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    Girls and women are two very different things. Wait a few years and you'll get the latter; without the headache-inducing fickle nature of the former. Still, have you ever heard of masturbation? Jack off more and learn to drive; it'll do you wonders.
    "If I owned a company, my employees would love me. They’d have huge pictures of me up the walls and in their home, like Lenin." - George Costanza

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    I cannot give any advice that will help you as there are two sides to every story and all we know about is your side.
    The only thing I can say is, if she is the one who has left you due to whatever reasons she had its probably time to let it go and move on.

    Btw, no you dont know what 'true love' is at age 19, I dont believe anyone knows what true love is tbh especially at the age of 19.
    Keeping everyone happy is impossible.

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    The thread title catapulted Black Sabbath in my head. Thanks OP.
    Haven't heard the song in ages..




    And, heads up OP.. It'll be just fine again. You got your whole life ahead of you, and there will be another love, and maybe another and another.
    Sometimes you get your heart broken, another time you break a heart. Just always try to be yourself, and try not to be an ass, whether you are the hurt one or not.
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    For what it's worth, I don't think the driving this is the real the issue. I think you are doing the right thing. Who knows what she wants, the best thing you can do is give her some time and space.
    I wash my hands until the water burns

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    i neeed to com bac to this... i am fuced up at the monent

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    Quote Originally Posted by Dekay View Post
    Just a final update for people who might be interested that find this post again: We had quite a long talk tonight and we finally came to a conclusion. The driving reason was more or less an excuse to help the break-up along. As for the abuse, she said it was not exactly sexual in nature, but I may have been slightly controlling emotionally, which is kind of an arbitrary thing based upon her perspective. She wouldn't give me exact details, but I do have some understanding of what I need to work on for future relationships. She is not interested in other men, she simply wanted to end the relationship because she didn't want to be in a relationship anymore. I can understand and accept that and our feelings for each other become more manageable, we'll continue a friendship and see if it grows into another relationship when she is ready for one. Overall, I am feeling a lot better and I'm glad we were able to talk rationally about it. I'm also pursuing a potential relationship with another girl for some companionship and to take my mind off of my previous relationship. I'm by no means over her and I probably won't be for quite a long time, but I think it's just the right move in the short term at least.
    You are doing it wrong, you must not be friends with her. And you should not hook up with another girl other than sex, she will be your rebound.
    "Women aren't idiots, they just think men are, that's why they pretend to be ignorant to the fact that most of their male friends would f**k them, but they really love the attention and most men would love for the roles to be reversed"

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    Quote Originally Posted by Dekay View Post
    Just a final update for people who might be interested that find this post again: We had quite a long talk tonight and we finally came to a conclusion. The driving reason was more or less an excuse to help the break-up along. As for the abuse, she said it was not exactly sexual in nature, but I may have been slightly controlling emotionally, which is kind of an arbitrary thing based upon her perspective. She wouldn't give me exact details, but I do have some understanding of what I need to work on for future relationships. She is not interested in other men, she simply wanted to end the relationship because she didn't want to be in a relationship anymore. I can understand and accept that and our feelings for each other become more manageable, we'll continue a friendship and see if it grows into another relationship when she is ready for one. Overall, I am feeling a lot better and I'm glad we were able to talk rationally about it. I'm also pursuing a potential relationship with another girl for some companionship and to take my mind off of my previous relationship. I'm by no means over her and I probably won't be for quite a long time, but I think it's just the right move in the short term at least.
    I think that sounds reasonable... there's nothing wrong with being friends. My ex and I are (at least trying to) remain friends. I don't think it's unhealthy in the least.

    Quote Originally Posted by Dekay View Post
    Trying not to keep this thread going as its kinda old and talked over, but I did post a resolution update thats a few posts above if you want to know the real reason. Also, Driving is kinda important because we both live in the boonies of pennsylvania lol
    Yeah, heck I live in Sacramento (for a few more days) and driving is quite nearly the only way to get around here. The mass transit system is slow and too sparse. After living in Chicago that has a perfect mass transit system it's weird to face such a bad one.

    Quote Originally Posted by Melanieshaman View Post
    i neeed to com bac to this... i am fuced up at the monent
    WOW! I am REALLY sorry about that..got WAY messed up last night, and made an ass of myself in several places.

    Quote Originally Posted by Aerrie View Post
    You are doing it wrong, you must not be friends with her. And you should not hook up with another girl other than sex, she will be your rebound.
    Again, i think friends is perfectly acceptable. He should play the field is he likes. If they are drawn back together then great, if not, it's not meant to be.


    Good luck and hang in there *hugs*

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    Plenty of fish in the sea best thing to do is focus on a healthy lifestyle and have a good time without her.

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    I see a lot of the "another one will come along" saying. Some guys just don't get more girls, some are just bad at it and most girls look the other way. I'm a prime example, relatively good looking (I know it because chicks come up to me but then they find out what I'm like and it turns them off) but just fuck everything up. You can say it's a learning experience but here's the major problem, most girls are different so learning doesn't always help people like me because we always slip up somewhere along the line.

    Another thing, "just wait"... Sorry but some guys have a sex drive and waiting doesn't necessarily cut it, men are attracted to woman purely because of appearance and fantasizing about what they would do them in bed. It's not wrong to say that men have a sex drive and should control it, testosterone just messes with you and yeah you can control the "rape" aspect of it but all in all most guys want a relationship... Or a bunch of fuck buddies.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Aang View Post
    I see a lot of the "another one will come along" saying. Some guys just don't get more girls, some are just bad at it and most girls look the other way. I'm a prime example, relatively good looking (I know it because chicks come up to me but then they find out what I'm like and it turns them off) but just fuck everything up. You can say it's a learning experience but here's the major problem, most girls are different so learning doesn't always help people like me because we always slip up somewhere along the line.

    Another thing, "just wait"... Sorry but some guys have a sex drive and waiting doesn't necessarily cut it, men are attracted to woman purely because of appearance and fantasizing about what they would do them in bed. It's not wrong to say that men have a sex drive and should control it, testosterone just messes with you and yeah you can control the "rape" aspect of it but all in all most guys want a relationship... Or a bunch of fuck buddies.
    Maybe I'm taking that the wrong way, but if someone doesn't want to be with you they don't want to be with you and your sex drive doesn't have any rights there. There is no choice but to 'just wait', and it's perfectly reasonable to say so.

    Also regarding relationships, having functioning ones is a skill, and that skill can be applied to future relationships, even though the individual is a different person. Another one does come along sooner or later even though it may not seem like it will, it's up to you how you deal with it - you gave yourself as the prime example of that being bad, but idgi because you yourself say other ones come along and the issues is how you handle those.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Aang View Post
    I'm a prime example, relatively good looking (I know it because chicks come up to me but then they find out what I'm like and it turns them off) but just fuck everything up...

    ...men are attracted to woman purely because of appearance and fantasizing about what they would do them in bed...
    That may be why you're turning most girls off. Women can smell that sort of thinking!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Aang View Post
    I see a lot of the "another one will come along" saying. Some guys just don't get more girls, some are just bad at it and most girls look the other way. I'm a prime example, relatively good looking (I know it because chicks come up to me but then they find out what I'm like and it turns them off) but just fuck everything up. You can say it's a learning experience but here's the major problem, most girls are different so learning doesn't always help people like me because we always slip up somewhere along the line.

    Another thing, "just wait"... Sorry but some guys have a sex drive and waiting doesn't necessarily cut it, men are attracted to woman purely because of appearance and fantasizing about what they would do them in bed. It's not wrong to say that men have a sex drive and should control it, testosterone just messes with you and yeah you can control the "rape" aspect of it but all in all most guys want a relationship... Or a bunch of fuck buddies.
    Tough cookies, if you can't find a woman willing to say yes, then "just wait" does have to cut it. You don't have the right to expect sex, especially from women you don't even know.

    Get a girl to want you, pay a professional, or just wait, those are in fact the options (barring the professional being illegal where you are). Your sex drive doesn't entitle you to sex any more than mine does, or anyone else.

    If you can't get women to like you, look at yourself and see what you should change, or revise your standards of what women you're approaching, and go for women within your league.

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    Sorry about it mate, but this is a gaming forum and if you wanted condolences you should post somewhere else. Threads like this are very annoying, and we can't do anything about it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Wildtree View Post
    The thread title catapulted Black Sabbath in my head. Thanks OP.
    Haven't heard the song in ages..
    I got Tuesday's Gone stuck in my head.

    As for the OP, things will get better. Don't fall into thinking down on yourself. Find the light side of things and live in it. Good things come in time.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Guy View Post
    That may be why you're turning most girls off. Women can smell that sort of thinking!
    It's not really that, I don't even talk about myself but more of the fact that I find it really hard to relate to most girls. I'm only 18 and still in high school but fuck most of the girls there are shallow.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Aang View Post
    It's not really that, I don't even talk about myself but more of the fact that I find it really hard to relate to most girls. I'm only 18 and still in high school but fuck most of the girls there are shallow.
    So basically, you're too good for them.

    You're just such an awesome catch, and it just doesn't make sense that females don't want to just start blowing you?
    I may pay my subscription every month, but I don't lose sight of the fact that the other 4/9/24/39 people I'm grouped with pay too.

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