do you judge someone based on what you heard of them?

[Sam the Wiser]

No matter what you judge someone within the first 10 seconds. You may say you don't but you do subconsciously no matter what.

[Deleted]

I don't intend to find out if it's true by being the next one he rapes. I'm suspicious about men enough as it is, if they've got such a reputation? Hell no, I don't want to be around them.

Not even going to bother, like i said, your life.

[smokeydown]

It would depend on who is telling me. Is it coming from a gossip who often talk about people for the sake of talking, or is it coming from someone I trust who wouldn’t say things unless they knew it to be true.

[marthsk]

I personally keep what I've heard in the back of my mind, and I verify how true said rumors were myself.

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I don't intend to find out if it's true by being the next one he rapes. I'm suspicious about men enough as it is, if they've got such a reputation? Hell no, I don't want to be around them.

Then you'd be incredibly easy to manipulate. All we'd have to make is a nasty story about someone you like, have it spread from the other end of town until it reaches you, and BAM.

There are ways to find out what you need to know without involving yourself too deeply. Don't just investigate the object of rumors; investigate those who spread them too.

[Deleted]

Only if the information comes from a bloodbrother or someone of equal trust and for me there are very few. Other than that, screw that, I'll make my own calls.

[marthsk]

Only if the information comes from a bloodbrother or someone of equal trust and for me there are very few. Other than that, screw that, I'll make my own calls.

Even that is not a guarantee of information accuracy. They could've been conned as well, for all we know.

[Deleted]

Then you'd be incredibly easy to manipulate. All we'd have to make is a nasty story about someone you like, have it spread from the other end of town until it reaches you, and BAM.

I wouldn't trust a complete stranger though. If a friend told me on the other hand, yes, I'd trust that.

There are ways to find out what you need to know without involving yourself too deeply. Don't just investigate the object of rumors; investigate those who spread them too.

I trust my friends enough to not make the assumption they're lying about it.

[Deleted]

Even that is not a guarantee of information accuracy. They could've been conned as well, for all we know.

So very true. Their info might be secondhand, and even if it isn't there's always 2 sides to a coin.

[marthsk]

I wouldn't trust a complete stranger though. If a friend told me on the other hand, yes, I'd trust that.



I trust my friends enough to not make the assumption they're lying about it.

Sometimes it's just a matter of them being lied to as well so a lie could be perpetuated.

[Noomz]

Someone says to you, oh this guy is bad he does this and this. Later on you meet this guy. In your head you are thinking, wow this is the guy that has done this and this. How awful. Of course you don't ask them about it, it's rude. All said and done and you label him as bad. Never think of it again.

Do you change your mind? Do you have second thoughts about said person? Perhaps it was just a lie, or not a lie but something that they heard from another source. Do you feel it's best to investigate before coming to a conclusion. I feel it's really a bad thing. People may not realise what they saying will affect a person's view of another.

Myself, I don't judge or come to a conclusion unless there is at least another source. Even then, I'm still sceptical.

To some extent yes, I'll have more than one opinion about people though. I might listen to what someone says about someone else, but I'll also form my own opinion.

[Taurenburger]

Sure, the opinion on said person is in my mind when I meet him/her. I won't decide whether it's true or not untill I really know that person. I mean, a person can be nice to someone but mean to another. I do not think badly about someone untill I know for certain what's said is true.

[Rukentuts]

I do not judge someone based off of secondhand knowledge, however I may be careful of signs to confirm said knowledge.

[Deleted]

If I'm hearing it from someone I trust, yes, I do. But, I always leave a little room for my own impressions if I have to interact with them.

[pkm]

Even that is not a guarantee of information accuracy. They could've been conned as well, for all we know.

I always think about this one. It's the reason there is so much doubt between people.

[Raiju]

no, but first impressions mean an awful lot. I won't assume things wherever I notice I might.

[Maxilian]

I do, although I try not to. I also change that opinion based on personal experience with the person.

These..., when i was in high school these happened to me with 2 guys, i heard that they were really bad and that they were assholes, so i though that, but then i started talking with one of them and i realized that they were really cool, after that i changed the way i looked at them