.

Personally, I would love to get married eventually. I am 30 now and really do not feel a rush. That will change towards 40 surely. I simply do not want the added burden of responsibility. A family forces you to do things that you would not do otherwise to support them. I watched my father ruin his health and well being providing for my family, because he had to. When you start a family early you really do not get to control your life.

I have gone towards a drastic opposite view on marriage where I will not do it until I am financially stable and have enough free time to raise my kids. I also do not see the point in getting married unless you are going to make a family. That may change should I meet the right person, though.

Some people can't live without a partner. That is why we see these divorce rates like they are. People can't live alone and rush into relationships and marriages.

[Seirith]

I also do not see the point in getting married unless you are going to make a family.

This statement is one of my biggest pet peeves as someone who is married and child free. I hate when people say that someone is not a family until they have children. My husband and I are a family. We have blended our lives and finances into one and make decisions on what we are going to do together, that is a family.

[Roose]

This statement is one of my biggest pet peeves as someone who is married and child free. I hate when people say that someone is not a family until they have children. My husband and I are a family. We have blended our lives and finances into one and make decisions on what we are going to do together, that is a family.

Family is an extremely loose term. I consider my close friends "family" too. I view a married couple as more of a partnership or union (two become one), but call yourself whatever because it is all just semantics. I definitely do not think that you need to have kids in order to have a family. Anyone can have a family, even if they have no other direct blood or spouse.

[Pfeff]

Your #3 is so funny how it will change the second you have a kid