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    Unhappy 1200+ Days Played. A Tale of a WoW Addict.

    Hi all, I started playing World of Warcraft Vanilla just the week it was out, almost 8 years ago. Since then, I have been playing the game almost 9 hours a day on average, and occasionally up to 12 hours a day when it came to farming. There is total of more than 1200 played days on all my characters combined.

    I was first led into WoW because I didn't had any friends, and my grades were failing in high school, and I had needed a place of solace to retreat to in order to hide myself from my life's failures. I received a very large inheritance from my grandparents who passed away, and I was thus able to live in seclusion for many years without having to worry about working or studying. In fact, I can still go on playing for another decade or so before I am finally forced to work.

    Since then, I have played every class in the game, and have 12 characters, of which 8 of them are level 85s clad in high-end epic gear.

    However, WoW has lost its charm ever since, and I no longer find myself capable of finding the game fulfilling. Back then I played it for the following reasons:

    1) There was an air of innocence when I played it, because the world was so large, and I felt humbled by the vastness of the world.
    2) Every experience was worth experiencing, and was centered at the present instead of the past or the future.
    3) There was no need to get epic gear, focus on DPS in raids, or find ways to defeat others in 1 v 1 or arena setting. It was just pure joy regardless of how bad I was.
    4) Every player was new, and there was this genuinely serene feel to everything around me. I was curious and excited to carry on adventures, so were everyone else.
    5) It was so realistic back then, that I literally found my life's purpose in whole. Everyday, I would get up just to play WoW.

    So for a year or so, I was entrenched in WoW, exploring every detail, and appreciating every moment. I found my self-esteem and sense of worth and awe based on WoW exploration. There was just so much beauty to explore.

    However, eventually, the original charm of WoW was lost, and with the exception of the starting phases of each expansion, I found myself doing the following:

    1) Focusing on farming
    2) DPSing
    3) Doing arenas
    4) Getting only good gear and items
    5) Dueling
    6) Showing off my characters

    The main reason why I could not quit, is simply because ... I have no other option. WoW has defined me. Everything in WoW has become a substitute for things in real life, and I cannot get out. In fact, I get the following from playing WoW:

    1) Social Status: being a guildmaster, and being exalted to many factions.
    2) Self-Esteem and Self-Worth: being knowledgeable about all classes and most dungeons and raids, and professions.
    3) Profession: literally, professions across all my characters.
    4) Friends: guild members and associated members
    5) Fashion: my gear and possessions
    6) Money: my possessions and gold
    7) Need for Novelty: exploring new things in WoW, especially during expansions
    8) Entertainment: PvP, BGs, Arena, raids, dungeons etc.

    I have been playing WoW for so long, that I simply do not have anything in real life that can substitute all these possessions.

    It eventually got to the point whereby I just lost interest in WoW. However, with MoP coming up, I might regain that interest after a while. I am not sure what will become of me in the future, but I will continue to WoW, and more so when MoP is released, and for future expansions. It's not that I like the game at this time, but rather because I simply have nothing more which I like more than WoW.

    So this is my story. I cannot reveal my account or identity though, but I am saying this because of my own acknowledgement of how extreme WoW addiction has been for me.

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    Hey m8,

    Start maybe hitting the gym slowly to start building ur confidence up again, even start off with walks if you unfit and build your body up a bit.

    Wow has never been so easy to quit as it is now, putting time into a game that doesn't reward time and effort like it used to is even more of a waste now.

    You've seen the sub drops this last 1/4 and I am sure out of those 3 million that quit in cata a lot of people were in your shoes. I know you will feel that you have put so much time into the game that you can't let go, but I am sure it did provide you with good memories anyways.

    Also think about how many great moments you've had since TBC and ulduar and see if that number has decreased.

    This game isn't worth the time anymore even with MoP where they adding meaningless filler content to try keep people online. The challenge is gone and if you are this dedicated to something use that dedication to do something you enjoy in the real world.
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    It's not that I like the game at this time, but rather because I simply have nothing more which I like more than WoW.
    This is because you haven't lived much of your own real life yet, to put it bluntly.

    Therapy is always a good option, it's helping me with similar problems, though not specific to WoW.

    Start maybe hitting the gym slowly to start building ur confidence up again, even start off with walks if you unfit and build your body up a bit.

    Wow has never been so easy to quit as it is now, putting time into a game that doesn't reward time and effort like it used to is even more of a waste now.
    Absolutely this. To avoid flaming I will quietly agree with the second line of this quote as well as the first.

    Getting out of your comfort zone is one of the hardest things in the world when you've basically never done it in the past 8 years or so, but as they say, the first step is always the hardest. You're not alone mate.
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    In Japan this lifestyle is called hikikomori. There sure are people like this all over the world, but I think it has received the most attention over there, as it is being examined since the 1980s. They have an estimated two million and counting.
    So if you get over the first step, that is admitting you have a problem and want to do something about it, you should look up information related to this term.

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    I would not suggest you return to MoP. I love WoW and it's very rare that I would say this to someone, but from your post it seems as though WoW is very destructive to you because it is giving you a false sense of all the things you have listed as worth. These things are not real, they may make you feel good temporarily but there's a fine line between being an avid player and being an addict who falsely believes the game is what's best for them. Clearly you recognise you have a problem, I would also recommend therapy or counselling of some sort to try and help you build your confidence and find out why you don't feel you can achieve these things outside of WoW.


    1) Social Status - try and meet some people. Join a community class or hobby where you can meet like minded people. Even if it's just one night a week of doing something organised with other people. If you're athletic, this could be a sport, if not, then you could get a qualification or you could go to a book club or a pottery meeting or I don't know, your local college probably has a lot of part time courses for all ages.
    2) Self-Esteem and Self-Worth - You should not need a game to feel these things. As you work on everything else listed here you will get these things back but honestly it may help to talk to someone about why you don't feel you have worth outside a video game.
    3) Profession - do you have a job? If not, time to get one If you're not qualified, again, you can do part time or night classes and try and further yourself to help you find a career. A job will also help you meet social requirements since you'll meet new people. No matter what your age, you can always improve yourself, and again your local community college is likely to have a careers advisor if you do want to improve your education to improve your job prospects.
    4) Friends - this one sort of goes with number 1 so I've already said a bunch of stuff on that.
    5) Fashion - whilst materialism is not an amazing thing, everyone should be able to feel like they like their clothes, their style and their possessions without bowing to materialism completely. There are a lot of steps you can take to give you self confidence, from as little as seeing a hair stylist and getting a few new clothes. Possessions wise it doesn't take a lot of money to do some research on interior design and with a bit of thrify shopping you can be proud of your living space. Start in small steps. If you're not happy with your self image you 110% have the power to change it. If you're not happy with your body image then it can be as simple as buying a workout dvd and committing yourself to it, riding a bike around to get some exercise or signing up to a gym.
    6) Money - goes with a job really.
    7) Need for Novelty - you can find new things in real life too, go to a website about your city and just pick one random thing you've never done before, a museum or a park or a pub or nightclub or restaurant or mall or whatever.
    8) Entertainment - movies, books, other games, I don't know, but there are waaaay more options out there than playing wow for entertainment

    If you want to change your life you can. It's no good saying I only find these things in a game - because have you truly wanted to change and find them outside a game. Forging a life for yourself is hard work and it's always easier to just say well I find all these things in wow so I'll play that, but that is a false belief - wow will not be there forever and the rest of your life will (well, forever for you anyway) so you need to build on your life and THEN play games like wow as additional entertainment and fun.

    I did not mean to come off as a crazy self-help guru, sorry!
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    I don't see what the big deal is. I don't go out regularly, but I'm not completely disconnected from the outside and yet I can tell you you're not missing much in real life. You can both play WoW and have your window open, thus you're seeing real life. Call me ignorant, but stopping playing WoW just to go and sit in your garden for 10 minutes? No thanks.
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    1200 days played....my gut O.o I know its out there...but seing it inn a thread. Feels better about my 350-400 days played yet again.

    Thats an amasing number. Anywho I went and googled hikikomori, and read abit. Seems more as a form of depression than being socialy akward or something.

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    Like someone said, it's easier now than ever to quit wow. Time to explore what life itself has to offer. Perhaps going to school or get a job isnt such a bad idea? A chance to get out of the house, meet none-gamer people and just get your mind on something else. Even though you aren't forced to since you got money to survive, it's for your own good. If you can't find the strenght then therapy might be a helpful choice. I guess being inside for 8years hit your real life social skills quite hard and the world outside might seem scary. If you don't feel certain about getting a full time job, or go to school therapy might help you with babystepping into being able to spend more time outside the home. Or perhaps study part-time or take a part-time job?
    Having a job or school is better for people than they might think, not just in terms of income and potential increased future income, but also that you are getting outside, socialize and do something with yourself.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Sareth View Post
    I don't see what the big deal is. I don't go out regularly, but I'm not completely disconnected from the outside and yet I can tell you you're not missing much in real life. You can both play WoW and have your window open, thus you're seeing real life. Call me ignorant, but stopping playing WoW just to go and sit in your garden for 10 minutes? No thanks.
    Judging by the way you conducted your post it seems you're also in a similar situation as the OP, just not far enough down the line to realise.

    Either that or you're disregarding life in it's entirety.

    I guess being inside for 8years hit your real life social skills quite hard and the world outside might seem scary.
    This hit me after about 2 and a half years of WoW, so yeah. The OP most likely has a much more cloudy view of things.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Zolascius View Post
    Judging by the way you conducted your post it seems you're also in a similar situation as the OP, just not far enough down the line to realise.

    Either that or you're disregarding life in it's entirety.



    This hit me after about 2 and a half years of WoW, so yeah. The OP most likely has a much more cloudy view of things.
    No, not really. I have a normal life, in some terms. I'm looking for a job, I go out when I need to. Sorry, but there is nothing dark and sinister going on there. I don't go out unless I need to, because I don't see the need in pretending I like people. I don't want to be a dick-head prick and go out clubbing, I don't want to meet new vien and shallow people. I have maybe 300 days played. I'm not addicted to WoW, I'm not addicted to anything. I do however spend the majority of life on my computer because going out is pointless. If you could persuade me into going out without using the word money or sex, then I'd love to hear some reasons why I should.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Sareth View Post
    No, not really. I have a normal life, in some terms. I'm looking for a job, I go out when I need to. Sorry, but there is nothing dark and sinister going on there. I don't go out unless I need to, because I don't see the need in pretending I like people. I don't want to be a dick-head prick and go out clubbing, I don't want to meet new vien and shallow people. I have maybe 200 days played. I'm not addicted to WoW, I'm not addicted to anything. I do however spend the majority of life on my computer because going out is pointless. If you could persuade me into going out without using the word money or sex, then I'd love to hear some reasons why I should.
    Fair enough. I was bluffing that time.

    For some people though it's simply just to avoid getting depressed etc, mental health issues and the like.. definitely not discounting social anxiety which is prob. one of the more commonly associated ones.

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    I don't think you should completely quit something you have put so much time and money on. Just play less. I have kind of similar situation, the only difference is that I only play an average of 2 hours a day at the moment (more when MoP comes out). I think you should start with reading good books. It may sound boring at first but when you get into it, it is very exciting.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Zolascius View Post
    Fair enough. I was bluffing that time.

    For some people though it's simply just to avoid getting depressed etc, mental health issues and the like.. definitely not discounting social anxiety which is prob. one of the more commonly associated ones.
    You could say I have some mental health issues in that I hate most people, but that has nothing to do with not going out. I'd probably be worse in that department if I did go out and see how fucked up everyone is on a more regular basis.
    'Lord Sargeras, sweep your molten fist through this world, so that it may be reborn in flames and darkness!'
    'So the light's vaunted justice has finally arrived.'
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    Quote Originally Posted by tomislav View Post
    WoW has defined me. Everything in WoW has become a substitute for things in real life, and I cannot get out.
    Games are games. They are meant to be fun.

    The moment you'll realize that Wow did nothing good for you (in the long run) is totally worth the efforts it requires you to stop playing. It's totally okay to be dedicated to a game that you love if that helps you. And that was the deal when you started this game. Great. But now it feels like it doesn't anymore.
    Don't kill all those wonderful memories you must have had with Wow by forcing yourself playing something that doesn't bring joy anymore.

    You think now that Wow has defined you, but it didn't (at least in a good way). Just the fact that you posted this means you are realizing this.
    You are so much more than you give yourself credit for.

    Give yourself a chance : stop dreaming your life and start living your dream mate.

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    Try to pick up a new game to take your mind completely of WoW, and try to gradually decrease the amount of hours you play a day. Like people before me said, hitting the gym is good and will help you establish new routines.

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    Holy !@#%. Got about 280 days /played total. Started back in 2005. So about 840 hours out of 8760 hours a year - average 2 1/2 hours a day? xD
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    Tomislav, I agree with the other guys on exercising. Maybe create a Fitocracy account? It'll give you game-like goals to achieve with real life benefits. I was addicted to WoW for a few years from when it was released, I found my confidence drop and when I'd go outside I really didn't want to be there. Interacting with people was difficult and I felt like I was missing out on opportunities in-game, when really it was the other way around.

    Sareth, it sounds like you're pretty content in how you're living life which is good. Maybe you've just been really unlucky with the people you've met, have you tried going to group events related to things you're interested in?

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    Well then you need to find a new challenge in your life!

    Easiest: pick up an old t shirt, a pair of shorts some old shoes, a towel and a copy of Mark Rippetoes Starting Strength, head to the nearby gym and get working. You will get hooked before you know it!

    Other ideas:
    -if you have enough money start traveling! Join a cruise, then some safari, or some expedition in Tibet, you will meet TONS of new and interesting people and have ALOT of fun.
    -do some studies, something chalenging and profitable like Law or Buisness management
    -learn some skills, like painting or dancing or whatever, you will definately meet alot of people and have many chalenges
    -etc etc, you get the point

    What you shouldnt do is waste money with "friends" and girls in clubs and whatnot, might be fun for a while but you will feel sorry afterwards. Or drugs, dont do that !

    My story is similar with yours, i have maby 600 days played around chars, and just like you sometimes i would wake up just to play wow. Lukily for me i had my parents and friends to show me other ways i can get the sense of acomplishment so i changed my life around somewhat, i finished college, got a job, joined a gym, i go out atleast once a week with friends, and so on.
    I havent played the game in a while and there are moments when i feel like going to the store and buy a prepaid card and pull a 48 hr marathon.... then i remember how booring the game become and it all passes )

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sareth View Post
    No, not really. I have a normal life, in some terms. I'm looking for a job, I go out when I need to. Sorry, but there is nothing dark and sinister going on there. I don't go out unless I need to, because I don't see the need in pretending I like people. I don't want to be a dick-head prick and go out clubbing, I don't want to meet new vien and shallow people. I have maybe 300 days played. I'm not addicted to WoW, I'm not addicted to anything. I do however spend the majority of life on my computer because going out is pointless. If you could persuade me into going out without using the word money or sex, then I'd love to hear some reasons why I should.
    I understand you so well. I do have a job, a normal job. I work on a computer, administrating and maintaining an online shop system and whatever else needs attention as the company is very small. I work around 9 hours a day, 5 days a week. When I get home, there's nothing that I'd rather do than sit at my computer, have the TV running in the background, hop on TS and play WoW.

    I used to go out... I tried. Really, I did. I hated every moment of it, so much that my best friend just gave up trying to convince me to accompany her again. I blame it on the fact that I don't drink nor smoke. I guess I could have stomached all those annoying people if I had been just as drunk as they and if I had had a desire to start that social smoking thing that seems to be going on with some people... As it was, I just found people horrendously boring and felt my braincells committing harakiri when having to indulge in a conversation >_<

    I just don't like going out. I have enough people around me when I'm at work. I'm happy if I don't have to see anybody anymore when I get home. People on TS don't bother me. If I need a break from them, I can just afk and nobody will feel offended.

    And playing WoW is still better than slumping down on the couch and brainlessly watch TV. Most often, I only put on the TV for some background noise.

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    I think a lot of the loneliness that comes without a real life purpose is constructed by a society with instantaneous opportunities and participation in events that are open to anyone and require no real dedication to join. It is shallow, hollow and cheapens the community.

    The harder you work at something, the more valuable it is, even if it's asinine like building a self-model statue out of lego, or you decided to paint your entire house with the smallest paint brush around, because every stroke counts. (bow chika wow wow)

    But in the end, humans are happier being worked, just like dogs, they need a purpose. The more time you have to sit around thinking about how awful things are, the more your brain can rationalize things as being awful. People require constant satiation from being alone and they will do anything to convince their brain that they are being satiated. Via television, internet, whatever.

    That being said if I was sitting on a large fortune, I think WoW would be a very good way to preserve that fortune as it's very time consuming and cheap. But you should moderate your behavior more if you are unhappy. You sound like you are at least 20-25 years old, so it is probably time you pulled yourself up by your boot straps.

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