When you look at another person, how do you decide if the person is a success or a loser/failure/etc?
I was raised to be frugal with my money and never 'show off' what you really have and as a result my wife has to put up with comments from her family every time she sees them and comes home upset as a result. On her last visit her father went so far as to advocate me getting a viscectomy because we were too poor to have any more kids.
I long ago stopped going with my wife to visit them because of the comments they make and the fact that they worship the ground other family members walk on because those individuals like to pretend they're rich (many of these same people are drowning in debt and a paycheck or two from financial collapse).
There are obvious signs that my wife and I aren't hurting if you look beyond the superficial shit but comments of applying for food stamps has come up more than once.
As much as I'd like to, it feels wrong to tell my wife not to see her family and I don't think telling my kids they can't see their grandparents any more is the right choice. I refuse to change my principles and spend money on shit I don't care about to impress others.