In addition to that, it sounds like you also have some insecurities to work through before you can commit to a serious relationship. The main one I see is your sexual issue. Weather you want to admit it or not, you committed what is known as marital rape. You kept pressuring her to the point where she just accepted it to prevent, in her eyes, a problem from escalating further. No matter if she did it to get you to shut up or because she was afraid you'd get violent, she did it to stop the harassment. Learn to deal with this before getting into any further relationships.
imo, cherish the relationships you are in at the time (if it is a relatively good one), but don't be so devastated when it ends that you can not forsee ever being with another person, there is always someone else out there somewhere.
Don't do it, I'm telling you this from experience. My ex-gf did that to me numerous times over the seven years we were together. She'd break up or talk about breaking up whenever she got upset and here I'd go like the big idiot dropping my (sometimes legitimate) complaints or problems with her in an effort to appease her.
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I think I was 21 at the time. With those 2 extra years under my belt you would have thought I knew better!
Sorry to hear man, keep your chin up though. Your young, you still have a lot of time to find someone else that will appriciate you for you and not what she wants you to be.
If this was your first serious relationship, then yes it sucks and it hurts but time mends everything. Don't brood to much on it, get out with some friends. Don't lock yourself in a dark place with sad thoughts. You will get over this faster when you go out and enjoy life with some mates. What I did over my first heartache (i think i was 15/16ish at the time) I was in a bad spot, but i did some volunteer work and it really helped a lot. Maybe to help yourself you can help others? Just keep your chin up.
I play many games. WoW, Rift, D3, PoE, SC2 I will not criticize your game choice if you don't mine.
Maybe she just wants to try some new things, alone, with no strings. Just move on.
Most ladies would love a man to show tenderness and affection that gets them in the mood and slowly builds up to lovemaking - - especially if it lead to multiple opportunities over the course of a weekend. The normal objection is when the guy wants sex multiple times with no build up. So if your story is true, chin up, there's plenty of women you'll please with your "forceful" tenderness.
Chin up bro. The best thing you can do is pick yourself up and become a man. When you become a man, then you can find yourself a woman. Don't mess around with girls
It really depends on the woman though. And her mood at the time. The same woman could want an hour of romance and foreplay one day, and to just get to the deed the next.
It's about compatibility and learning to read cues. And knowing your limits. One ex had rape fantasies. I never even considered indulging her ideas on that. It was just beyond what I was willing to do. One girl I dated always wanted me to be gentle, doting, and never forceful. Then the next one really liked when I'd pin her down or pull her hair. She liked me being aggressive more often than not.
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