I hate feeling like this

[Rusken]

I'm the same age as OP and in my experiences it's 90% confidence 10% subtlety, my last 2 girlfriends I met while at work, they come in asking for help. I give them help and a little bit of flirting, with a nice smile and confident speech, girls will start to fall at your feet. All because they're sick of the guys who are way into them but shy and creepy about it.

A huge amount of that confidence comes once you've already had a relationship, but the foundation comes from just being comfortable with yourself, don't be so afraid of rejection, it happens to everyone and it just shows you it would never have worked with that person to begin with.

Get yourself out there, go to some bars, get a job, find an outdoor hobby. Anything to get you talking to people building your confidence.

That is if you want a decent relationship, if you just want meaningless sex then bar, drink, fat girl, done.

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I've actually felt like every guy I've been with i fell in love with them straight away but it's not how it is at all. I've had confident issues so when someone took an interest in me it felt good and i felt like i loved them for that. It's perfectly normal don't worry. You'll get a girl in the end! There's plenty of fish in the sea just waiting for you!

[Weep]

If you're in your twenties and still haven't kissed a girl there is something wrong. Either you look like the elephant man and want a supermodel girlfriend or you have absolutely no clue on how to deal with females.

This isn't the site to get advice from, but if you want some easy advice...treat every girl you meet like she's mildly attractive but not really worth your time. Sooner or later you'll be hips deep in slizz...granted they won't be long term material but with your batting average you could use a walk to home.

[Sorrior]

Or buy a hooker, i'd go with a hooker OP.

And perhaps spank the monkey, then reevaluate your feelings.

Doesn;t help much..Trust me i;ve been there(still am in some ways) and sex alone isnl;t enough..Again catch 22 in the worst of ways.

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20 yearsold, never kissed a girl or been in a relationship. Hitting on every girl in the same general area where you know they talk.

This has got to be a troll. I could walk up to a girl I dont know and spit some line about never having kissed a girl and pretty much have a pity kiss.

And it's like, you don't know girls in the same area would talk to one another? You'd be the man whore once 2-3 all said you were makin plays.

Something is off about this.

26 and was in the same boat..Not so simple man...

[MrHappy]

get an "escort" get laid you'll get over it

[Sorrior]

Whats with all the hate? wow

Desperate guy come with some questions to probably the biggest forum he knows hoping maybe someone has some insight or something to say, and people just hate on him?

I know its not the best option to come and post here, but just being hostile against the guy is not going to benefit anyone.

This sort of reaction is WHY we have some problems too when delayed in these areas...We get ALOT of hate...And i mean ALOT...

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He's never kissed someone, he's not going to be able to either: get it up or last, and that's the kind of thing people talk about.



Again it matters, he's 20, probably at uni, hits up a uni bar, he's going to want a good reputation.

Yeah....The get it up bit is REALLY bad...(yes i;ve been and am there off and on) so is doesn;t last...

People don't understand how much NOT having some when younger can REALLY mess with you..Partly because society expects people to have by a certain point and not a good thing...

Essentially it becomes a catch 22 and more problematic as you get older..The anxiety of it all gets worse and worse making it harder and harder the older you get because you KNOW the older you get the more experience any woman/man will have that you lack....And it can start to eat away at you..

Also why hookers are NOT the answer...

Again people try and gain some understanding...

[Altimus]

Don't worry too much about it. I was in a similar position when I was 20. Now 10 years later I have a wife, my own house and car, a 1 year old little boy, and a 2nd one on the way. Just live life and have fun, and things will go well.

[Morally Grey Storm]

You could say, 'Hey,' 'What's your name?' 'Would you like something to drink?' 'What sounds will you make when my cock destroys your pusssieeeeee?

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Dont have relationship, if you already have a job focus on your carrier and get a hooker sometimes. A good hooker will give you all the comfort and talk you need. Just don't fall in love with her ofc

Doesn;t help much..Trust me i;ve been there(still am in some ways) and sex alone isnl;t enough..Again catch 22 in the worst of ways.

What the Alaska pricing if I may ask?

[wolphe]

Buy the WoD collectors edition for me.

To late, this is a new day, and people THIS day, are smarter then people yesterday! :P

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If you're in your twenties and still haven't kissed a girl there is something wrong. Either you look like the elephant man and want a supermodel girlfriend or you have absolutely no clue on how to deal with females.

This isn't the site to get advice from, but if you want some easy advice...treat every girl you meet like she's mildly attractive but not really worth your time. Sooner or later you'll be hips deep in slizz...granted they won't be long term material but with your batting average you could use a walk to home.

xD

...the elephant man... lol

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Get on craiglist and feed yourself to some cougars, should sort you out right if you think that your situation is wrong, it might just be that you're just not ready yet and you thinking with your head not your dick.

[Sorrior]

Dont have relationship, if you already have a job focus on your carrier and get a hooker sometimes. A good hooker will give you all the comfort and talk you need. Just don't fall in love with her ofc



What the Alaska pricing if I may ask?

Dunno never looked...And honestly not my style...

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Get on craiglist and feed yourself to some cougars, should sort you out right if you think that your situation is wrong, it might just be that you're just not ready yet and you thinking with your head not your dick.

Whenever I think with my dick I wind up hating myself..

Even the advice he's getting here shows if anything WHY he has these issues...

Your guys answer for EVERYTHING is a fucking quickie...Maybe he wants more then that..

I right now WISH I could do one night stands but I can't they drive me fucking nuts...I dunno why they just do.

Not all men are built for pounding everything in sight...Actualllly I've kniwn more women who think like that then men...

[Aerodactyl]

people these days are too obsessed with 'getting some'. society has gotten too focused on comoditizing these things.

It's only the reason for our existence, totally not a big deal...

[Digglett]

It's only the reason for our existence, totally not a big deal...

I feel sad for people who think this way.

[Binary Speaker]

1. Get a shirt.

I don't know why but I found that way to funny.
OT: Just be yourself. Seriously stop with the "ohh I'm sooo sad and lonely" If you're not happy with YOU why should someone else be?

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Kissing a girl is very easy, getting laid... yeap, getting laid is also easy. The thing is what kind of girl do you want to have any kind of relationship. In my experience, the avarage girl dont cares THAT much about boddy (usually men care more) so talking to them like people and not like if they were garbage use to work. Like we say here in Spain: "Torres más altas han caido" wich basically means that there is a possibility for every man to date the most gorgerus woman you can imagine and end up in a relationship. I´m not an expert on this matter but I have seen many times a lot of guys that are fat and really ugly that are just confident and secure of themselfs and usually(not that often if you really are that ugly, things been said) get and end up with a really nice girlfriend. I know dudes that you just want to clap when you se them with their girlfriends.

I think that people that don´t have girlfriends, get laid or even get a kiss is beause they dont want to. I understand you, it´s easy to whine and sit on the computer but in life you just have to grow a pair and go for it. There is not another way.