These threads are always so one-sided.
You're putting "bad DPS that listens to everything you say" against "good DPS who wont listen to anything".
I find I encounter both of these types VERY rarely. I'm not saying they don't exist, but people in these threads always present this lop-sided scenario where we're supposed to excuse bad DPS because they "listen" - listening doesn't beat enrages, DPS does. You often need a handful of those high-DPS to kill the boss before 5 determination.
Most often I find it's bad DPS that wont listen (which is why they're bad DPS in the first place. If they gave a fuck or listened to advice, they'd already be doing good DPS. Indeed, the "bad DPS" are most often the ones afking with 23% activity and the ones on auto-pilot hitting the boss while they watch a movie on the other screen) and good DPS who already know what to do (so they don't need to be told).