Originally Posted by
Azgarde
I am very surprised by how many "Dump Her" and "Don't mind her" I've seen in this thread. That might explain the high % of divorces we are seeings nowadays. How are you supposed to keep a relationship going if you always think "Dump Her" and "Don't mind her" ? It's a relationship. It involves 2 people. 2 different people, who share similar interests, but are also different in some ways.
You guys really think not caring about the other is the way to go ? Please, tell me it's a joke. "She doesn't want to let me do what I want ? Insta-dump". So you are telling me that 1) Everything should be tolerated, whatever that might be, 2) You'd let her do exactly what she wants, when she wants ?
So if she ever came to you, telling you about something she wants to do and YOU think it's bad, you'd be right to tell her not to do it, but the other way around doesn't work ?
I've been in a relationship like that for 5 years, and my worst mistake ever will have been to not sacrifice anything. I kept playing wow, I kept playing hockey, I kept working crazy shifts. In the end, we both saw each other only in the morning and at night, and 1 day per week. Since we didn't see each other very much, she ended up spending more time with another dude, and eventually fell in love with him, because HE could bring her what I couldn't: Time and Commitment.
If you can't commit to this relationship, end it up right there. Not because she is being unreasonable, but only because you aren't ready to commit to a full-time relationship.
Edit: I'd like to add one thing. Many people say "It's about becoming a better person yourself, not make her happy". Then if you are making her happy, she'll feel in dept and will eventually give you what you want. If you always take, take, take and never give, she will never want to give. That's how it works. I sense a lot of self-centerism coming out of this thread. Think about the other, jeez. It will come back to you eventually.