Inc story (il try and keep it short).
I met this girl in a party on friday, a girl i was in a studygroup with at the university last year. We had alot of fun on friday, so i asked her to come over to my place and watch a movie/eat on saturday (call it a date if you will), she accepted.
She came over yesterday, we had a great time, we ate, watched move, talked etc.
Inc the (the wierd part). So we started to make out, then she backed away and asked "Have you ever cheated on your girlfriend in a relationship?". I had no idea why she asked, and i didnt know what to answer. But i decided to tell her the truth. (That i had), incase she had heard it from my ex, a friend of a friend etc. After i did, she became all defensive, short answers and "have to leave". Hah..
Still dont understand why she would ask that, if she was going to decide if i was an "asshole" or not, could she not have asked me before?
So i suppose since i cheated once, im always a cheater in her eyes, and maybe many of you think the same thing. But that is not really correct tho.(Imo) We are humans, and humans make mistakes. Is it not silly to say "that mistake will never be fixed/forgiven?"
I have seen over many threads here on MMO-C aswell that "hate" towards someone who have cheated, as in comments like "fuck that cheating whore" etc.
And question is.
1: Have you ever cheated on your girlfriend/boyfriend - Wife/Husband?
2: If you did, was it a simple kiss? more?
3: Did you tell them you did?, did he/she forgive you?
4: Are you trying to find an excuse, (as in "I was drunk", "Men/women have needs!") Or do you accept you made a mistake and regret it?
5: Have someone cheated on you? Did you forgive them?
6: If you started a relationship with someone. Or knew that he/she had cheated on someone before going out with them, would you break up/not go out with them?
7: If you know a person who have cheated. (Cheated = always a cheater) Will you always think of that person as that? And never forgive their mistake. If so, why? (explain)
I guess i will start answer the questions.
2: I slept with someone else.
3: I told her, because i knew what i had done was wrong. I dont think she forgave me truly, but she wanted to continue the relationship. (We broke up).
4: I accept that i did a mistake, and regret hurting her the way i did. My excuse.. We didnt really work, and i should have broken up with her, but i didnt because i hoped it could still be a way for us to work, i was wrong.
5: No, and no i wouldnt forgive that.
6: I wouldnt break up over that. And it depends on what kind of woman it was, if i really liked her, it wouldnt matter if she had or not.
7: Like i said ^. Humans make mistakes, and sometimes we do stupid things. Dont think we should be haunted by one mistake for the rest of our lives tho.