"I'm an introvert." is code for "I'm self-involved and rude"

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He said he was depressed and agoraphobic which make him want to be alone. He's using extroversion as a crutch for his mental health issues. I don't think that's right.

I've always been more a quiet and reserved person, even before the development of my issues; What you can't seemingly accept is that perfectly healthy and normal people can prefer their own company over others.

[cadb]

I'm an introvert and I actually have great people skills. They are not mutually exclusive, you know.

[Tradu]

Because they feel people are draining their energy?


Or what?
This is why I feel introverts are rude. They think they're more intelligent than people. Get off your high horse, hun.

It's not that they "feel" people drain their energy, it's that being around people DOES drain their energy. That's not rude, that's just being different to what you consider "normal".
Maybe you're misunderstanding the way "drain" is used? Maybe a better way to put it is that introverts spend energy on being around people, and generate energy while alone/around few people, while extroverts are the other way around.

[Madness20]

introversion is not about wanting to be alone, that would be social anxiety. Despite introversion might be a cause of social anxiety they are still different things.
Being introvert is more about not wanting to expose one's feelings and thoughts, and have a analytic and introspective attitude towards his own actions, while being slightly afraid to expose the very own nature that some people might discriminate.

For instance, for some periods of my life i was an introvert towards people of my own age but i'd be extrovert towards older people for example, and that came from the fear of being discriminated from my groups for being overly "sensitive" to their bullshit perception of how someone should be/act, and also because most of the themes of conversation weren't actually interesting for me.

[Self Inflicted Wounds]

Maybe you aren't good company then.

yeah... what if the OP iss just boring?

[PosPosPos]

Can you explain then? So far I've had more than 6 people claim that I'm clueless about the meaning of the word. Yet none of you have explained?

Are you sure you know what it is? lol

Yet another self-righteous and (not)all-knowing shinra1 thread.

You do know what is a dictionary, yes? As well as scholarly articles? Oh wait, judging by all your previous posts and threads, this doesn't seem to be the case, my bad.

[Shinra1]

introvert = gain happiness from being alone

extrovert = gain happiness from being around people

what you see as happiness isn't what they see as happiness and vice versa

And that's fine but why are introverts rude when in the company of people? Gaining happiness from within seems self-involved to me almost narcissitic. Don't get me wrong I'm sure everyone who is secure with themselves can be alone and happy. However that doesn't mean that they prefer being alone to socialising with people.

Introverts need to go out more and mix.

[Wildtree]

Can you explain then? So far I've had more than 6 people claim that I'm clueless about the meaning of the word. Yet none of you have explained?

Are you sure you know what it is? lol

I probably have a bunch of decades of life more under my belt than you. I think I know, yes.
Firstly, it's fair to ask and receive an answer. But the answer factually is, that there is no universal answer.
Introversion is a term, under which you cannot just stick everyone you seem fit. That does not work. Introverts come in a wide range of levels. Hell, I know people that have been introverted and were still what is referred to as a social butterfly.
And that might be, why no one gives you an answer. Because there is no absolute figure.
Introversion <---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------> Extroversion
And along that line between the two are all shades of individual nuances.

[Highangel]

An introvert can be very socially active, enjoy the company of other people, just as extroverts. I'm not expert but i don't think you choose to be one or the other.

I think it's a huge misunderstanding labelling people because they appear to be introvert, you can be an asshole either way.

[rayvio]

just like every other issue to ever exist or have existed there will always be those who genuinely have the condition, those who mistakenly believe themselves to have it and those who pretend to have it as a means of gaining attention or as an excuse for something

[Deleted]

Because they feel people are draining their energy?


Or what?
This is why I feel introverts are rude. They think they're more intelligent than people. Get off your high horse, hun.

Why would that be rude? If being around people genuinely drains your energy and nerves (like it does for me - regardless of whether I like the people or not), wouldn't it be rude on part of the extrovert to demand constant social interaction?

I'm neither socially inept nor arrogant, I simply find it exhausting to be around people for long amounts of time. I don't get much out of the usual social stuff like sitting in bars and getting drunk or playing board games. Do you think that doing what you like best and avoiding the things you don't get enjoyment out is self-centered? I can only take so much social interaction before I get miserable and just want to bail

[Chelly]

And that's fine but why are introverts rude when in the company of people? Gaining happiness from within seems self-involved to me almost narcissitic. Don't get me wrong I'm sure everyone who is secure with themselves can be alone and happy. However that doesn't mean that they prefer being alone to socialising with people.

Introverts need to go out more and mix.

And again this has nothing to do with introversion. The people being rude are just that - rude people.

[Shinra1]

It's not that they "feel" people drain their energy, it's that being around people DOES drain their energy. That's not rude, that's just being different to what you consider "normal".
Maybe you're misunderstanding the way "drain" is used? Maybe a better way to put it is that introverts spend energy on being around people, and generate energy while alone/around few people, while extroverts are the other way around.

Are you joking?
That's exactly what I meant with being rude and too far up their own rectums.... Anyone who believes that even good social settings are draining need to get a reality check.

[PosPosPos]

However, if we followed your train of thought extroverts would be loud assholes who keep forcing you into situations you don't want.

Sounds exactly like the OP. It's no wonder he came up with this thread to begin with.

[Deleted]

Are you joking?
That's exactly what I meant with being rude and too far up their own rectums.... Anyone who believes that even good social settings are draining need to get a reality check.

At this point it's like you're not even trying.

[Chelly]

At this point it's like you're not even trying.

It's almost cute at this point.

[Sunseeker]

I find most people who claim to be introverted to be using it as some sort of badge of honor. It's annoying.

There are plenty of nice introverted people out there who don't need to wave their flag.

[Deleted]

And that's fine but why are introverts rude when in the company of people? Gaining happiness from within seems self-involved to me almost narcissitic. Don't get me wrong I'm sure everyone who is secure with themselves can be alone and happy. However that doesn't mean that they prefer being alone to socialising with people.

Introverts need to go out more and mix.

And that's fine but why are introverts rude when in the company of people?

In what way?

If you're basing your views of introverts on anecdotal views, you'll have a bad time.

Most introverts are more reserved in group discussions and whatnot, but also contribute valuable ideas and thoughts to whatever is being discussed; They simply don't feel the need to shout people down.

Gaining happiness from within seems self-involved to me almost narcissitic.

Introversion is "the state of or tendency toward being wholly or predominantly concerned with and interested in one's own mental life".[4] Some popular writers have characterized introverts as people whose energy tends to expand through reflection and dwindle during interaction.[5] This is similar to Jung's view, although he focused on mental energy rather than physical energy. Few modern conceptions make this distinction.

The common modern perception is that introverts tend to be more reserved and less outspoken in groups. They often take pleasure in solitary activities such as reading, writing, using computers, hiking and fishing. The archetypal artist, writer, sculptor, engineer, composer and inventor are all highly introverted. An introvert is likely to enjoy time spent alone and find less reward in time spent with large groups of people, though he or she may enjoy interactions with close friends. Trust is usually an issue of significance: a virtue of utmost importance to introverts is choosing a worthy companion. They prefer to concentrate on a single activity at a time and like to observe situations before they participate, especially observed in developing children and adolescents.[6] They are more analytical before speaking.[7] Introverts are easily overwhelmed by too much stimulation from social gatherings and engagement, introversion having even been defined by some in terms of a preference for a quiet, more minimally stimulating external environment.[8]

Introversion is not the same thing as shyness but it is often mistaken as such by extroverts. Introverts prefer solitary to social activities, but do not fear social encounters like shy people do.[9]

Introverts need to go out more and mix.

Extroverts need to stop projecting, it reeks of demanding conformity and you must be XYZ.

[Gisen]

It's almost cute at this point.

Keyword being almost.

[Shinra1]

Why would that be rude? If being around people genuinely drains your energy and nerves (like it does for me - regardless of whether I like the people or not), wouldn't it be rude on part of the extrovert to demand constant social interaction?

I'm neither socially inept nor arrogant, I simply find it exhausting to be around people for long amounts of time. I don't get much out of the usual social stuff like sitting in bars and getting drunk or playing board games. Do you think that doing what you like best and avoiding the things you don't get enjoyment out is self-centered? I can only take so much social interaction before I get miserable and just want to bail

It's not that I find you urge to be left alone rude. However, it's the manner in which you go about it, is what I find rude. I.e. always bailing on friends/family.... Being too fixated on being alone that they don't really engage in conversations or group activities. They're just leeching.