HOWEVER, yelling as that person did in the video for as long as they did is pretty silly. The best way to go about it is to single them out in front of everyone, verbally reiterate what they're doing that is stupid and tell them that it needs to stop. Most times they'll correct whatever issue they had been repeating previously.
Further, this doesn't apply to learning mechanics, first night pulls or first (even second or third) time mistakes. In those situations it's best to keep everything friendly.
EDIT: To everyone preaching that friendly, laid back and kind leaders are what people should look for, that's fine if you want to be consistently mediocre (or casual). If you want to be competitive, your leader needs to be strict and to the point. Friendliness doesn't get you anywhere in moderate to bleeding edge progression.
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I can get very annoyed quite fast or even start to rage when it's clear people aren't paying attention. However so far I've managed to restrain myself from calling anyone with names or shouting my lungs out. Usually the criticism is something like "that was fking stupid" and the speeches are almost always targeted to the whole group instead of specific player(s). Sometimes things can get a bit ugly when players argue back to me, but for me these fights end when next pull counter is started and I do hope my fellow raiders feel the same way and hold no grudges.
Why rage then? There isn't really a way to defend this kind of behavious but sometimes I can't help opening my mouth if people are wasting my time, when I and rest of the raid are giving their best performance.
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I would guess the RL had a moment of nerd rage, and the fiancee got overly sensitive... When you're just starting out raiding, you're going to get yelled at a couple of times. Well, probably not yelled, but at least talked to in a sarcastic / aggressive manner
I mean what could he have possibly said? "Oh my god you're terrible! How can you not see that? Are you blind?" Pull the boss again, all is forgotten.
Kind of dumb on the RL's part to go off on her if he knew her soon to be husband was the GM though >.>
Seriously, don't join guilds like these. If not drama, they will go on vacations together etc. And you've got your GM and a healer gone for weeks (Let me guess, the GM was one of the Tanks too right?). Painful for 10 mans especially. Avoid!
Why do people hold their push to talk when they're crying. Almost as annoying as when people are eating (soup especially) and find a need to not mute their mic on skype.
Leaders who can't do their leading job until they get to the boiling rage-yelling point are crappy leaders. A good percentage of decent players with attention responsibility can figure out what goes wrong. Anyone of them can rage-yell at a role until someone, not necessarily the person responsible, feels so bad they quit/cry/feels so bad they can't focus on their task in later runs. A good leader can figure out the mistake and give a strategy talk earlier. THEN there might be time for shiftouts, not making people cry ffs. That said, I regularly run into people both at work and generally IRL I'd love to yell at for not even knowing what's going on around them, so it's kinda hard to say without being there. I swear there's people who wouldn't even realize the fight had started over again even if Garrosh himself jumped out of a portal and impaled him on his shoulder tusks.
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If you raid hardcore, you have to able to be angry with people. You can dick around ingame all day and do all sorts of random shit, but during raid times, you can't play favorites. People that fail consistently need a firm talking to. That may go paired with angry voice. Never had any actual screaming, but there were times you could hear the frustration.
"When i am done with you, you won't trust your own mind."
Gotta love ragers...glad you did the warm up run so you didn't waste a TOT run with a screamer.
Being an ex raid leader and GM on the best guild in the server in TBC and Wotlk i can relate to this.
If player A messes up 1,2,3,4 or even 5 times i will calmly tell them to focus (seriously no rage at this point)
But if they mess up again i lose my shit and go beserk.
I recall one incident on Teron where i'd say atleast half couldn't control the ghosts correctly (which wasn't difficult, seriously it was easy)
Now we'd been wiping on this for 3 hours and just before the last attempt i said "Right the next twat that fucks up on some simple shitty ghost crap can find themselves a new guild, because frankly if you can't do it you must been purely retarded"
3 People got kicked and one was very upset - what can i say i was an angry teenager in WoW back in the day.
Raid lead all through Cataclysm, and no I never made anyone cry. There were a couple of arguments, but we were adults about it.
I'm not a fan of insults and raging, but I would silently curse my raid colleagues at some times during icc progression.
It's like, if 10 players are able to get out of the fire, use cooldowns at the right moment, move when you have to move, how come there are people who always fail at it? I mean, one mistake two mistakes that happens, but when I'm actually monitoring some dps that takes 3 seconds to move I feel like raging. No one has ninja reflexes, but constantly failing...The problem here is that those people don't work hard at improving, they just want to do the minimum job to down the bosses and get loot.
If you're not playing a game with the goal of becoming better at it, then I'd say you aren't a raider worth bringing. Especially with all the resources that nowadays you can get in order to become great at your class. OP, in your situation if I was the raid leader I wouldn't yell or rage, but I'd say all the things he said in a calm but urgent tone of voice. Making people realize that they're spot isn't guaranteed tends to bring awesome results.
I had an enhancement shaman who couldn't "run" when syndragosa pulled the raid into her. We had to b rez him in every single attempt. No one raged with him, but we didn't invite him for 10man raids ever again that's for sure.
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"When i am done with you, you won't trust your own mind."
Yeah, it happened. For good reason though. If people are too stupid to grasp a mechanic after 2 wipes or they still have no idea how to play their class after clearing previous raiding tiers - they deserve to be putted down.
The RL is clueless because attenuation is an avoidable mechanic if you move. The people who were dying were at fault, not the heals. 0 heals needed for an avoidable mechanic.