Have you ever tried online dating?

[Demolocklol]

I get these even as a male and it kind of baffles me. It's especially uncomfortable when someone attempts to initiate a conversation but either doesn't know how to or can't be bothered to try. What do you even do in response? It's so awkward. >.<;


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I'll be the first admit that I can be kind of a bitch sometime when it comes to that but my profile says not to send me those types of messages so when someone asks ''how r u?'' My response is ''Better now that you're on my block list'' xD

[Zeelot]

I always though online dating sounded a bit silly until a girl in WoW asked me out, so I said why not. We made plans to meet up irl after a little bit, but we broke up about 3 months after she asked me out. Turned out she lied to all of her friends and other boyfriends at the same time that I was her brother, and I found out she had multiple other "boyfriends" that she told ME were her brothers. Not sure why anyone would do this, but it was my first and only online dating experience, and it's sort of made me never want to date online again.

[Daara]

Actually. I think one of the benefits to online dating is that you can get to know someone much more before you meet them. I don't think people join those websites with the intention of dating on the internet lol...You see a profile, you read their profile, if you like what you read, you message them, get to know more about them. If there's common interests, you plan to meet. That's usually how it goes

I don't know what sites you're all using but my general experience was no reply or an extremely vague response. Also the only girls that message me are whales or look like sloth from goonies. I know it's harsh and shallow, but I expect people to take care of themselves. I'm at least kind enough to message them back and tell them that I'm not interested.

[Demolocklol]

I always though online dating sounded a bit silly until a girl in WoW asked me out, so I said why not. We made plans to meet up irl after a little bit, but we broke up about 3 months after she asked me out. Turned out she lied to all of her friends and other boyfriends at the same time that I was her brother, and I found out she had multiple other "boyfriends" that she told ME were her brothers. Not sure why anyone would do this, but it was my first and only online dating experience, and it's sort of made me never want to date online again.

Big difference between WoW and websites dedicated to dating. Online dating websites are locals, or people very close to you and there's already the base foundation from both parties to pursue a relationship

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I don't know what sites you're all using but my general experience was no reply or an extremely vague response. Also the only girls that message me are whales or look like sloth from goonies. I know it's harsh and shallow, but I expect people to take care of themselves. I'm at least kind enough to message them back and tell them that I'm not interested.

From what I know, men get very very few responses, so it's not just you. I currently have over a thousand unread messages in my inbox, I stopped caring to reply to them all so now i've fallen way behind >_>

[Daara]

From what I know, men get very very few responses, so it's not just you. I currently have over a thousand unread messages in my inbox, I stopped caring to reply to them all so now i've fallen way behind >_>

I kind of figured that's how it was. I thought about sending 2nd or 3rd messages but then I'd look like a desperate creeper.

[Lindvahn]

Tried a different number of dating sites over the years with mixed results. A few very short relationship down the road though, I meet a woman that I've been with for over 5 years (married 3) and have a fantastic little girl with.

Our common interest? World of Warcraft. While we didn't talk about it in the initial phase, it weren't more than a date or two, that we would learn that about each other. She hadn't really gotten past level 40 at the time and I was a hardcore raider, but I fit some casual leveling in until we both had characters to raid with. We now raid together 3-4 times a week and have for a couple of years.

World of Warcraft has become somewhat of a central building stone in our relationship.

[Spraxle]

I've tried a couple (Match.com straight up told me after taking their quiz they couldn't find a match for me so they wouldn't post my profile)... it's been a huge waste of time. Life is real grand when you're a dork loser that everyone says is 'handsome' but you're a forever alone.

[PuppetShowJustice]

I don't know what sites you're all using but my general experience was no reply or an extremely vague response. Also the only girls that message me are whales or look like sloth from goonies. I know it's harsh and shallow, but I expect people to take care of themselves. I'm at least kind enough to message them back and tell them that I'm not interested.

My favorite experiences with online dating ever:

Briefly dated a healer in my FFXI guild. We're still friends but it was awkward while we were dating. She forever called me by my character's name (and still does). I don't mind my internet friends calling me by my internet names in person...usually. It just felt a bit out of place on a formal date. It also became apparent that she was attracted to my dominant, raid leader mentality. Which is something I bring to raid -- not so much to relationships.

But my favorite dating website conversation involved a chick who I spoke with for less than 10 minutes and she got super, unreasonably angry at the fact that I don't want children. I could understand an argument with a partner on the subject of kids but that assumes a long relationship and previous miscommunication on the subject to warrant a fight. Some random lady going apeshit at me because I don't personally want to have offspring was utterly baffling to me.

For the record, my family has a very long list of medical issues (I've already nearly died as a result and I'm only in my 20s) that I don't wish to pass on. I think that's reasonable. But I'm not a crazy internet person, I guess...?

[inboundpaper]

One of my friends started trying it a few weeks ago, he seemed to like it.

[Daara]

My favorite experiences with online dating ever:

Briefly dated a healer in my FFXI guild. We're still friends but it was awkward while we were dating. She forever called me by my character's name (and still does). I don't mind my internet friends calling me by my internet names in person...usually. It just felt a bit out of place on a formal date. It also became apparent that she was attracted to my dominant, raid leader mentality. Which is something I bring to raid -- not so much to relationships.

But my favorite dating website conversation involved a chick who I spoke with for less than 10 minutes and she got super, unreasonably angry at the fact that I don't want children. I could understand an argument with a partner on the subject of kids but that assumes a long relationship and previous miscommunication on the subject to warrant a fight. Some random lady going apeshit at me because I don't personally want to have offspring was utterly baffling to me.

For the record, my family has a very long list of medical issues (I've already nearly died as a result and I'm only in my 20s) that I don't wish to pass on. I think that's reasonable. But I'm not a crazy internet person, I guess...?

My favorite was a girl who I met and played WoW with for years. We spent nearly 6 hours every day talking to each other and did everything together. Yea, we were 2000 miles apart but I was going to be moving to California anyway in a few years. Her reason for not wanting to date? Her parents wouldn't approve of me because I wasn't going to be a lawyer or doctor. Dropped her pretty quick after that.

[Demolocklol]

I've tried a couple (Match.com straight up told me after taking their quiz they couldn't find a match for me so they wouldn't post my profile)... it's been a huge waste of time. Life is real grand when you're a dork loser that everyone says is 'handsome' but you're a forever alone.

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ten chars <3

[Daara]

I've tried a couple (Match.com straight up told me after taking their quiz they couldn't find a match for me so they wouldn't post my profile)... it's been a huge waste of time. Life is real grand when you're a dork loser that everyone says is 'handsome' but you're a forever alone.

Aye bro I feel ya. I'm a handsome "nice guy" as all the girls say. Even when my girlfriend says I'm a nice guy I just want to lash out at her for saying the phase that tore me apart for years. Sure I'm nice, but the last thing you want a girl to say to you is "you're a nice guy".

[Jakexe]

I've tried two sites when I was a bit younger and the results were mixed. First girl I ended up meeting was nice but she had deep christian conservative values and I couldn't put up with that. We still chat online making sure to clear of certain topics.

Second girl I met was a nazi. I mean that in a literal sense, she had SS tattoos and shit. I tended to shy away from online dating after that.

[Xs]

Aye bro I feel ya. I'm a handsome "nice guy" as all the girls say. Even when my girlfriend says I'm a nice guy I just want to lash out at her for saying the phase that tore me apart for years. Sure I'm nice, but the last thing you want a girl to say to you is "you're a nice guy".

I used to get that, then I started being more of an ass hole IRL, fixed that pretty nicely lol

[KOMO1211]

I've tried two sites when I was a bit younger and the results were mixed. First girl I ended up meeting was nice but she had deep christian conservative values and I couldn't put up with that. We still chat online making sure to clear of certain topics.

Second girl I met was a nazi. I mean that in a literally sense, she had SS tattoos and shit. I tended to shy away from online dating after that.

funny. you would think the phrase im a neo nazi might come up in conversation at least once before meeting lol.

[Daara]

I used to get that, then I started being more of an ass hole IRL, fixed that pretty nicely lol

I started acting more like I acted like when I was playing WoW. Dominant leader a-hole who got what he wanted. Girls are more attracted to that at first. I don't do the "nice/romantic guy" routine until after they know me.

[Gandrake]

If someone ever made fun of you in school, you can go to a dating website and lol @ how some of them are single moms or just simply look like their life went to hell. That's about the only practical use I've gotten out of a dating website.

It would be more useful for it's intended purpose if I actually lived in a populated city. It's hard to care about it when your options are so limited. I don't think it really helps that I'm picky about it, either. At least, when I'm on the internet it feels like I'm very picky. Feels a lot different irl.

I remember reading this one profile, chick was saying she was vegan... but she's overweight. How the fuck do you become obese on a vegan diet? Do you slather the vegetables in cheese sauce and add a jar of mayo for good measure?

[Deleted]

Tried it when I didn't have much of a social life a few years back.

All the women have incredibly high standards and expectations. Most of them aren't even that good looking. A whole load of average.

I'm a decent lad, good looking, well mannered. I consider myself a gent with the women, and I found it hard to get messages back. Not to say anyone else will have better luck but I find you need to lower your standards substantially to have a chance. I guess that's where the 'only desperate people use dating sites' stereotype comes from.

Although I did go on one date. The girl looked completely different in real life. You find that the profile pictures of many of the women are shopped or done in very flattering ways. She was a nice girl, I just wasn't attracted to her.


In my opinion.

If you're a woman, dating sites are a big no no unless you go to a paid one where people might be a bit more genuine.

[Deleted]

I'm kind of socially awkward so dating sites seemed like a good idea to me. I joined quite a few and after many unsuccessful months i was about to give up, then i met the girl of my dreams we have been together almost 5 months now and she just so happens to live about 2 miles away we talked for around 2 or 3 months tog et to know eachother a bit before we actually met but since the first time we met we have been virtually inseparable.

I think i got really lucky with this i was honest from the start that im a gamer geek and love to read etc and she said she loves almost exactly the same things as me.
i have literally never been happier i was very skeptical about the whole scene but i am proof that it works hehe.


so in short id say they work if you get extremely lucky i have friends that use the sites and from what they tell me, the women on them are worse than the men for sending naughty messages and asking for sex.

[Adamas102]

I'm a decent lad, good looking, well mannered. I consider myself a gent with the women, and I found it hard to get messages back. Not to say anyone else will have better luck but I find you need to lower your standards substantially to have a chance. I guess that's where the 'only desperate people use dating sites' stereotype comes from.

Hmmm, maybe it's just the British ladies then. Not to be a dick or anything, but it sounds more like there might be something off in your presentation...

I've tried dating sites a couple of times, and what I've found is that any combination of looks, literacy, and persistence will get you results if they're backed by confidence.

I'm kind of socially awkward so dating sites seemed like a good idea to me. I joined quite a few and after many unsuccessful months i was about to give up, then i met the girl of my dreams we have been together almost 5 months now and she just so happens to live about 2 miles away we talked for around 2 or 3 months tog et to know eachother a bit before we actually met but since the first time we met we have been virtually inseparable.

Congrats on meeting someone and all but wow...

Did you know she was a 30 minute walk away for those 2-3 months before meeting? I mean, I'm a very introverted guy as well but going that long when you're literally minutes away just blew my mind . When I was doing the online dating thing I was usually trying to set up a date within 2 weeks of initial contact. You can definitely learn a lot about someone by chatting online, but if I was genuinely interested in getting to know someone then we had to meet in person.