It's an interesting situation, even if it might be a troll post on Reddit - but i think it can spark some valid debate here. However if the mods disagree, please feel free to delete/ lock.
Without further ado - time to jump into the tale.
After 2 and a half years of court cases it finally happened.
I don't mind. It still hurts, but it does feel better to let it out after holding it in for such a long time. I won't be using real names or locations other than it was in West Virginia.
A friend (Sam) was just proposed to by her at the time boyfriend so we took her out for drinks. It was only meant to be us, but another friend (Drew), asked if she could bring another friend (Mat) along as at the time he wasn't getting out much. He had depression and BL-PD so he was a bit of a shut in. I had met him once before a year before this happened and he was from what I remembered he was very overweight.
We agree, as he seemed nice enough. We all meet up and Mat and Drew arrive. Mat had lost all of his weight and he seemed a lot happier than he use to be. I complimented him on his change, he seemed to get a bit shy over this. It was obvious that he was uncomfortable and socially awkward.
We go inside the club, we are dancing, Mat just wanted to sit at the table and wouldn't come up with us. Over the night we ordered drinks, Mat ended up drinking the most. As he became drunker he gained far more confidence. He ended up dancing with us, chatting and even flirting with me.
The night nears it's end and it was only Mat and I left. Sam and Drew wanted to go home early so Sam drove Drew home. Mat and I talked and drank until closing. We were both to drunk to drive so I was going to call a taxi. Mat said his aparment is a 5 minute walk away, and I could sleep there for the night, then come get my car in the morning. I accepted his offer, which is something I still regret.
At his we drank some more. He had vodka and gin at his, so we shared a bottle and talked some more. Mat was getting more flirty as the night went on. He put on a movie and we snuggled up and watched it. I have no idea why I did that, I hadn't been with a guy for a long time and I guess I was loving the attention.
One thing lead to another and we ended up having sex. I wasn't into it from the start, and about 5 minutes in I ask him to stop. He didn't. This went on for about a minute until I started crying and freaking out. He stopped. Apologized for what had happened. I got dressed and left crying. Took a cab home and was crying for the next day.
I talked to my dad about it after he came to visit and say me so upset. He told me to go to the police, so I did. 2 and a half years later, it is all over, and I would say I am a stronger person because of it. It's still a horrible thought, thinking back to it all.
The best advice I can give is, don't trust someone you hardly know, trust your gut and stay with friends.
Source to the tale/ story.
http://www.reddit.com/r/AdviceAnimal...ses_it/ca2bnv5
Personally my view to this, was that the OP expressed terrible judgement on whom she slept with. From what i gathered, she wasn't forced - threatened, or physically restrained in any way.
But 5 minutes into the sex she regretted it, and then asked for the male to stop - for whatever reason he didn't, this could be attributed to many different reasons but i won't go into them in great depth.
When she started to panic/ cry he stopped - and felt incredibly shitty apologized profusely and and she left.
This is where im split, she told him to stop having sexual intercourse with her and it took him just under a minute to realize it - that and her panicking/ crying influenced it most likely i think.
Please feel free to post your response, but don't derail - or bash others.
(P.S, If this isn't appropriate or relevant mods - or it devolves into a circle-jerk over rape lock it please!)