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  1. #401
    Quote Originally Posted by Bats View Post
    It's funny how many people think it's okay for him to have sex with a person in a relationship (WITH TWO KIDS) knowingly.

    Of course it's that woman's choice to cheat and at the end of the day she's the person mainly responsible for the act, but come on... have some decency. Don't be so selfish doing it just because you're a horny 21 year old. That's not your only option.

    Also think about this, if one day you have kids with your girlfriend and someone had sex with her knowing about your relationship and children, how would that feel?
    The one in the relationship is the one at fault if they cheat on their partner. Not the one they cheat on their partner with.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mooneye View Post
    The one in the relationship is the one at fault if they cheat on their partner. Not the one they cheat on their partner with.
    If the one he/she is cheating with actually knows about it, you can't deny their shared responsibility. He/she is knowingly hurting the partner of the other person involved.

  3. #403
    Hit and split. You clearly need to bang her to get it out your system. And just because there is a goal keeper doesn't mean you can't score a goal. Remember that there is nothing wrong with this, MILF is a mainstream genre of porn. It's all good baby. Just don't go beyond that. You don't need 2 kids knocking about when you are 21. Kids are the worst STD you can catch. Also remember that doing this bestows upon you the nickname 'The Silver Surfer' for the rest of your life.

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    Quote Originally Posted by miffy23 View Post
    If the one he/she is cheating with actually knows about it, you can't deny their shared responsibility. He/she is knowingly hurting the partner of the other person involved.
    They have no obligation to respect that the other one is in a relationship. The anger and blame should be directed at the one who willingly cheats on their partner, not the one who they do it with as they're not betraying someones trust in the first place.

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    Your thing is probably just platonic and she does not care about you at all.

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    Do you know if she's interested in having sex with you or are you just assuming she is?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mooneye View Post
    The one in the relationship is the one at fault if they cheat on their partner. Not the one they cheat on their partner with.
    No, if the OP didn't know that she is in a relationship I would say that she is the only one at fault but since he knowingly wants to have sex with her I would say they are both at fault.
    I think he is more at fault because from what I see he is the one pushing her to have sex

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    indeed you CAN have a relationship with said MILF but it's not that wise since she is already engaged and with kids..

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    Quote Originally Posted by Nixx View Post
    But I'm doing just fine.



    That's a failure of the parent who put themself before the children. We don't even know how old said children are.
    People make mistakes though.

    Suppose you found a child in the street that had wandered off from it's parent into the middle of a road and was crying, lost and confused, and you have the option to either rescue the child from the middle of the road, find it's parent and return it, or you can just leave it there and maybe something bad will happen to it.

    I think most people would rescue the child. Yes, the parent should not have let their child wander off. But chances are it wasn't on purpose, and was just a mistake. Perhaps they had a lot on their mind and wern't thinking clearly. Either way, even though you don't HAVE to rescue the child, most people would, because it's not really very nice to let a child suffer because of their parent's mistake when you can avoid it. Maybe you would inform child protective services, but you wouldn't just leave it sat there in the road.

    Compare that to this situation, the woman if she is trying to get in his pants is making a mistake that will negatively affect at least her boyfriend, if not her children too. Sure, you can just let the mistake happen because you don't really HAVE to respect her family unit (/rescue her child) but it's not really nice to do so. It's not really okay to just allow her family to suffer for a mistake she made. Maybe you would inform the boyfriend if you were that way inclined (though that's pretty harsh, and given that there's no indication that she actually wants to sleep with him, pretty stupid and needless) but you wouldn't just leave the child in the road because it harms the child, just like you shouldn't just do this because it harms the family.

    It's not like it's your fault if she cheats, or your fault if her kid is in the middle of the road, but it might just be nice to not do it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Zorgen View Post
    Do you know if she's interested in having sex with you or are you just assuming she is?
    I think he wants to seduce her....

  11. #411
    Quote Originally Posted by Mooneye View Post
    The one in the relationship is the one at fault if they cheat on their partner. Not the one they cheat on their partner with.
    There are a couple states, i forget which, that allow the partner who was cheated on, sue the person who their partner cheated with for breaking up the relationship.

    Anyways, girls talking about her boobs to you, she's asking if you're interested.

    Why in any ones mind would anyone think that a woman having 2 kids means "NO SEX WITH HER EVER!"? That's just pure stupidity.

    If people are thinking "she's 42 has 2 kids and a boyfriend, don't be a home wrecker", aren't thinking that she's 42 has 2 kids and a boyfriend. I'm just going to assume that her boyfriend already wrecked the home that she had with her husband with whom she had two kids with. I can assume that because everyone else in this thread is assuming that her 2 kids are from her boyfriend. Point is here is that we don't know, but i'm sure the OP knows.

    I say hit it before she gives up, as others have said maybe she'll teach you a thing or 40.

    Next time she starts talking about her boobs or something like that, just laugh with the joke and make a comment "oh ya, you should show them to me sometime", and see where it goes. She'll pick up on it and take you to town.

  12. #412
    Quote Originally Posted by ace777 View Post
    No, if the OP didn't know that she is in a relationship I would say that she is the only one at fault but since he knowingly wants to have sex with her I would say they are both at fault.
    I think he is more at fault because from what I see he is the one pushing her to have sex
    That's not really logical though. It's based on an emotional reaction to it, the part that have no obligation due to a relationship and is not betraying someones trust is in no way at fault, it's entirely on the one who betrays that trust.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Nixx View Post
    That's a failure of the parent who put themself before the children. We don't even know how old said children are.
    I posted earlier talking about the details and how it affects the outcome (on page 13 if you care).

    A failure is not necessarily contained to one person. The best defence to this is ignorance (which the OP has demonstrated via his priorities age > children). In the case of ignorance not being available it becomes a fairly destructive and self-centred act.

    This person refers to her as his 'best friend', he would willingly put a huge strain on her 'legitimate relationship', children and their own relationship at a chance for sex, purely because of his own insecurities (which I can empathise with to some degree).

    If one can foresee the damage done to another person and still continues without at least trying to mitigate the damage; I think we safely assume that's a failure in our current cultural climate. Completely irrespective of any other individual's failures involved.

    Not even going to touch the hypothetical realities involved with him 'seducing her' into a bad decision, etc.

    This is only a thing for me because the potential damage to children here is bigger than a lot of you seem to fathom. The damage to say an 'upset' boyfriend doesn't concern me as adults are usually much more resilient and less impressionable. Most the reactions emphasising the partner most likely stem from the whole 'territory' psyche.
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    Meet a normal girl. Not only did you meet this girl from an online game, she's also married, has two kids, and is substantially older than you. Hell, she's probably older than your mother.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ctd123 View Post
    Kids are the worst STD you can catch.
    spoken by someone who does not have kids, no doubt.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mooneye View Post
    They have no obligation to respect that the other one is in a relationship. The anger and blame should be directed at the one who willingly cheats on their partner, not the one who they do it with as they're not betraying someones trust in the first place.
    You clearly lack emphathy for a fellow human being, which makes me wonder what you would do if you were on the receiving end. If you don't care you might wanna get that checked by a psychiatrist.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mooneye View Post
    They have no obligation to respect that the other one is in a relationship. The anger and blame should be directed at the one who willingly cheats on their partner, not the one who they do it with as they're not betraying someones trust in the first place.
    What kind of obligation are we talking about? Certainly no legal one, but I feel there's a moral obligation.
    I personally wouldn't feel comfortable sleeping with a woman I know is in a relationship. If the relationship sucks, she can end it. If it doesn't, she's doing it for other reasons. Either way the guy on the other end is getting hurt, and I would never want to be that guy.

    Don't inflict something on others you wouldn't want inflicted on yourself, simple answer.

  18. #418
    Quote Originally Posted by Haidaes View Post
    You clearly lack emphathy for a fellow human being, makes you wonder what you would do if you were on the receiving end. If you don't care you might wanna get that checked by a psychiatrist.
    I'd be pissed at my partner. I've been cheated on, I didn't blame the one he was cheating on me with, she didn't betray my trust, he did.

  19. #419
    Quote Originally Posted by Mooneye View Post
    That's not really logical though. It's based on an emotional reaction to it, the part that have no obligation due to a relationship and is not betraying someones trust is in no way at fault, it's entirely on the one who betrays that trust.
    Exactly.

    How do you betray the trust of the other person in the relationship if that person does not know who you are?

    Unless it's a guy looking to take his best friends wife to bed, that's a whole different world then.

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    Quote Originally Posted by RapBreon View Post
    I posted earlier talking about the details and how it affects the outcome (on page 13 if you care).

    A failure is not necessarily contained to one person. The best defence to this is ignorance (which the OP has demonstrated via his priorities age > children). In the case of ignorance not being available it becomes a fairly destructive and self-centred act.

    This person refers to her as his 'best friend', he would willingly put a huge strain on her 'legitimate relationship', children and their own relationship at a chance for sex, purely because of his own insecurities (which I can empathise with to some degree).

    If one can foresee the damage done to another person and still stop nor care; I think we safely assume that's a failure in our current cultural climate. Completely irrespective of any other individual's failures involved.
    Genuine intent--intent that will be turned into action when an opportunity to do so presents itself--exists independent of whether or not it is ever actualized. It is not knowable until it is actualized. The genuine intent to cheat is the problem, because that means the relationship is basically over and the partner with genuine intent to cheat just doesn't care enough about the other partner to inform them of that. The cheating is just the means by which the unknowable becomes knowable. If genuine intent exists, whether cheating occurs or not, your relationship is a lie.

    Quote Originally Posted by Erin View Post
    It's not like it's your fault if she cheats, or your fault if her kid is in the middle of the road, but it might just be nice to not do it.
    I never said it wasn't.

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