Marriage advise.

[Cuzzin]

So I've been married for 6 years now and I was wondering if you can still have a respectable family(we have kids) and marriage if one day I asked her for lets say a 3 person raid and she would accept. Now Im not taking about multiple times etc, ya know just a one time thing just for the sake of me always wanting to. And if so should I offer her like her ultimate ya know..WANT too? Has anyone experienced this Id love some feedback, open to private messages as well.

[Agent Mercury]

Do you speak English primarily? Just wondering. And only you know how well that will go. Each woman would react differently and we don't know your wife. Btw a good portion would not be happy with it, traditionalist.

[Deleted]

By 3 way raid you mean a sexual threesome? If I was her I would be looking into a divorce right now.

[Rukentuts]

By 3 way raid you mean a sexual threesome? If I was her I would be looking into a divorce right now.

So would I. If I was just looking for fun, marriage wouldn't be part of it.

[Deleted]

So would I. If I was just looking for fun, marriage wouldn't be part of it.

I am just old fashioned. I do not give a shit if my partner flirts or whatever, but neither of us would consider sex with other people. Open relationships or threesomes often show that you are getting bored, people that are bored rarely stay together. Better to end the relationship ASAP to minimise long term harm.

[Belloc]

Figuring out how to bring up the subject is probably the most difficult part. If you are at all worried that your wife might freak out, probably best to just never bring it up.

Wanting a threesome is perfectly normal, though. It can cause a lot of problems, but it can also work out well. I wish I could offer some real advice, but the best I can say is what I said before: If you can figure out a natural way to bring it up, you can consider it. If, however, you are worried that she might respond negatively, just forget it.

[poser765]

I think open relationships are great if that is the basis the relation is started on. Trying to make it happen after the fact just seems like a recipe for disaster. I guess you could sound her out with a simple, hey do you think a three way would be weird sort of question. If she says yes meh I guess you may have a shot. If she says no, then forget about it.

Frankly, threesomes are not nearly as awesome as they look in porn. They are awkward, uncomfortable, lead to jealousy, and just really not worth it. The reality will more than likely fall way short of your expectations.

[Sunseeker]

My wife is open to it. I haven't found another woman I really want to have sex with, so it hasn't happened. It's a very delicate thing to ask, and if you don't know the answer, then the answer probably isn't "yes".

[ciggy]

It depends on the relationship really, three somes aren't what they are cracked up to be. If you have to bring someone else into the bedroom, you are going to have issues in the future.

if it's something you REALLY have to try, go for two whores.. See if you enjoy it at all, or if it's just the allure of something you've wanted for awhile. I know this is morally wrong and cheating, but so is bringing a third into the bedroom in a marriage.

I tried it with my second wife, and it ended the marriage ultimately. She felt that she wasn't enough to keep me happy, and that was really the case. She never was able to satisfy me sexually after that.

[Agent Mercury]

I am just old fashioned. I do not give a shit if my partner flirts or whatever, but neither of us would consider sex with other people. Open relationships or threesomes often show that you are getting bored, people that are bored rarely stay together. Better to end the relationship ASAP to minimise long term harm.

While I am traditional as well I wouldn't for as far as putting down someone elses way of life. Seeing that it doesn't harm anyone. Some people genuinely enjoy these sexual activities and still love their partner. Albeit the OP just wants to have two women so that is a red flag to the wife.

It depends on the relationship really, three somes aren't what they are cracked up to be. If you have to bring someone else into the bedroom, you are going to have issues in the future.

if it's something you REALLY have to try, go for two whores.. See if you enjoy it at all, or if it's just the allure of something you've wanted for awhile. I know this is morally wrong and cheating, but so is bringing a third into the bedroom in a marriage.

I tried it with my second wife, and it ended the marriage ultimately. She felt that she wasn't enough to keep me happy, and that was really the case. She never was able to satisfy me sexually after that.

It is only cheating if your partner deems it as such. Once again because it doesn't work for you and gave you problems doesn't make it true for everyone. Some people live that lifestyle or experimented like that and are happier than those that didn't.

[Wildtree]

So I've been married for 6 years now and I was wondering if you can still have a respectable family(we have kids) and marriage if one day I asked her for lets say a 3 person raid and she would accept. Now Im not taking about multiple times etc, ya know just a one time thing just for the sake of me always wanting to. And if so should I offer her like her ultimate ya know..WANT too? Has anyone experienced this Id love some feedback, open to private messages as well.

Hmmm.....
One thing I don't understand right now is.. Don't you know your wife? I mean.... Everyone in here can give you advice in one way or another.. Fact of the matter is, that every single response in here is nothing but everyone talking out of their asses..... Why so? Because none of us knows your wife. Sexual preference and interest varies extremely.
Someone telling you to go for it, may very well give you the worst advice ever, if your wife has a complete different view.
Same goes for others who claim the opposite. Their advice too can be the worst ever.
It really boils down to you yourself and how good you know your partner.
The only advice I have is to get to know your wife's opinion on such matters. And then go from there.

[Tziva]

This is not really an appropriate topic for our forum. I'm going to have to close this now.

Unless you actually are talking about raiding, in which case colour me confused.