Ok, so you remember my last poll. This poll in my head is directly related to the last poll and I'll explain how I see that. I can try to say why I avoided relationships and never quite got the interest in sex but to me that end is my forest in the fog. It's easier for me to explain what I did know and that being my dreams.
See, I'm no fool. Having children is a ton of work and a huge commitment. I was telling my friends from day 1 it's a horrible idea. Not because I hated the idea but because I knew my friends. A child can be-bop around, have your kitchen sprawled across the floor and flood half the house before you get back from the mailbox. I know the weakness, the need to get angry for a loss of control. I would say, "Any kid is a guaranteed 4 major accidents, 1 with fire. At best you can catch it before someone dies and try to smile if you're successful." Still, a decade later and you see the old friend who resorts to yelling first. He's going to pretend to be so confused later when his child brings major issues as questions to someone not so quick to judge him, but who am I to tell my friend he's caught in a catch 22 between life and the strings in his head? "WTF do I know, do you have kids?" No, but I was one and I remember everything.
For me, the dream was fixing things. I was damn good at fixing things too, be it machines or people. I could just look at whatever and begin to rip it apart to pieces in my head and just see the flow. This mindset made me the guy who never held punches back or played with my words. Mama told me I'd say the wrong thing to the wrong person and that would be the end of me and yet I feel I've been lied to. In my need to fix things I've head-on confronted every taboo in this current generation has and honestly felt I did good. I could tell you about this narcissistic girl just abusing this other girl stuck in chance and situation. Trying to smile and play nice, yeah that's fine you do that and I'll be that anger and chaos you seem to fear. I can never say it was all me but it was easy for another to see something if you expanded the view on what they could watch. I could tell you about bad business practice and talks in a back room. Seriously, for a long time I just loved to argue and to me that was just part of fixing things.
Still this only works in small douses and you reach a point where you find the beauty in broken design. I mean think, without my idea of problems I would deny myself my own subjected purpose. Still with that lie time will make a fool of me and you begin to feel less like a fix-it guy and more like a person playing your role. Soon as I shut up, now you see the bad business trying to create revenue for 10 jobs when it really can only support 6 of those families on honesty. You see the girl who's slightly masochist and who am I to know better? It's all random examples from my life but it boils down to right and wrong being very subjective and almost pointless.
Still, for all that time I knew all the work it would take to raise a child and how I couldn't explore the world and argue what I felt was wrong. Even in hindsight I would do it all the same. I gave up on the idea of making love and the huge job it can contain to have my life for me and my fixing. Even now I might debate a child but anything forced just seems stupid and I still enjoy having my time.
I think my new dream will be....
Anyway, now the poll. Seeing the huge response to the title "love making" and not sex, it should have been natural to see sex in a real relationship. Kids and responsibility being possibilities and all. Do you feel in obtaining that goal, you had to give up on any of your dreams? If so, what was it you wish you had done? If not, what was it you accomplished? Do you feel a relationship was what made your dream possible? Teach me your wisdom.