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    Meeting the only girl i ever loved

    Posting from a new account so I wont be recognized.

    Basicly I met a girl on WoW 3 months ago, feelings for her started to develop after a month or so. Now we're meeting soon IRL and I don't know what to do. I never been good with girls and I probably never will. I don't know if she likes me or not. I have never actually felt real love until now and I'm afraid I might screw up.

    What should I do when she comes over to visit me? I'm 20, shes 18. I wanted to come to her place but she said she don't want to deal with awkward parents. (I live alone), so she comes over to me. I got the night all planned out. Taco dinner, movie at my mancave then I'll surprise her with a TCG tabard and tell her I love her.

    good plan? Also I got no idea how to talk to a girl -.- I'm not fat/ugly or anything like that, just awkward as hell.

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    The Unstoppable Force RICH816's Avatar
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    Tacos then a tabard? Things have changed since I first started dating.

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    You're going to tell her you love her the first night you actually meet her? Slow it down a bit. Do everything you planned, but hold back on the love you. Sorry girls but most of you have no idea what you want and love can last a month and all of sudden she found someone else. Just my friendly advice to you. And good luck

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    stumbled on this in newest posts.

    "real love" and "we will soon meet IRL" do not mix well

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    At first, talk about things you feel comfortable to talk about with her, and things which don't make it awkward. I guess I'm quite bad with girls too (excluding few of them), so this would be my plan.

    Oh, and don't talk about love. Talk about interest.

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    Quote Originally Posted by RICH8472 View Post
    Tacos then a tabard? Things have changed since I first started dating.

    Yarrpp... would fit her character transmog and 60% of what she does in the game is collect transmog sets. I'm a ex hardcore raider and a ex hardcore PvP player with a strong gaming background who helps her out with hard stuff ingame too =)

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    Quote Originally Posted by Asphyxes View Post
    Yarrpp... would fit her character transmog and 60% of what she does in the game is collect transmog sets. I'm a ex hardcore raider and a ex hardcore PvP player with a strong gaming background who helps her out with hard stuff ingame too =)
    Whats wrong with getting her drunk then jumping her bones?

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    Dude... shit...

    This is so fucking awkward if even 1% truthful.

    But to clarify, you live near each other correct? And from what you've posted, you're unaware if she is reciprocating the feelings?

    The fact she's willing to meet up with you says something, however - she's young, and the parent scenario... eh tread carefully.

    Please though man, please - Don't spring gaming shit onto her unless she inquires, the fact she's coming out to meet you says something - add on the fact you met in a game... Just let the time be between yourselves, not devoted to a game unless you both wish it.

    Also be prepared for the common internet myth of girls meeting up in the internet... the mythical hambeast.

    Dammit, never cringed as hard before from reading these threads.

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    we can debate the do's and don'ts of this date for 10 pages but there is one thing that every single poster will agree with:

    do not say I love you

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    Op wakes up in a bathtub full of ice.....

    missing a kidney.

    On a serious note: I've met people in this game that I really treasure and completely understand the desire to meet them IRL. However keep the "love" talk out if it for now. If she's truly your kind of person and things go well it will happen naturally. Don't force it.
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    Dont tell her you love her on the first date and DONT give her present like this on the first date, dont try to ''buy'' her , you better spend good time with her with good food and movie , and after couple date you can tell her you love her , and then ...you can give her a present but its just my opinion but dont rush anything , if you have a good relationship with her in game let see if it work out in real life , those are two world apart .

    And the most important thing , even if it sound cheesy . believe in yourself you can do it !

    best of luck

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    Dont tell her you love her the first time meeting her, thats creepy as fuck dude.

    Have you guys cybered/web camed before? If so then I guess it would be less creepy but still you should let her say it first.

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    Do NEVER tell her you love her... Kiss her if you think you may have a chance, but just be in front of her and saying "I love you" usually won't make thing easier.

    And are you even sure that it is love ? Or are you just over reacting because a girl may like you ? Try to maintain clear state of mind. Try to know her, flirt if you like her, but don't just be "love love love" (I know it's hard, I was that kind of guy too when younger).

    I still hope you the best for this first IRL meeting. And I don't know how do american in their 20s. But maybe aim a bit better than taco + mancave (don't sure i understand this word right ? Is it a basement ?) Don't you have a theatre nearby ? Something a bit better for a "first date" (would usually say go to a nice bar to have a drink and discuss, but with your 21 alcool law )

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    3 months is not long enough to fall in love with somebody, and it's not possible to fall in love with somebody you've never actually met.
    I would certainly not tell her that you love her already.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Darthvador View Post
    Dont tell her you love her on the first date and DONT give her present like this on the first date, dont try to ''buy'' her , you better spend good time with her with good food and movie , and after couple date you can tell her you love her , and then ...you can give her a present but its just my opinion but dont rush anything , if you have a good relationship with her in game let see if it work out in real life , those are two world apart .

    And the most important thing , even if it sound cheesy . believe in yourself you can do it !

    best of luck

    Yep sounds good. Best advice so far. We live in the same town 5 min apart by car but I get to go home for 10 days before returning to the military. Which is in 1 week =)

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    Quote Originally Posted by Ealyssa View Post
    Do NEVER tell her you love her... Kiss her if you think you may have a chance, but just be in front of her and saying "I love you" usually won't make thing easier.

    And are you even sure that it is love ? Or are you just over reacting because a girl may like you ? Try to maintain clear state of mind. Try to know her, flirt if you like her, but don't just be "love love love" (I know it's hard, I was that kind of guy too when younger).

    I still hope you the best for this first IRL meeting. And I don't know how do american in their 20s. But maybe aim a bit better than taco + mancave (don't sure i understand this word right ? Is it a basement ?) Don't you have a theatre nearby ? Something a bit better for a "first date" (would usually say go to a nice bar to have a drink and discuss, but with your 21 alcool law )
    I'm europeean but have no drivers lisence or car.

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    Quote Originally Posted by blancoo View Post
    stumbled on this in newest posts.

    "real love" and "we will soon meet IRL" do not mix well
    yup, until you've actually seen every tiny reaction of a person to you, felt them, smelled them etc. nope, no love until this. Only deep affection or subconscious wishful thinking.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Asphyxes View Post
    Yep sounds good. Best advice so far. We live in the same town 5 min apart by car but I get to go home for 10 days before returning to the military. Which is in 1 week =)
    Hang on...... You are a Military man, but women scare you?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Bluegirl91 View Post
    yup, until you've actually seen every tiny reaction of a person to you, felt them, smelled them etc. nope, no love until this. Only deep affection or subconscious wishful thinking.
    Kinky.

    I like kinky.



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    Quote Originally Posted by RICH8472 View Post
    Hang on...... You are a Military man, but women scare you?
    My thoughts exactly... He must be popular on nights out.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Manakin View Post
    The fact she's willing to meet up with you says something, however - she's young, and the parent scenario... eh tread carefully.
    ^

    I'm most concerned about this. Her parents are 100% okay with her going over to a complete strangers' house, who lives alone? I'm sorry but I'm 23 and my parents would STILL ground me for life for that.

    Also drop the love part. By all means tell her you're interested but don't throw out the love card yet, it's way too soon.

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    I'm sorry to tell you, but you aren't in love with this girl.

    And what you're planning is going to freak her the fuck out and destroy any chance you may have had with her. Do not tell her you 'love' her and do not offer her gifts.

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