Why am I back here, I don't even play these games anymore
The problem with the internet is parallel to its greatest achievement: it has given the little man an outlet where he can be heard. Most of the time however, the little man is a little man because he is not worth hearing.
You're having problems a few weeks in? Shit the only problem my wife and I had in the first year we were dating was that she lived 30 mins away. 19 year olds who want babies are just underachieving trash who couldn't get that shit done before they turned 18. Run man, run fast.
Talk to her about it, not talking to her about it will end badly. Tell her how you are feeling, and that you would happily give her a child but you want to be more financially stable. They are valid reasons and it gives you time for planning.
The only thing i can see is that she was craving for having children, she finally got a boyfriend and sees you as an oppertunity to get it.
I also think it's kind of strange for you that you can't see your life without her after 2 weeks, it says something about the both of you to be honest.
Either way don't give into it. Do you really wish a child a future with 2 teen parents that aren't financially stable?
They're not necessarily trash, I know a woman who had her first baby at nineteen and never had any troubles with that. Granted, she was already married by then to a husband a bit older than her. Because she knew her husband could easily support them, she decided to go to school after having children. Worked out perfectly - she had her at her most fertile and all her family still able to support her and got a good education.
In this case however, I agree. Talk some sense in to her, having baby fever doesn't mean you're ready. If she doesn't listen, run.
Funny how you need a license to drive a car but not for creating and caring for a human being.
Ask her to separate the biological appeal and the reality of a child. I suggest getting a vasectomy. If she gets pregnant, you will know it isn't yours, and lots of "unprotected" sex helps quell her hormonal nightmare. Ask her if roleplay will suffice until later in life.
A few weeks though... might just want to bail. This whole post of yours raises a ton of red flags.
Seriously, 2 weeks in?
Well, it IS basic biology. We are programmed to reproduce as much as possible.
Another point is that chasing after kids is exhausting. Its a lot tougher to do it when you are 40 than 20. The financial burden may be tougher when you are 20, but the physical toll on your own body is way tougher when you are older.
run.
when I was a teen I spent some days in a psychiatry (no I wasn't crazy my parents thought I was addicted to WoW... lovely days) and all the girls there (they were crazy)talked about how much they wanted to become mothers, they were 14 or 15.. what I'm tryin to say is that crazy women want babies for some reason
so run as fast as you can or talk to her and see if she's not really crazy
I went this route. It sounds nice but if she really is baby crazy? It's not going to make any difference. After shooting it down and stalling, she started digging through the internet. Looking for every bit and piece, no matter how delusional, on fertility and some such to build up her case that she needed to get pregnant now.
End result? Three boys and poverty, before she finally accepted, that I'm not going to get her pregnant anymore.
It doesn't matter how rational or reasonable you try to be. If she really is baby crazy? If she feels her biological clock ticking? If she really believes a baby is what will make her life complete? Well then it comes down to whether she matters enough to you. Because your relationship may very well not survive turning her down.
My recommendation, at that age, would be to end the relationship now. If she really is baby crazy? There may very well be a whole lot more crazy in her. Unhealthy kinds of crazy. For you, her, and whatever child might appear.
Sir Robin, the Not-Quite-So-Brave-As-Sir-Lancelot.
Who had nearly fought the Dragon of Angnor.
Who had almost stood up to the vicious Chicken of Bristol.
And who had personally wet himself, at the Battle of Badon Hill.
You're 19 - so she's presumably a similar age.
You've been together for a few weeks.
She's already banging on about how much she wants a baby.
Run.
Run far, run fast, don't look back.
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OP maybe I am way, WAY off base here, but did she say she specifically wanted to have kids with you? Or was it just she really wants to be a mom in general? I feel like the overreaction in this thread is reaching critical mass.
Get a grip man! It's CHEESE!