Smart people don't get knocked up by unemployed assholes.
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You be be VERY intelligent but just have issues. Also not everyone is cut out for schooling either.
I think you need to start to look past things like degrees(or as i like to call them Dolphin Papers) and similar things such as life circumstances or choices made in ones past.
A bit too blunt, but I'd have to say this good sir has a point. People who stick around in abusive or otherwise miserable relationships can't be too brilliant. Book smarts and common sense aren't the same thing. But in any case it doesn't really matter, if the girl found someone good through online dating, then that's worth mentioning.
I am pretty confident to meet someone after having a chance to talk a bit. My shyness is more that I cant just start randomly talking to someone with the possibility of it developing further in that way.I know you mention not having anywhere to go and that you're shy, but no matter whether you go with the site route or not you're going to have to get out and lose some of the shyness.
Considering it's the internet and the nature of it, I would do everything in my power to stay away from any sort of "free" dating sites. That's how you wake up in a strange motel in Arizona, missing a kidney and maybe a few other choice pieces.
If you're dead set on trying it out, pay for it. At least there will be some form of regulation and protection involved.
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I've never actually used an online dating site, so I don't really have a clue of how they work. I'm just speaking from the common sense side of things here.
Last edited by Dys; 2013-04-16 at 08:57 PM.
I think I may try a free one first, just to see. I'm not exactly sure where to start though. Has anyone tried multiple of them and can give a decent recommendation?
I haven't really used any paid sites myself, just a few free ones. As I said in the other thread, experience varies quite a bit, I've had everything from gaining a stalker to a few year relationship which I still consider my best so far, despite having ended. It's more convenient of course than "real life", but then again nothing beats old fashioned courting, oldschool.
At 18, you shouldn't be using eHarmony. eHarmony is really intended for people who are super serious about meeting "the one." Honestly I think 18 is too young for online dating in general, but if you're going to be doing that, go for OKCupid or one of the other free services. They're often better anyway.
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Or a yawing hole in a battered head
And the scuppers clogged with rotting red
And there they lay I damn me eyes
All lookouts clapped on Paradise
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I would say try it. I met my husband online, not on a dating site but though a profile which he listed things he liked. I emailed him because he seemed intresting, found out we lived near each other and started to date a few weeks later. We have been together almost 15 years now and married for 7.
nothing inherently wrong with online dating. The world the way it is is a busy place. People work 50+ hours a week, there really isn't a lot of time to find someone. Online dating gives you the chance to pre-screen people. It gives everyone a chance to be somewhat selective.
Another notion, how would/do you go about meeting women/men? In a bar? At the gym? How much money do you spend at a bar every week/month? How much does eharmony or match.com cost? Add that are you successful at meeting people in a bar? Is that the main goal? If going to a bar to meet people and hook up or find someone is what you want, are you at all successful at it? if not, maybe funnel some of that cash into an online dating site.